What do you think... to harsh? (82)
i know experience first hand why you are so respected and admired here. You are a wise person.
and you are right about one thing:
if someone hasnt had kids yet, then he will either definately want them (so there is no future there) or even if he doesnt: He is not the right kind of person for me. kids are gods blessing to us, we should all have them if we can.
Thanks
and you are right about one thing:
if someone hasnt had kids yet, then he will either definately want them (so there is no future there) or even if he doesnt: He is not the right kind of person for me. kids are gods blessing to us, we should all have them if we can.
Thanks
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Freeya: i know experience first hand why you are so respected and admired here. You are a wise person.
and you are right about one thing:
if someone hasnt had kids yet, then he will either definately want them (so there is no future there) or even if he doesnt: He is not the right kind of person for me. kids are gods blessing to us, we should all have them if we can.
Thanks
and you are right about one thing:
if someone hasnt had kids yet, then he will either definately want them (so there is no future there) or even if he doesnt: He is not the right kind of person for me. kids are gods blessing to us, we should all have them if we can.
Thanks
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I hve received messages from supposably 20 something men.They usually 1 way or another give the message it is a scammer.A few may have been real.I think your answer was honest and direct,yet politite.I reply something like,I am not interested in meeting a partner your agebut can be freinds.No reply,and interesting almost all want to go off sight right then.
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lusciousmile: I'm scribbling down little notes.
Keep going.
Keep going.
i just checked you out again to discover to my plesure that you "definately" want kids...
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
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Freeya: i just checked you out again to discover to my plesure that you "definately" want kids...
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
Some people like myself already have them and don't want to start over from scratch again...my kids are 16 so...No...I don't want anymore...I could never go back to the diaper changing and middle of the night feeding stage...
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Some people like myself already have them and don't want to start over from scratch again...my kids are 16 so...No...I don't want anymore...I could never go back to the diaper changing and middle of the night feeding stage...
i apologise to the missunderstanding: this post was a continuing from my previous post where i was saying that someone must either HAVE kids, or WANT kids...
It was on a discussion about why i wouldnt go for the "more than 10 years" gap thing, because i want a family
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Some people like myself already have them and don't want to start over from scratch again...my kids are 16 so...No...I don't want anymore...I could never go back to the diaper changing and middle of the night feeding stage...
correctomondo but if the man I choose has a child that required needs like that then it is a whole different matter, I just don't want to start over as in "carrying" a child.
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Freeya: i apologise to the missunderstanding: this post was a continuing from my previous post where i was saying that someone must either HAVE kids, or WANT kids...
It was on a discussion about why i wouldnt go for the "more than 10 years" gap thing, because i want a family
It was on a discussion about why i wouldnt go for the "more than 10 years" gap thing, because i want a family
I was just explaining women's position that already have kids...BUT yes I agree...you can't have a relationship with someone who doesnt want kids or want anymore if you want your own family...It would be something that would come between the 2 for and cause the destruction of the relationship eventually!!!!!!!!!
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Freeya: i just checked you out again to discover to my plesure that you "definately" want kids...
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
That's the only reason i find it hard to date men who've already been there. I kinda feel there would be a division between his past and what he'd have with me. But not necessarily so.
I get scared of being with a man who thinks kids 'could' be considered someday. It has to be a 'definitely' with me.
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Freeya: i just checked you out again to discover to my plesure that you "definately" want kids...
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...
what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???
All ready having one and looking forward to grandkids in a few years...
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I was just explaining women's position that already have kids...BUT yes I agree...you can't have a relationship with someone who doesnt want kids or want anymore if you want your own family...It would be something that would come between the 2 for and cause the destruction of the relationship eventually!!!!!!!!!
and moreover, i was discussing about the people that decide not to have kids at all...
i cannot understand this
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Freeya: and moreover, i was discussing about the people that decide not to have kids at all...
i cannot understand this
i cannot understand this
I can't really answer this but chalk it up to people just being different...This is a fast paced world we live in and some people choose careers over having kids...Some people weren't raised by good parents and therefore are afraid they may turn out raising their kids the same way....Some women just don't have maternal instincts...and some people just plain don't like kids...BUT I would rather see these people not have kids than to have kids are either mistreated or feel unwanted!!!!!!!!
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Hugz_n_Kissez: HMMMMMMMMMM...Maybe he's just looking for an on-line mummy fantasy!!!!!!!!!....
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dcj22: And I think I can speak for Uli since she isn't here at the moment and say "thank you. we would be devastated to receive such a letter from you."
Thanks Dana! You spoke wise!
Let us at least hope,
even if it is in vain
Remind me someone
pleaseso I go off to bed an hour earlier
in order to weep
in anticipation of Ambroses
age-adjusted letter
of that kind
into
my pillow - tonight
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No not harsh...I just write I like my men very rich and nearly dead.
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Zarah: No not harsh...I just write I like my men very rich and nearly dead.
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not harsh...... but you have to take into account thier life experience. my ex. was 37 and I am 30. I have a 21 y/o daughter that thinks the world of me.
now my problem is that it is very hard to find someone around my age that has the same views and goals in life. I have been through so much in life that I seem to have very little in common with my age group
now my problem is that it is very hard to find someone around my age that has the same views and goals in life. I have been through so much in life that I seem to have very little in common with my age group
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Freeya: and moreover, i was discussing about the people that decide not to have kids at all...
i cannot understand this
i cannot understand this
In defence of the argument.....
There are some of us, like myself, who ata very early age, had other priorities then raising a family.
I come from a family background that is based on the getting married and having kids conept of fullfilment, so it wasn't easily understood that I did not intend to have kids.
I have always believed that one should only have kids when he/she can give the very best to them, and concentrate all thier efforts towards that goal. That was not the journey I wanted to embark on.
And I stood by that decision. I don'ty regret having made it, and till today, I still contend I do not want to have children.
We were a family of six children, very loved, and very well brought up. In all, I have 12 nephews and nieces. Having said that, I am also quite proud that for the lot of them, I am the favourite uncle.
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i just havent had that kind of experience yet so i couldnt relate. my approaches have been more friendly-oriented and generally nice.
btw, i love diving too
I can't imagine you approaching someone like that, you're first contact with me was here on the forums, we found out we have the bar business in common and now diving... that's a great start to creating a friendship and communicating with each other and your age has no bearing on that.
If we were to start conversing and then find we had a lot more in common and found we had an attraction that could be more then a friendship then again your age would be of no consequence because it would happen by genuine attraction and things we can relate to with each other. I have dated guys your age in the past few years and have had a lot of fun with them, but now that I'm ready to settle down the chances of that happening are very slim, simply because of what Dana said earlier... most younger men haven't had kids yet and still want to have a family and I'm not interested in that anymore.
So I guess the real problem with the guy that contacted me wasn't so much his age, but the fact that he was obviously a scammer, someone looking to get something from someone and I don't appreciate being contacted in that way.