Equal Time ( Archived) (77)

Bashing women over 40 or 45 seems to be a great international sport here and in the real world. It pretty much staggers me, because I work with, know and continually meet women in their 40's and 50's who are bright, lively, good looking, loving, creative, successful both personally and professionally, etc., etc. Many of them, it is true, are married, which may suggest that all the 'good ones are taken.' Don't know. But for the most part, they are not:

DEAD
FEDUP
TOO OLD
SENILE
FAT
UNHAPPY
GAY
SPINSTERISH
SAD
NARCISSISTIC

What do men and women look for or expect in a mate who is in his or her 40's or 50's?

I would think that women are looking for the same thing in older men as men are looking in for in older women, in general:

Someone who is in reasonably good health.
Someone with a positive attitude.
Someone who has zest for life.
Someone who takes care of him/herself physically.
Someone who is fairly/reasonably happy.
Someone who is not too self-involved.

Since I have been on singles sites, I have seen over and over again criticism of older women... And so I have begun to notice more the people around me. What I have noticed in the real world is that it all depends on the individual, how one ages. There are certainly older women who have not got really positive attitudes and who have not taken care of themselves, but there are far more who do and who have.

And what is equally true is that the same applies for older men. There are just as many older men who don't take care of themselves physically and don't have positive attitudes as there are older women. And there are plenty of older men with postive attitudes who do take care of themselves

I am wondering what others think of this issue?

did I miss something?

Its ok I am with it now.

Age is simply an number in my opinion I have seen some gorgeous looking 45+ looking women that would put rings around a 30 year old.

Good sense of humor, absolutely. Guess that may fall under positive attitude? Thanks Lilly!!

I've not seen much if any older women bashing, if I did it didn't register. In fact it seems to be the opposite here, too many really young men going after 40-50 year old women. Mother figure maybe, or they just think we're hot? Anyway, I'm not into raising a child, I want a man who's close enough in age to be in the same life stage I am.

Hi, Lady

missed talking to you

how's life?

Well I have both here and in EU forum but it's preriodical, in phases ... still unecessary though!!

And yeah so I get marriage proposals from 25 year olds from India or some other Eastern place ... who need a mummy figure ... big deal!!! hahahha!! Actually what they need is MY bank account!!!!

So sometimes the choice seems to be "be insulted or used"?

I was responding to this thread: Where have all of the beautiful 45yr olds gone?

Have seen other what I think is really unfair criticism of older women on this site, and have seen a lot more and a lot worse on another singles site with a forum. In Europe, men in their 40's and 50's look almost exclusively for women 15-20 years younger, women my age or younger. When I talk to them and ask why they are not looking for women their own age, wow, do I hear a lot of bashing of older women....so it may be more prevalent in Europe. Funnily, these guys are balding, have saggy bellies, etc. They are far from perfect, and hardly a young woman's prince charming....So, I started noticing the older women around me, and at least over here, they are generally fit, fashionable, intelligent, etc. I think it also applies around the world, as I travel a lot, that women do not age worse than the men...it is all a misconception. That's what I have observed.