being single forever (59)

womble: Am on a 'Path' at the moment, and am having great fun!.........The journey's only just begun!

antcus: You answered your own question. I am not looking for any relationship. I am on the EU forums to contribute and to exchange ideas. It is exciting to contribute to such forums, and I believe that I have learnt a lot from various contributors.
Since it is no sin to publicly express my position, that of being in a relationship, so that no one would be misled that I am doing anything to induce any person to fall in love with me, I prefer to continue to contribute, to fill my spare time.

When I joined CS, I was 100% single, but then I met an old friend (not from CS forums or from the CS site) although there are atill a number of women who write to me, just as friends, or maybe hoping that should I break up my relationship, they would be on board the ship already.

Lionheart1211: That is fantastic! Wishyou best of luck

antcus: Hi Midnight, From the way you wrote your contribution it is difficult for me to understand what you actually wanted to say. Most of the replies you got made reference to you being visible or invisible. But if I understood right, you tried to make a point of being single. You said that being single really gives you the possibility of meeting the right man. If you were not single, this would exclude it. But you said, can you stay single forever in the hope of finding the right man in your single state. That is what I understood....... is that it?

Well, my comments are that being single does not mean staying alone. I am single, that is I am not married or engaged, but I am not alone. I have been in a relationship for over a year now, and find that this is the way which is most convenient to both. If we should quarrel, and decide to split, there are no divorce bills, no expensive engagement rings to be returned, no houses to be sold, nothing. In fact it is the purest of love, love for its own sake, not tied up with a piece of paper in some dark filing cabinet, which is the civil marriage contract.

Whether it is better to be single or be with somebody in a seroius relationship, is the 100,000 dollar question. The Italians have a saying that literally translated reads: better alone than with the wrong person!

I hope I have understood your contribution, purposely not commenting on your invisibility or otherwise, because, you have had comments from others about that!

Elley: BTW Smokey, I agree with you that most of the women round here are not of a predatory nature, certainly not the ones like your goodself and all the other lovely regular female contributors in these here forums. Maybe Anctus is referring to people who none of us here know.

smoky: I think you just blew yourself up Antcus! No-one wants a relationship with a person who keeps others simmering on the sidelines, just in case. Does your gf know you "play the game" on a singles site?... and have potential "first mates" waiting to board your ship? Sorry to burst your bubble old chap - but in common parlance you could be known by that fabulous acronym of DOM.

I do believe that Most of the women on CS are decent types looking for a decent man - they not the Predator types.

antcus: I am disgusted at what you understood in my reply Smoky.

I never said I was interested in any woman at all other than my girlfriend.
I said that there are many who write to me HOPING that IF I break up with my girlfriend, they would already be on board the ship.

Once again for correctness sake, I did not blow anything up. I am happy to be with my woman and happy to chat or exchange views on CS forums, and I let my girlfriend read my contributions too, so as to eliminate any such allusions and false accusations.

smoky: Sorry Antcus, it was just how I read it - and going by your past comments about this subject.... ie. that you are always seeking something better. The part highlighted in red is what I took to mean that you encourage this.

The part highlighted in green is nice to hear - that you share CS with your gf ..... like other couples here on CS.