I have been talking to a guy who lives close to me. He said he would like to meet for coffee but every time he says this week looks too busy for me, or I have a game I have to play or I work nights so I do not have much time, maybe some evening this week. Now he e-mailed me that his van is not working and could I drive out to see him, which I do not drive so this is not possible. Now I see he went to a movie, I was wondering if his van is broke how did he get to the movie, work and to play in his game.
Do you think he is trying to tell me in a nice way he really does not want to meet for coffee even though he says he does.
This has been going on for two weeks now beening so busy he has no time, and he gave me his phone number but said I will likely get voice mail and to just leave a message. He also has my number but says he has no time, beening so busy, to phone but will.
kitty01: I have been talking to a guy who lives close to me. He said he would like to meet for coffee but every time he says this week looks too busy for me, or I have a game I have to play or I work nights so I do not have much time, maybe some evening this week. Now he e-mailed me that his van is not working and could I drive out to see him, which I do not drive so this is not possible. Now I see he went to a movie, I was wondering if his van is broke how did he get to the movie, work and to play in his game.
Do you think he is trying to tell me in a nice way he really does not want to meet for coffee even though he says he does.
I've had this happen 3 separate times with me.
The last time was a guy I had e-mailed about 3 months ago. He kept on planning to come down on Saturday. Then he said he had a baseball game he to go to, but will be there a little later in the day (after 2-3pm). Fine with me, I told him. And then Saturday come around and he never called or showed up. So I went on with my day, but I was angry too. Then Sunday I got an e-mail from him saying he was in an accident. Whatever!!!! I didn't buy....
Come to find out that he went to California to go surfing all week (that weekend). He had the nerve to contact me, 2 days ago, and say that and say that he still liked to see me....NOT!!!!!
But that was just the most recent one. The last time was about a year ago.
I hate when they make excuses and I do think they really don't care about meeting you or anything. They try every excuse in the book to do it, you know...
So, I feel for you and don't worry, you'll find that one guy who is honest and will show up.
kitty01: That is what I was thinking too, he was just stringing me along, but had hoped maybe I was thinking wrong.
you don't know that for sure. The only thing it looks like is that he has gotten the upper hand and with some guys that is not a good thing. I have told this story once before, when a person thinks they have you like lint in their pocket, they will not do anything. Think about lint in your pocket. Do you bother with it other than keep it around or pick it out? No. So, what you should do is tell him, listen, when you have the time, and want to see me or talk to me, pick up the phone and call me and if I'm free we can make plans. Then leave him alone totally. No calls, no emails, nothing. Wait, wait, wait for it, and see what happens. It might take awhile, but if he is genuinely interested in you, he will eventually contact you as he does not have you in his pocket and he will know that. It will work one way or the other way, but at least this way, you will know his true intentions.
Kitty, my advice is to let him go. If he was truly interested he would make the time to come and meet you or to phone you, no matter what. There should be no excuses.
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
ANurse4U: Kitty, my advice is to let him go. If he was truly interested he would make the time to come and meet you or to phone you, no matter what. There should be no excuses.
exactly.. people are often busy.. anyone and everyone can have things going on in their lives..
BUT.. if they WANT to.. people can alwasy make SOME time.
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Do you think he is trying to tell me in a nice way he really does not want to meet for coffee even though he says he does.