Why do men not want to get married any more? (347)
gtbulldog2Towson, Maryland USA10 Threads 2,828 PostsAries01: I find this question rather depressing to be honest ...cause I would love to get married one day.. but the way things are nowadays I haven't a hope, cause nobody seems to believe in it anymore.. while the original intention of Divorce was to release people from the shackles of an unhappy/destructive marriage.. nowadays it seems to have undermined the institution altogether
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Aries01: I find this question rather depressing to be honest ...cause I would love to get married one day.. but the way things are nowadays I haven't a hope, cause nobody seems to believe in it anymore.. while the original intention of Divorce was to release people from the shackles of an unhappy/destructive marriage.. nowadays it seems to have undermined the institution altogether
Only on Cs, girl, meet your man and marry him.
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Aries01: I find this question rather depressing to be honest ...cause I would love to get married one day.. but the way things are nowadays I haven't a hope, cause nobody seems to believe in it anymore.. while the original intention of Divorce was to release people from the shackles of an unhappy/destructive marriage.. nowadays it seems to have undermined the institution altogether
oh you will be happilly married
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I believe in marrying, but it will take alot of trust in someone after you've been burnt. Why should I have to give up my things I worked for for someone who doesn't care enough to tell you they wants a divorce and has already been seeing someone for 3 months behind your back when you are at work?
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hey... i guess we have become cynical towards marriage.. I think there is so many marriages losing their way so easily, it hard to have faith in the instution off it all. I have great admiration for the people that make it work..... 
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tufty: LOL
Just basing it on the bribe my mate at work is using on his girlfriend, the 42 inch LCD simply has to arrive as a wedding gift
Just basing it on the bribe my mate at work is using on his girlfriend, the 42 inch LCD simply has to arrive as a wedding gift
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Aries01: I find this question rather depressing to be honest ...cause I would love to get married one day.. but the way things are nowadays I haven't a hope, cause nobody seems to believe in it anymore.. while the original intention of Divorce was to release people from the shackles of an unhappy/destructive marriage.. nowadays it seems to have undermined the institution altogether
Honestly, Aries, I've been surprised to find so many men on CS that do want to get married.
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bikki: hey... i guess we have become cynical towards marriage.. I think there is so many marriages losing their way so easily, it hard to have faith in the instution off it all. I have great admiration for the people that make it work.....
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dcj22: Honestly, Aries, I've been surprised to find so many men on CS that do want to get married.
Let's get to the essense of the conversation.
I'm not afraid to ask because I have the balls and many don't!!
Why are rings and a piece of paper so important?
Do you think these items make the relationship stonger?
Is it just someone wanting someone to admit their love in front of others?
Is the tax breaks?
Is it the symbology?
I believe that if two people are in love and committed, nothing else is needed!
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dcj22: Honestly, Aries, I've been surprised to find so many men on CS that do want to get married.
Well I hope so.. I hope their are guys left who believe in it...cause it can be reeeaaally good.. but then people don't talk about the good stuff nearly as much as they talk about the dismal stuff...
Well I live in hope
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Thank Lusc and Christina 
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Wish the right man would come along for me,I want to be married.I could have been before but was happy as it was,if he had been the 1 for marriage I'd be so happy.Marriage is work.Any happily married couple will tell you that.You work on it everyday and it will last.I think last 3 generations have been more me,I myself.Many are working long late hours,men and women.Seems many people just want to get ahead and marriage or courting before is something they don't have time for.I want to be married in big part cause of my Christian beleifs,but like I said,it has to be right man,there was once.
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reelman90: Let's get to the essense of the conversation.
I'm not afraid to ask because I have the balls and many don't!!
Why are rings and a piece of paper so important?
Do you think these items make the relationship stonger?
Is it just someone wanting someone to admit their love in front of others?
Is the tax breaks?
Is it the symbology?
I believe that if two people are in love and committed, nothing else is needed!
I'm not afraid to ask because I have the balls and many don't!!
Why are rings and a piece of paper so important?
Do you think these items make the relationship stonger?
Is it just someone wanting someone to admit their love in front of others?
Is the tax breaks?
Is it the symbology?
I believe that if two people are in love and committed, nothing else is needed!
Having lived with my wife for 7 years without being married I can answer that question.....she sat next to me one day on the couch looked me in the eye and said she wanted to be Mrs Ward....i asked her why...It was the security that marriage gave her. She needed that.....it was a good enough answer for me....I married her the following week........I didn't need marriage to be secure...however she did. I have to tell you after living together for 7 years the day we were married felt good...It was a promise to God that we made. You have to be willing to risk to reap the reward
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jvan617: Having lived with my wife for 7 years without being married I can answer that question.....she sat next to me one day on the couch looked me in the eye and said she wanted to be Mrs Ward....i asked her why...It was the security that marriage gave her. She needed that.....it was a good enough answer for me....I married her the following week........I didn't need marriage to be secure...however she did. I have to tell you after living together for 7 years the day we were married felt good...It was a promise to God that we made. You have to be willing to risk to reap the reward
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jvan617: Having lived with my wife for 7 years without being married I can answer that question.....she sat next to me one day on the couch looked me in the eye and said she wanted to be Mrs Ward....i asked her why...It was the security that marriage gave her. She needed that.....it was a good enough answer for me....I married her the following week........I didn't need marriage to be secure...however she did. I have to tell you after living together for 7 years the day we were married felt good...It was a promise to God that we made. You have to be willing to risk to reap the reward
I agree with this. To me it feels more binding. It literally FEELS different to me. There are different reasons for differernt people, Brian, but the act of committing - formally - taking an oath, to me it just says that you are ready and willing to make it permanent. It isn't as easy to walk away from. I've been in both situations, and can tell you that it was much harder to walk away from that marriage - with nothing holding me there anymore, than it was to walk away from Emily's father when we were living together. I did not feel as committed to him as I did to my husband.
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jvan617: Having lived with my wife for 7 years without being married I can answer that question.....she sat next to me one day on the couch looked me in the eye and said she wanted to be Mrs Ward....i asked her why...It was the security that marriage gave her. She needed that.....it was a good enough answer for me....I married her the following week........I didn't need marriage to be secure...however she did. I have to tell you after living together for 7 years the day we were married felt good...It was a promise to God that we made. You have to be willing to risk to reap the reward
Not trying to pry too much here and please don't be upset.......I'm just interested in learning and see what makes people tick......
I decipher from your reply that you are no longer married to that person......correct?
If the above assumption is correct, where is the security now?
I think the promise should have been made to her and not God!
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theshlobs: Come on ladies - how refreshing is it when you meet a man who "doesn't beleive in marriage"? My four closest girlfriends - all with men who hands down will not be dragged up the aisle, but yet are happy to be having babies with them - because thats more of a commitment than a ring!
So my questions is - if you don't beleive in marriage, but your partner clearly does (what little girl doesn't dream of getting married) then wouldn't you do it just to keep them happy? Aftter all - its not an issue!
Dress, cake, party and holiday - what four reasons do you need!
(And maybe with CS being such a bunch of hopeless romantics this is maybe not the right forum to bring this up in...)
So my questions is - if you don't beleive in marriage, but your partner clearly does (what little girl doesn't dream of getting married) then wouldn't you do it just to keep them happy? Aftter all - its not an issue!
Dress, cake, party and holiday - what four reasons do you need!
(And maybe with CS being such a bunch of hopeless romantics this is maybe not the right forum to bring this up in...)
You have asked the opinions of the ladies, what about the opinions of us senile old men? Can you handle the truth?
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reelman90: "I see a new thread coming" (rubbing crystal ball)
"Balls" are steel, not crystal..... ( brains on the other hand)........
Has it been mentioned, I am 2 fries short of a Happy Meal??
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