Forums and Finding the One .. (64)
riyablossom: Something like a Mills and Boons or Fairytale effect does the forums in anyway affect you in your quest to find the one for you ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
I wouldn't exactly say that the "fairy tale effect" washes over me when I enter the forums or even that I am taking part of a "Mills & Boon 
" saga.However, I do get the impression most of the men are awash with the lalaland
effect and it does suit them 
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Zellarrone1: I wouldn't exactly say that the "fairy tale effect" washes over me when I enter the forums or even that I am taking part of a "Mills & Boon " saga.
However, I do get the impression most of the men are awash with the lalaland effect and it does suit them
However, I do get the impression most of the men are awash with the lalaland effect and it does suit them
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riyablossom: Something like a Mills and Boons or Fairytale effect does the forums in anyway affect you in your quest to find the one for you ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
I can only speak for myself, but I know there was a time when I was naive not that long ago. I've been on this site for 2 years, and I've seen people come and go, relationships blossom and end, I've also seen them blossom and begin the fairytale and get married.
I don't have any expectations today of finding the love of my life and riding off into the sunset. I've met and/or spoken to a few guys that were all they seemed cracked up to be, but they just weren't for me. I've also been through the horror stories too.
I guess you could say I'm picky, but in all reality I'm not. The first thing that he needs to be is honest and genuine. Then he has to have the ability to be himself. If he can't be himself, then why would I want him in my life. (To thine own self be true). There are times to joke, there are times to be serious then there are times to be seriously funny.
I know that I have the ability to sympathize, empathize and be helpful in many situations today. Do I wear my heart on my sleeve? Sometimes, I don't hide from feelings these days. We've all had life happen and some of us just have had life happen more than others. It's what we choose to do about it that's the key. I don't choose to live in my past, nor do I choose to sit on a "pity pot" and do the "woe is me" routine. I get up, dust myself off and say "Ok what can I do different" or "wasn't that fun". Today I try not to repeat the same things and expect different results. That would be utter insanity. If it's wrong the first time, it's going to be wrong the 2nd, 3rd or how ever many more times I try to do it.
Finding a suitable partner...Who knows. I think my picker is broken. I do know that it's a combination of the heart, mind, body and soul being in total and complete agreement with one another. I thought I had found that once, but I was wrong. One part didn't agree and I'm still trying to figure out which one it was.
Life's too short to worry about things...Just live it and let things happen in their own time.
I'm done rambling now...Great topics tonight Riya! You and Lion are both on a roll.
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Evey time I come in to the forums, I have a better idea of what and who I don't want in my life.
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kidatheart: Evey time I come in to the forums, I have a better idea of what and who I don't want in my life.
Hi kid hope your ok 
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morganlee: Hi kid hope your ok
Hi Morgan
I'm good, just on my way to bed, finally.
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kidatheart: Hi Morgan
I'm good, just on my way to bed, finally.
sleep well I'm good, just on my way to bed, finally.
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Helloo Weeya I wouldn't say the forums effect me like that.. I have enuff problems of my own living in La La Land.. then forums don't do it for me.
Having a pretty vivid imagination.. being a big softy (reeeally) and having a humongous sense of romance.. it doesn't take me long to let my head run away with me. I can do it on my own without the influence of anything else. 
It's not a good habit.. and usually makes me look like a crazy woman. 
I wouldn't say the forums effect me like that.. I have enuff problems of my own living in La La Land.. then forums don't do it for me. Having a pretty vivid imagination.. being a big softy (reeeally) and having a humongous sense of romance.. it doesn't take me long to let my head run away with me.
I can do it on my own without the influence of anything else. It's not a good habit.. and usually makes me look like a crazy woman. ------ This thread is Archived ------
THE* 
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Claayer: THE *
You need to see someone about that.
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bodleing: You need to see someone about that.
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riyablossom: Something like a Mills and Boons or Fairytale effect does the forums in anyway affect you in your quest to find the one for you ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
Yeah absolutely I think the things we have been throo influence us. I know just for me.. all the things I went throo in my marriage.. I know exactly what I will and wont put up, and what I do and don't want within a relationship nowadays. It's also one of the reasons I don't 'date' ... I'm just not interested in wasting my time in going nowhere relationships. I also like to feel that I can be 100% ME.. and not feel like maybe I SHOULDN'T say/do that. I HATED feeling 'gagged' .. and unable to speak my mind.
If you didn't feel like you could completely be yourself with someone.. then what's the point? that's just living a lie.
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kidatheart: Evey time I come in to the forums, I have a better idea of what and who I don't want in my life.
hahaha there is that
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I find that with online dating sites that sometimes what you want to say gets lost in translation and you don't get a second chance, well sometimes not quick enough, especially when trying to get to know each other through emails. And you don't get to see the person or feel the energy between you so a lot may be lost that way. Or you may be disappointed when you actually do meet.
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I don't have any expectations today of finding the love of my life and riding off into the sunset. I've met and/or spoken to a few guys that were all they seemed cracked up to be, but they just weren't for me. I've also been through the horror stories too.
I guess you could say I'm picky, but in all reality I'm not. The first thing that he needs to be is honest and genuine. Then he has to have the ability to be himself. If he can't be himself, then why would I want him in my life. (To thine own self be true). There are times to joke, there are times to be serious then there are times to be seriously funny.
I think if when we are going to find someone it is when we are least going to expect it. And a guy can be the nicest thing in the world but it doesnt mean that he is right for you. May be it's his laugh or maybe it's the way he answers. or maybe he trys to put everything he says into poetry. the pont is if there is something he does that just can get on your nerves he is not right for you.
Wanting to find the one that well rings the bell is being picky it is being smart and wanting to have a relationship that will work.
The Forums I found is works to see a true side of a person or atleas most of them. I find to read profiles most anyway are like carbon coppies I am honest I am a romantic at heart bla bla bla you get the picture. If they were truely honest then they should say more of what they really are and want out of life, and stop trying to say what the other side wants.
In the forum though with most you see what there really like.
I guess you could say I'm picky, but in all reality I'm not. The first thing that he needs to be is honest and genuine. Then he has to have the ability to be himself. If he can't be himself, then why would I want him in my life. (To thine own self be true). There are times to joke, there are times to be serious then there are times to be seriously funny.
I think if when we are going to find someone it is when we are least going to expect it. And a guy can be the nicest thing in the world but it doesnt mean that he is right for you. May be it's his laugh or maybe it's the way he answers. or maybe he trys to put everything he says into poetry. the pont is if there is something he does that just can get on your nerves he is not right for you.
Wanting to find the one that well rings the bell is being picky it is being smart and wanting to have a relationship that will work.
The Forums I found is works to see a true side of a person or atleas most of them. I find to read profiles most anyway are like carbon coppies I am honest I am a romantic at heart bla bla bla you get the picture. If they were truely honest then they should say more of what they really are and want out of life, and stop trying to say what the other side wants.
In the forum though with most you see what there really like.
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riyablossom: Something like a Mills and Boons or Fairytale effect does the forums in anyway affect you in your quest to find the one for you ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?
When I tell myself I need someone then I am destined to feel sad when I think about 'not having someone'. Inevitable. So I don't tell myself that. What I do tell myself is that it's amazing to be here with you, whatever comes, comes, whatever goes, goes.
A wild damaging thunder storm no more affects my desire to live life, than would 'weird' people affect my desire to experience others. Personaly I prefer intuitive action because there are more than just roses in life.
Its not easy, but getting away from being self centered (how does this affect me?) and trying to be 'spiritually centered' (I am the observer and creator of my life) helps so that I am not constantly rethinking what was.
Yep this is new for me.
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BnaturAl: When I tell myself I need someone then I am destined to feel sad when I think about 'not having someone'. Inevitable. So I don't tell myself that. What I do tell myself is that it's amazing to be here with you, whatever comes, comes, whatever goes, goes.
A wild damaging thunder storm no more affects my desire to live life, than would 'weird' people affect my desire to experience others. Personaly I prefer intuitive action because there are more than just roses in life.
Its not easy, but getting away from being self centered (how does this affect me?) and trying to be 'spiritually centered' (I am the observer and creator of my life) helps so that I am not constantly rethinking what was.
Yep this is new for me.
A wild damaging thunder storm no more affects my desire to live life, than would 'weird' people affect my desire to experience others. Personaly I prefer intuitive action because there are more than just roses in life.
Its not easy, but getting away from being self centered (how does this affect me?) and trying to be 'spiritually centered' (I am the observer and creator of my life) helps so that I am not constantly rethinking what was.
Yep this is new for me.
I think that if we look at it as we do not need someone in our life we live a better life anyway. You can want to find someone to share in your life but we dont need them there.
If you need someone it will wreck the relationship no doubt, to need one is to be needy. and no wants to be needed we want to be wanted! Getting off track here. If you are not living your life needing someone in it,, then your not very selfreliant and it doesn't do a lot for your personallity or your self asteam.
It's ok to want just we really dont need it. All of here want to find someone But we don't need to we have already survived with out it.
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All of us are gullible and naive at times and defensive and biased at times. We are prone to wondering and pondering on what we read or hear.
The opinions shared , discussions, thinking and rethinking, what do we look for in a man , the sob stories , failures , stories of cheating ... have they influenced you or your thoughts in any way wrt. finding a date or a suitable partner ?
If yes, how ?