What do you think... to harsh? (82)
Sparky55: I have a lot of young guy friends and adore them, and have had my share of younger lovers which can be great fun.... but this one was on about life partners, completing each others souls... yada, yada, yada...
Well, you don't look desperate and I don't know what wealthy looks like but if you ever get wealthy or desperate give me a call.
Seriously, your reply sounded fine to me.
Well, you don't look desperate and I don't know what wealthy looks like but if you ever get wealthy or desperate give me a call.
Seriously, your reply sounded fine to me.
I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!
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jbibiza: I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close.
Jbibiza
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close.
Jbibiza
I think you could have stopped here.
Clearly you were not in a good mood when you wrote this email. We all have bad days.
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hahah Some bloke messaged me the other day .. it said..
*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?*
hahahaha!
NO
*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?*
hahahaha!
NO
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Hello JB, no I don't think it was too harsh you hit the nail on the head when you told them that their youth did nothing for you HERE! HERE! I get them in the emails but mainly by im which I don't answer by the way, but I think you did right maybe some of these other youngsters will look at the age parameters and the older ones too.
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Claayer: hahah Some bloke messaged me the other day .. it said..
*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?* hahahaha! NO
*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?* hahahaha! NO
What woman pray tell is not opinionated? snap! hello!
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jbibiza: I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.
I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.
Regards,
Jbibiza
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.
I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.
Regards,
Jbibiza
Well.. at least you replied..
I'm rude enuff not to even bother.
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irishlass45: What woman pray tell is not opinionated? snap! hello!
hahaha
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jbibiza: I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.
I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.
Regards,
Jbibiza
So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.
Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.
I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.
Regards,
Jbibiza
If he like a woman that plays hard to get.. he will be back!!
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bajanblue: I think you could have stopped here.
Clearly you were not in a good mood when you wrote this email. We all have bad days.
Clearly you were not in a good mood when you wrote this email. We all have bad days.
I know what your saying bb, and I have to say I'm of two minds... My reaction did come from having a bad day and not feeling to well, but after I sent it I started thinking about it. Hence the post.
On the one hand, dumb kid, ignore it.
On the other hand I actually do find it quite insulting to be approached in this manner. To tell me that I look more like 28 or 30 not 48... oh come on, I wish that were true but it's not... I may look a couple of years younger then my age but not 20 years younger!!! I may be reasonably attractive, but I'm not a beauty by any means.
What I am is an intelligent woman and to be approached in this manner I find to be an insult to my intelligence.
I'll be over it by morning!
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Claayer: Well.. at least you replied..
I'm rude enuff not to even bother .
I'm rude enuff not to even bother .
This is the first time I've replied to something like this, and actually felt my reply was a lot more rude then just ignoring him. Can't believe someone thought of you as non opinionated!!!
Hi lass!
OMG Ras... say it ain't sooooo!!!
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I don't feel that that was too harsh, I'd have said the same things. I get offers from 22-26 year olds all the time and answer pretty much the same way. My daughter is 24 and I couldn't even think about dating someone close to her age or younger. It makes me sick just thinking about it. 
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lover65: I don't feel that that was too harsh, I'd have said the same things. I get offers from 22-26 year olds all the time and answer pretty much the same way. My daughter is 24 and I couldn't even think about dating someone close to her age or younger. It makes me sick just thinking about it.
Now, that was harsh!
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Perfect and I've written in a similar vein myself.
It took me a while to stop being so nice to these young guys but it's the only way they'll learn.
Direct but still polite.
It took me a while to stop being so nice to these young guys but it's the only way they'll learn.
Direct but still polite.
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jbibiza:
I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!
I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!
Awwww, you're sweet...
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lusciousmile: Now, that was harsh!
Hey Luscious,Nothing against young women, but think about it this way, You are 42 years old, and you have a 24 year old son. would you date his friends?
If I'm still around when you reach that age, you can let me know then
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jbibiza:
I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!
I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!
Yeah.... Sparky is a darling.... aren't ya, Spark??
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roseofsharon:
Yeah.... Sparky is a darling.... aren't ya, Spark??
Yeah.... Sparky is a darling.... aren't ya, Spark??
Sometimes
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jbibiza: I usually just ignore them as well, but I'm tired tonight, have a sore throat and working to many hours... he was just the icing on the cake and got torched for his trouble.
I'm sorry you're feeling badly, hun? Have you opened the restaurant yet?
No, I don't think it was too harsh. My profile says I'm just here for the forums but I still get emails from people. I often reply that if they'd bothered to read my profile they'd see that I wasn't interested.
I too have made some great friends with a couple of younger guys here. I'm very good friends with 2 of them. Though we don't have similar lifestyles or life experiences, I don't think it's necessary in the case of just friends, but you're right, with a life partner it makes a great deal of difference. For instance, what about children? I would like these young men to have that experience if they are so inclined, however, I will not be birthing their babies.
Feel better, sweetie, and don't sweat it.
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Well, you don't look desperate and I don't know what wealthy looks like but if you ever get wealthy or desperate give me a call.
Seriously, your reply sounded fine to me.