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I recently wrote a guy on here,was interested and told him so,without any mind games I just came out and told him,he says he is wary of people online/long distance relationships,after sort of kind of commending me for not beating around the bush and being honest he says he has lost faith in those kind of relationships and that if I lived around the corner it would be diff,now I see him here as I do all others teasing almost every female that comes on cs,I see this because I try to welcome all new commers,my question is this:1.If you are searching for honesty why throw away a chance for something that could be real? 2.Why do men say they are seeking honesty and then don't want it,confused on this maybe somebody can clear this up for me? Thank you for your time and opinion

I think sometimes we are too wary of the things that seem difficult or unlikely and brand them as impossible ..

while some other times we are ready to take chances easily as thats what we really desire ..

Usually, It depends on what we have been thro' in the past .... what is deemed as baggage .. ...definitely if one seriously seeks to find a partner .. one should keep open the possibilities as you never really know ......

But being fragile and human as we are ....... that would be a sort of generalisation , as many do not wish to take a chance that might lead to a heart break or sorrow again .

So guess its just personal...

"Why do men say they are seeking honesty and then don't want".

Why does this man say........ ?

Can't generalize.

You hit the nail on the head so to say with this one,the thing is is I have been on that end of the stick too,I fell for a guy in ireland,we commited to each other online and in real life with the intent of meeting,alas that didn't work out but I won't give up,baggage or no that is what has brought us to where we are and you can't get rid of the baggage that is part of what has made us who we are,taking a chance on somebody that is giving you honesty and you have things in common is an unusual commodity,I see it as his loss,mine too in a way because I did have interest actually he was the only one I did have interest in but we all survive,thank you so much Riya,you have good opinions

hello gp,maybe it is a personal thing with him as riya states,he does have 18-45 year old women as a welcomming stat on his profile,he deserves a young woman that will treat him exactly the way he wants ,thanks for you reply,

True Irishlass , sometimes some people are really nice but too far away ..

Jbibiza said it so well .. its investing a lot in to something which is very uncertain ...

Thanks JB,as usual you are straight to it,yes I did value his honesty,I don't however believe you should judge all relationships from the past,every book has a different story no matter if they look similar,and we all have baggage, where we lay it is also another story.I state I am willing to travel because I still firmly believe that I have no idea of where fate can lay it's hand,but too i also know some people are not like that,you being one of them,I too desire touch,I read your thread on that and agree but who is to say that one day we wouldn't have touched? no chance no hope,he on the other hand thought otherwise at one time and is willing to let a maybe miss right slip right through his fingers because of what happened in the past,or it is just a thank you but no thank you,that is what I believe now that I have had two cups of coffee and some good advice,thanks always,see you in the forums,Ramona