What is wrong with having kids?? (59)
Well, for me it goes both ways.....I've gotten the same thing from women. So it's not exclusive to just women. I don't really know why though.
Or it could be my twisted sense of humor.........I'm not wearing any pants!!!
Or it could be my twisted sense of humor.........I'm not wearing any pants!!!
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j_goose: Well, for me it goes both ways.....I've gotten the same thing from women. So it's not exclusive to just women. I don't really know why though.
Or it could be my twisted sense of humor.........I'm not wearing any pants!!!
Or it could be my twisted sense of humor.........I'm not wearing any pants!!!
I just read another posting by you that said you werent wearing any pants, mind if I ask why you arent wearing any pants, or is that something I dont really want to know!! LOL!!
I guess maybe it is not men or women, but maybe just non-parents are scared maybe?? I dont know!!
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this is so funny
as we were discussing earlier tonight
that men often
well either party may
rush inappropriately
when there are children involved
funny
go around enuf times
it all gets turned inside out
i think most people of any age online have kids nowadays
but what we decided in that other thread is that either type
of person is really--
well,
we are better off without them
if they are that selfish
too far too one side or the other
(hurry or run away)
fekem
as we were discussing earlier tonight
that men often
well either party may
rush inappropriately
when there are children involved
funny
go around enuf times
it all gets turned inside out
i think most people of any age online have kids nowadays
but what we decided in that other thread is that either type
of person is really--
well,
we are better off without them
if they are that selfish
too far too one side or the other
(hurry or run away)
fekem
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It depends on what stage of life you are at... My daughter is 25, at this stage I am not interested in having any more children or in helping to raise any one elses children. I'm enjoying the freedom I have now after having been a parent and don't date men who are tied with children. Ten years ago i would have felt differnt...
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mindfful: this is so funny
as we were discussing earlier tonight
that men often
well either party may
rush inappropriately
when there are children involved
funny
go around enuf times
it all gets turned inside out
i think most people of any age online have kids nowadays
but what we decided in that other thread is that either type
of person is really--
well,
we are better off without them
if they are that selfish
too far too one side or the other
(hurry or run away)
fekem
as we were discussing earlier tonight
that men often
well either party may
rush inappropriately
when there are children involved
funny
go around enuf times
it all gets turned inside out
i think most people of any age online have kids nowadays
but what we decided in that other thread is that either type
of person is really--
well,
we are better off without them
if they are that selfish
too far too one side or the other
(hurry or run away)
fekem
Yep thats pretty much it!!
I know I wouldnt trade my kids for anything in the world, and I dont know how some people can be so shallow!! Kids are wonderful! Mine give my life meaning, they are my life! I couldnt imagine it without them! It just gets a little frusterating sometimes!! (sp?)
I would just like to meet a nice, honest, good looking:), man who loves kids, maybe even has kids of his own. If he already has kids, then maybe mine wont scare him off!! :)
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casie1600: I just read another posting by you that said you werent wearing any pants, mind if I ask why you arent wearing any pants, or is that something I dont really want to know!! LOL!!
I guess maybe it is not men or women, but maybe just non-parents are scared maybe?? I dont know!!
I guess maybe it is not men or women, but maybe just non-parents are scared maybe?? I dont know!!
don't mind me, that's my new catch phrase....I think the ladies will really dig it....
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jbibiza: It depends on what stage of life you are at... My daughter is 25, at this stage I am not interested in having any more children or in helping to raise any one elses children. I'm enjoying the freedom I have now after having been a parent and don't date men who are tied with children. Ten years ago i would have felt differnt...
See maybe that is it, maybe it is just the timing of their lives. Maybe they feel they are going to be tied down and it scares them?? I dont know...
I know one thing, I love kids! I always have, and always will. I am sure at some point I will get tired of raising them, but for now, I couldnt even imagine life without a few kids running around the house!! I have two of my own, and between two of my sisters I have three nephews and two neices, so kids are very common for my family!!
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<<<<digging it
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i don't agree that it depends on what stage of life you're at. in my opinion it's more about the way you see any relationship going. for example.......if someone has no ties and loves to travel a lot then getting involved with someone with kids would be seen as a drawback. someone who wants a partner to go pubbing/clubbing all the time wouldn't want someone with kids either. then there's the committment thing where people really don't want the responsibility of having kids depend upon them. the main thing is that if someone can't accept your kids as part of the package then they're not right for you. it's them who has the problem - not you.
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j_goose: don't mind me, that's my new catch phrase....I think the ladies will really dig it....
I dig it! I would love to not be wearing any pants!! Maybe we should all take off our pants!! LOL!! J/K!!
I dont wanna get anything started here, so it was just a joke, no we dont all need to take off our pants!! But feel free if you do want to!! Its a lot more comfy!!
LOL!!
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yeah but w/ no one in pants
it would really start to smell in here
it would really start to smell in here
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skwidwurd: i don't agree that it depends on what stage of life you're at. in my opinion it's more about the way you see any relationship going. for example.......if someone has no ties and loves to travel a lot then getting involved with someone with kids would be seen as a drawback. someone who wants a partner to go pubbing/clubbing all the time wouldn't want someone with kids either. then there's the committment thing where people really don't want the responsibility of having kids depend upon them. the main thing is that if someone can't accept your kids as part of the package then they're not right for you. it's them who has the problem - not you.
Very good points! Thanks! Its not that I would date someone like that, rather its trying to weed out the ones who dont want kids. I have two and would like to have one more eventually, but no time soon...
Its just a pain trying to find the ones who do love kids, or have kids of their own!
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That is a scary thought!! LOL!!
mindfful: yeah but w/ no one in pants
it would really start to smell in here
it would really start to smell in here
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maybe the guy just doesn't want to be involed with a woman with children. he has the freedom to just not be interested and walk away. just forgot the guy and move on, there r lots of guys who will willin to date a woman with kids.
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Ummm, there's nothing wrong with having kids. There's nothing wrong with not wanting them either. It's just a matter of what's important to you. If you have kids, they should always be most important. If a person you meet doesn't want kids you just have to keep looking. It might narrow the field a little, but just think of it as weeding out the ones that are wrong for you.
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Yeah, I just wish I could tell easier who does or does not want to be around kids!!
I gave up dating three years ago when I had my daughter, but now that I have decided to try again, it is, and I knew it would be, but it is a bit more difficult!! Maybe its just me!! :)
I gave up dating three years ago when I had my daughter, but now that I have decided to try again, it is, and I knew it would be, but it is a bit more difficult!! Maybe its just me!! :)
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skwidwurd: i don't agree that it depends on what stage of life you're at. in my opinion it's more about the way you see any relationship going. for example.......if someone has no ties and loves to travel a lot then getting involved with someone with kids would be seen as a drawback. someone who wants a partner to go pubbing/clubbing all the time wouldn't want someone with kids either. then there's the committment thing where people really don't want the responsibility of having kids depend upon them. the main thing is that if someone can't accept your kids as part of the package then they're not right for you. it's them who has the problem - not you.
Why do you have to say it's a problem? It's not a problem... it's a choice. You are still a young man, and I don't think you have raised a family yet? I had my daughter when I was 22 years old, I divorced my husband when I was 24, i spent 20 years by myself raising my daughter and giving her everything I could to insure she grew up to be an independent, competent, caring individual, and now at 48 years old I choose to enjoy some time for me, time when what I want counts for something. I really don't appreciate someone insinuating that I have a problem because I choose to have some time in my life to find out who I am and what I enjoy.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
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jbibiza: Why do you have to say it's a problem? It's not a problem... it's a choice. You are still a young man, and I don't think you have raised a family yet? I had my daughter when I was 22 years old, I divorced my husband when I was 24, i spent 20 years by myself raising my daughter and giving her everything I could to insure she grew up to be an independent, competent, caring individual, and now at 48 years old I choose to enjoy some time for me, time when what I want counts for something. I really don't appreciate someone insinuating that I have a problem because I choose to have some time in my life to find out who I am and what I enjoy.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
och don't go taking it to heart. just for your information though i have brought up a family. in fact, i've brought up 2 FAMILIES. i have 3 boys, the oldest of whom is about to turn 18 so plz don't go assuming that i have no family and don't have a clue what i'm talking about! as the the 'problem', even if you have spent so many years bringing up a family and if your points are valid and apply to you then it WOULD be a problem for you personally since you'd have other things which you'd prefer to be doing. this would be a problem for you in particular at that particular stage in your life. no one's implying you're a bad person because of this. i guess at some stage in life i wouldn't be so keen to get involved with a woman with kids either. that would be a problem for any potential relationship. wouldn't mean i was a bad person.
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jbibiza: Why do you have to say it's a problem? It's not a problem... it's a choice. You are still a young man, and I don't think you have raised a family yet? I had my daughter when I was 22 years old, I divorced my husband when I was 24, i spent 20 years by myself raising my daughter and giving her everything I could to insure she grew up to be an independent, competent, caring individual, and now at 48 years old I choose to enjoy some time for me, time when what I want counts for something. I really don't appreciate someone insinuating that I have a problem because I choose to have some time in my life to find out who I am and what I enjoy.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
Oh I dont think that was directed toward you at all. There is nothing at all wrong with wanting those few years to yourself to do what you want. I had my son when I was 15, so I know all about wanting to do things you cant do because of your children. I couldnt even complete high school because I chose to keep my son, but that didnt stop me from getting my GED and going to college once he started school. I agree that having kids can cause you to not get to do as many things as you would like, but things can be adjusted so that you can have fun and kids at the same time.
I dont think that you should have been included in what he was saying, I am sure he was trying to lift my spirits a bit, not to bring yourse down!
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Is it a fear of committment or maybe scared to share their personal time with the kids or what??
I would like to hear from some of you men why this is, as well as from women why they think it is!! I am sure these will be different responces!!
But I dont want any fighting at all over this subject, just a non heated discussion! I am just curious thats all!
Thanks in advance for any input!!