Why do men not want to get married any more? ( Archived) (347)

I eat all my veggies, I love them.

I avoid liver at all costs.

No, if I put on 5kg, it will be because I want to, not because you want me to.

exactly thank you.

I have huge respect for that unstoppable, irrisistable energy called motherhood...I have seen enough single moms to admire and be amazed at the incredible commitment and focus, that total dedication to the kids....ya gotto be impressed with that....you don't see that kind of intensity with men (often)...sometimes I think the future of society partly lies in the hands of single women, battling to make ends meet, and getting the kids to soccer practice on time....

After last night, I avoid liver at all costs too....sheesh, that WAS a thread...!!

You know, the Ice Princess may well just give you a nod for that.

It was yes.

Thank you

Oh goody....let me know when she's made up her mind about it....

I asked her, she is delivering it by proxy.

(Nods)

If my partner didn’t want to marry me I would never have children with him.

It’s not because of romance. But the truth is that legally there’s no better way to insure one another in case of death, divorce or other bad situations.

If a guy with children dies and he’s not married to the mom, then everything he owes is inherited on to his children because they will be considered the closest relatives – most likely through a lawyer who will watch over the fund until the children become of age.
This means that the mom will actually have to buy half her house, car etc. back from her children (considering she and her boyfriend shared those expenses equally) and what kind of person has the money for that, even if a life insurance is made?
Another aspect to consider is if one of the persons in the relationship has children from a previous relationship and this person die. When numerous families and exes are involved things tend to get real messy and unless the spouse is married to the diseased my guess is that he or she will not be able to get any money what so ever (and again we’re back to the fact that it may mean selling ones home, car etc.).

On top of that marriage is a great insurance if the couple ever splits up.

I firmly believe that it’s only fair that any amount of money and everything of value earned within the relationship/marriage should be split equally.

In many American families the mom stays at home to take care of the children while her husband is making the money. But he would not have been able to pursue his career and still have a family if it wasn’t for the wife’s sacrifices. He would either have no family at all or he wouldn’t have made as many bucks every month because he would be a single dad and prioritise that more (not having someone able to take over whenever he had to work late).
On top of this he will be able to put money aside for savings, retirement etc. that the woman can’t because she either doesn’t have a job or is working only part-time. It’s a totally unfair situation that she should be economical punished for the choice they made in unison for her to take care of the house and family if they ever split up.

Sorry to say I don’t know a lot of people who are fair with their partner when it comes to breaking up. I’ve never heard of someone being noble and saying “Of course (s)he deserves half of everything I owe, without him/her I couldn’t live the life I’ve had over the years together”. It’s all mine, I and me and “Why should I share when it was ME making all the money”.


I know I will someday make a good living for myself, which makes it even more important for me to protect my spouse through marriage. I’m just a person and hurt enough I can go into revenge-mode where I’m not thinking straight or even remotely fair. But everything you built as a family is a result of the love and support you get from your spouse. No matter what happens later on that can never be taken away from either of you. If I want children and a career too I’m depended on my (imaginary) spouse’s help. Without him I would either go childless or have to cut back seriously on my working time and thus my career.
Which at the end of the day means that I would not be able to fulfil my dreams without him and he deserves that credit and respect no matter if he cheats or lies or hurt me later on.