Advice from women (42)
dannycopper: I have been getting to know a girl lately and its going great, we talk every single day without fail for the last 2 months.
If we cant talk for whatever reason we say so in advance, i have not heard from her in 3 days, should i be worried??
P.S. her EX has appeared on the scene lately which she says she wants rid of.
Not sure if I'd be worried but I would be suspicious... but maybe I've just got a suspicious mind If we cant talk for whatever reason we say so in advance, i have not heard from her in 3 days, should i be worried??
P.S. her EX has appeared on the scene lately which she says she wants rid of.
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dannycopper: I have been getting to know a girl lately and its going great, we talk every single day without fail for the last 2 months.
If we cant talk for whatever reason we say so in advance, i have not heard from her in 3 days, should i be worried??
P.S. her EX has appeared on the scene lately which she says she wants rid of.
There's no telling yet what's up yet. Give it a little more time, maybe she will contact you then you will know. Or at least know somethings up. If we cant talk for whatever reason we say so in advance, i have not heard from her in 3 days, should i be worried??
P.S. her EX has appeared on the scene lately which she says she wants rid of.
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Wait a while longer, there could be a number of reasons you haven't heard from her. Maybe she's just busy and hasn't made the time to come online. Maybe her computer crapped out. Who knows.
Be patient.
Be patient.
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mylifewithu: There's no telling yet what's up yet. Give it a little more time, maybe she will contact you then you will know. Or at least know somethings up.
I agree. She could just be dealing with the ex the best way she can and doesn't need any more stress right now. Your understanding will go far. If it turns out to be something else, then you can still walk away with your head up!
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WhatUwish4: I agree. She could just be dealing with the ex the best way she can and doesn't need any more stress right now. Your understanding will go far. If it turns out to be something else, then you can still walk away with your head up!
i agree with her, give her a little space
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I can only speak from personal experience... but you've just heard some solid advice. Don't pester.
If I'm going through stresses, the last thing I want is to pile it up on the person I care about. I tend to need to pull back & decompress. If a man were to press me on it, he'd find himself riding solo.
Think of it like this, if she needs to heal(emotional stress stuff), picking at her doesn't allow her to feel like you're her safe harbor. Give her time. If a week or two passes & still no word, you can send her a simple reminder that if she needs you, she knows how to find you. Leave it be after that.
Without knowing the reasons, the answers... speculation can only ruin things. Be patient & supportive. This may be the very thing that brings you two closer... for good.
If I'm going through stresses, the last thing I want is to pile it up on the person I care about. I tend to need to pull back & decompress. If a man were to press me on it, he'd find himself riding solo.
Think of it like this, if she needs to heal(emotional stress stuff), picking at her doesn't allow her to feel like you're her safe harbor. Give her time. If a week or two passes & still no word, you can send her a simple reminder that if she needs you, she knows how to find you. Leave it be after that.
Without knowing the reasons, the answers... speculation can only ruin things. Be patient & supportive. This may be the very thing that brings you two closer... for good.
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darlynda: i agree with her, give her a little space
I was reading this thread and wondered when that word " SPACE" was going to be used.
as to the OP..................Far too early in this to call in the calvary, since you've only been talking for a few days. I can't see you falling in love yet, but then again, who knows but you. give it time...............it will all unravel in a few days if that.
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So, ask yourself the reasons why her ex is on the scene? What is he doing there?
Time, maybe, but the fact that she has not been in contact for three days, when you have been in contact everyday for two months suggests to me that all is not well.
I would call her/email her ask her why the silence and if no satisfactory answer, then goodbye.
Do not put yourself through it.
And I am a women and I would do exactly that if I was in your shoes.
You sit and wonder and the fact that you have to ask in public is a warning sign.
No wonder Lagoona called me the Victorian Ice Princess, I am that.
Do not give it airtime if she does not come up with a satisfactory answer that you can accept.
Time, maybe, but the fact that she has not been in contact for three days, when you have been in contact everyday for two months suggests to me that all is not well.
I would call her/email her ask her why the silence and if no satisfactory answer, then goodbye.
Do not put yourself through it.
And I am a women and I would do exactly that if I was in your shoes.
You sit and wonder and the fact that you have to ask in public is a warning sign.
No wonder Lagoona called me the Victorian Ice Princess, I am that.
Do not give it airtime if she does not come up with a satisfactory answer that you can accept.
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mrsmiles4444: I was reading this thread and wondered when that word " SPACE" was going to be used.
as to the OP..................Far too early in this to call in the calvary, since you've only been talking for a few days. I can't see you falling in love yet, but then again, who knows but you. give it time...............it will all unravel in a few days if that.
as to the OP..................Far too early in this to call in the calvary, since you've only been talking for a few days. I can't see you falling in love yet, but then again, who knows but you. give it time...............it will all unravel in a few days if that.
I never get the word 'space' either.
What do people do with all that space?
Drives me mad.
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Sommerauer71: So eloquent, but you have a point.
I would be outta there like a shot.
The minute a new partner mentions an ex being 'back on the scene' thanks for playing, red card, you are off mate.
Saurrrrffff London dialect.
can't sugar coat candy any sweeter than it is..I would be outta there like a shot.
The minute a new partner mentions an ex being 'back on the scene' thanks for playing, red card, you are off mate.
Saurrrrffff London dialect.
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cardsfan24: can't sugar coat candy any sweeter than it is..
In England we call it 'not sugaring the pill'
But I get you.
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Sommerauer71: In England we call it 'not sugaring the pill'
But I get you.
kewll you sugar pills...hmmm..gotta try that...But I get you.
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cardsfan24: kewll you sugar pills...hmmm..gotta try that...
No, we use it as a statement.
The more unscrupulous people do sugar the pill.
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Sommerauer71: No, we use it as a statement.
The more unscrupulous people do sugar the pill.
i c...what ya mean now..The more unscrupulous people do sugar the pill.
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Nothing wrong with space, we all need it from time to time. If you are all wrapped up in something emotionally it's hard to get a clear picture of things that need attention.
I agree with a lot of these other replies... an email but no more. Put the ball in her court, if what you have was meaningful she'll be back.
I agree with a lot of these other replies... an email but no more. Put the ball in her court, if what you have was meaningful she'll be back.
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I didn't even read the substance of the OP:
I ain't takin' no advice from no women!!
I ain't takin' no advice from no women!!
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sounds bad cheif but then again i am on a dating site for singles so what do i know
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DaisyChick: Nothing wrong with space, we all need it from time to time. If you are all wrapped up in something emotionally it's hard to get a clear picture of things that need attention.
I agree with a lot of these other replies... an email but no more. Put the ball in her court, if what you have was meaningful she'll be back.
I agree with a lot of these other replies... an email but no more. Put the ball in her court, if what you have was meaningful she'll be back.
My ex girlfriend told me she needed more space. So when she got back to her house, I gave all her furniture to Goodwill.
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If we cant talk for whatever reason we say so in advance, i have not heard from her in 3 days, should i be worried??
P.S. her EX has appeared on the scene lately which she says she wants rid of.