Who are you? (75)
the_picky_one: Baiat bun ... Ufff!!! Just my luck!
More the BUG title I meant, not claiming to be one (yet)
Have a
and chill, miss!EnSilencio: More the BUG title I meant, not claiming to be one (yet)
Have a and chill, miss!
Have a and chill, miss!
You're misleading me again...Thanks for
, but I need a nap now...
EnSilencio: I think you are quite aware of what I am working with in my mind at present. But I do agree, lower ones self esteem and view of will lead nowhere.
The good guy is the one that in all weather support others. It has cost me a lot doing this, and I can not afford to be a rescuer in the middle of my current life. I did not always help out of empathy with people, more to "look good". This is a bad reason.
So - change. Stop caring to look good and care to feel good. I am on my way.
The good guy is the one that in all weather support others. It has cost me a lot doing this, and I can not afford to be a rescuer in the middle of my current life. I did not always help out of empathy with people, more to "look good". This is a bad reason.
So - change. Stop caring to look good and care to feel good. I am on my way.
Good for you!!! Remember that in order to care for others you have to care for yourself FIRST, not in an egocentric fashion but rather in a nurturing way
Also in my experience it is healthier to offer support from a safe-ish distance than to be a full blown "rescuer" for both the person offering the support and the person being supported ...
FlowerOfTheSun: Good for you!!! Remember that in order to care for others you have to care for yourself FIRST, not in an egocentric fashion but rather in a nurturing way
Also in my experience it is healthier to offer support from a safe-ish distance than to be a full blown "rescuer" for both the person offering the support and the person being supported ...
Also in my experience it is healthier to offer support from a safe-ish distance than to be a full blown "rescuer" for both the person offering the support and the person being supported ...
I should sleep on it...
Nighty night, Mariposa!
the_picky_one: You're misleading me again...
Thanks for , but I need a nap now...
Thanks for , but I need a nap now...
NB!
FlowerOfTheSun: Also in my experience it is healthier to offer support from a safe-ish distance than to be a full blown "rescuer" for both the person offering the support and the person being supported ...
I agree to that conclusion. Distance and feet steady on the ground.
EnSilencio: I agree to that conclusion. Distance and feet steady on the ground.
Well, you're doing pretty good:
1.) You feel that you are a good guy
2.) You come over as a good guy
3.) All you need to do now is to learn to hide that fact so that ladies can try and convert you from being a naughty boy into being a good boy (which you are already) which means........ dang, this gives me a headache!
rusty_knight: Well, you're doing pretty good:
1.) You feel that you are a good guy
2.) You come over as a good guy
3.) All you need to do now is to learn to hide that fact so that ladies can try and convert you from being a naughty boy into being a good boy (which you are already) which means........ dang, this gives me a headache!
1.) You feel that you are a good guy
2.) You come over as a good guy
3.) All you need to do now is to learn to hide that fact so that ladies can try and convert you from being a naughty boy into being a good boy (which you are already) which means........ dang, this gives me a headache!
Need a pill?
Got one myself here 
gongman: Apart from the head stuff,which I used to occupy myself with and then came to the conclusion that it is much simpler to simply be..........
I feel that I have been three separate entities in this life none of whom bore any relationship to the other.
First there was the Merchant Navy navigator.Travelled the world (and got paid to do it) but not recommended as a career.We used to say that being at sea was like being in prison with the additional risk of drowning
Then injuries recieved in a motorbike accident put an end to that Thank you fate,it hurt like f#ck but you did me a favour. Too young to stop work at 39 I went back to college and studied for three years and got my City and Guilds as a cabinet maker. Worked as such for some years and thoroughly enjoyed it.Creating with my hands was a totally satisfying experience as opposed to complicated navigational trigonometry.
Then left UK and moved to France. Bought the farmhouse and land.Had my woodworking machines with me. My place was used as a centre for various workshops in alternative living,amongst which were studies in overtone singing (singing two notes at the same time..... think Tibetan monks or Siberian shamen) The teacher brought gongs and Tibetan bowls.First time I ever heard them was in a 10m diameter tipi on my land.I was hooked!
Thus the Gongman was conceived. And after a gestation period of eight years he was finally born! Practice,practice,practice and then practice some more.Three different people all having used the same body as a vehicle.
Now in Spain with Flower,working together providing sound therapy and spiritual healing.
And if I could do it all again?? I would be a luthier (guitar maker) Imagine creating a beautful instrument for a world class musician and then hearing it played in a virtuoso style
And then a jam session with the gongs................................
I feel that I have been three separate entities in this life none of whom bore any relationship to the other.
First there was the Merchant Navy navigator.Travelled the world (and got paid to do it) but not recommended as a career.We used to say that being at sea was like being in prison with the additional risk of drowning
Then injuries recieved in a motorbike accident put an end to that Thank you fate,it hurt like f#ck but you did me a favour. Too young to stop work at 39 I went back to college and studied for three years and got my City and Guilds as a cabinet maker. Worked as such for some years and thoroughly enjoyed it.Creating with my hands was a totally satisfying experience as opposed to complicated navigational trigonometry.
Then left UK and moved to France. Bought the farmhouse and land.Had my woodworking machines with me. My place was used as a centre for various workshops in alternative living,amongst which were studies in overtone singing (singing two notes at the same time..... think Tibetan monks or Siberian shamen) The teacher brought gongs and Tibetan bowls.First time I ever heard them was in a 10m diameter tipi on my land.I was hooked!
Thus the Gongman was conceived. And after a gestation period of eight years he was finally born! Practice,practice,practice and then practice some more.Three different people all having used the same body as a vehicle.
Now in Spain with Flower,working together providing sound therapy and spiritual healing.
And if I could do it all again?? I would be a luthier (guitar maker) Imagine creating a beautful instrument for a world class musician and then hearing it played in a virtuoso style
And then a jam session with the gongs................................
Now this is serious talking
But I personally get a bit frustrated, since I have changed my road SO many times in my life that I simply might be off the track
Guess that is why I look for a "pathfinder"
Greetings for You and Flower
u2Kitty: Now this is serious talking
But I personally get a bit frustrated, since I have changed my road SO many times in my life that I simply might be off the track
Guess that is why I look for a "pathfinder"
Greetings for You and Flower
But I personally get a bit frustrated, since I have changed my road SO many times in my life that I simply might be off the track
Guess that is why I look for a "pathfinder"
Greetings for You and Flower
then you and I need one of those GPS, I have a knack for getting lost
dragonfly88: then you and I need one of those GPS, I have a knack for getting lost
JAHA
Don`t use me as a (job) guide I`ll write a book: "Guide to get lost in the job jungle"
u2Kitty: JAHA Don`t use me as a (job) guide
I`ll write a book: "Guide to get lost in the job jungle"
I`ll write a book: "Guide to get lost in the job jungle"
it will sell thousands.....dragonfly88: it will sell thousands.....
I'm sure it will......... I need to read a book entitled:
'How to get a job and keep it!'
Nobody wants to employ me - not even myself!
I sent myself my CV and I said to myself:
'You don't seem very reliable to me, so i refuse to employ you!'
It's a bummer when even you refuse to employ yourself!
I know who I am and I don't try to portray anything false here. People make up their own minds when they read posts or threads, but this medium is really not the ideal way to capture the essence of a person.
I'm a teacher as most people here know, and I'm a very confident person in my job, however I am basically a very shy person who has learnt to overcome this over the years. Few people believe me when I reveal this about myself, but it's true. I can go to a class (nowadays without nerves at all) or give a presentation (with some nervousness)and control it.
I've often been surprised to read a serious and thought provoking post from a person who had previously acted like a buffoon, so I don't make judgements as quickly as I may have done when I first joined CS and I like to think people don't make judgements about me, but I suppose it's inevitable.
I've been thinking about this tonight after posting some music videos. They are each, stylistically, very different because they remind me of different times in my life. Aside from this, my taste in music is varied anyway. It would be impossible for anybody to 'know' me from my music video post or written posts here.
Knowing this about myself makes me realise that I don't really know anybody here.
We are all hiding behind a screen.
I'm a teacher as most people here know, and I'm a very confident person in my job, however I am basically a very shy person who has learnt to overcome this over the years. Few people believe me when I reveal this about myself, but it's true. I can go to a class (nowadays without nerves at all) or give a presentation (with some nervousness)and control it.
I've often been surprised to read a serious and thought provoking post from a person who had previously acted like a buffoon, so I don't make judgements as quickly as I may have done when I first joined CS and I like to think people don't make judgements about me, but I suppose it's inevitable.
I've been thinking about this tonight after posting some music videos. They are each, stylistically, very different because they remind me of different times in my life. Aside from this, my taste in music is varied anyway. It would be impossible for anybody to 'know' me from my music video post or written posts here.
Knowing this about myself makes me realise that I don't really know anybody here.
We are all hiding behind a screen.
rusty_knight: Oh well, it can be hard to tell sometimes! Like I've said before if you are too open you can appear to be a complete idiot and if keep everything you believe in 'hidden' you can become a stranger even to yourself! I really don't know..... but the 'happy' people either seem to know, or they just don't care and accept things as they are!
Who was the famous person who came up with the quote:
'Know thyself' ???
Who was the famous person who came up with the quote:
'Know thyself' ???
That's the whole point Rusty....trying to find the balance of our outer and inner self, and surviving without going *mental*!
Most messages we get from society is: that is NOT the way you should be doing things...comply or isolate. Perhaps you have a point there: sometimes it's not KNOWING THYSELF...that is Bliss, but Ign.......! I'm sure you know the saying.... FlowerOfTheSun: Twin!! Something DID happen to me that set me free!!! Well, at least it made look at how I was living and question the quality of my life!!!
I had a regular job (secondary teaching - EXTREMELY stressful), a regular mortgage (Extremely stressful as I was the only one I could trully count on for the payments to keep the roof over the heads of up to 5 people) , what should have been a regular marriage (extremely stressful as he had a mental condition), a daughter who bless her and love her made some wrong choices she is still "paying for" to this day (although she's getting there!!!) and who needed regular support emotionally and financially and a son who's needs, thank God, were pretty regular (still doing good now!!) ... Basically I was the "support system" for a few too many people!!! Me, myself got a little forgotten as someone had to keep the "show" together!!!
Till my body said ENOUGH!!!!! by the time I had a consultant apologising profuselly for "some internal growths" somehow having been discovered only at this late stage, I got the wake up call I needed!!!!! I decided if my days were numbered there was absolutely NO WAY I was going to spend them in the present quality of life (- 150 %) ... Then it hit me!! If the quality of my life was not acceptable if my days were numbered WHY should it be acceptable for ever if my days were not numbered?
Before even knowing what was going to happen to me, my marriage was over ... Then after removal of growth and biopsy which proved how lucky I was (only pre-cancerous!!!) I was never terribly materialistic, but even more so material things became totally immaterial. Sold house, got rid of most of my stuff, quit job ... came to terms with the fact I could not be my adult daughter's support system for ever and let her fly solo!!!! My son was already independent. I Lived in a small room out of my suitcases for a few months ... The whole household had been thinking of starting a new life in Spain for a couple of years anyway !!!! But now I only had me to think about!!!!! Then I joined CS and almost changed my plans
And then ...
I met gongman!!! I feel pretty free!!!! I am here because that is were I want to be. We are together because we want to!!!
Life is not fair ... sometimes ... but for me life is GREAT!!!! I don't really care much for social acceptance (I am me!) and I am working on getting rid of conditioning ...
I had a regular job (secondary teaching - EXTREMELY stressful), a regular mortgage (Extremely stressful as I was the only one I could trully count on for the payments to keep the roof over the heads of up to 5 people) , what should have been a regular marriage (extremely stressful as he had a mental condition), a daughter who bless her and love her made some wrong choices she is still "paying for" to this day (although she's getting there!!!) and who needed regular support emotionally and financially and a son who's needs, thank God, were pretty regular (still doing good now!!) ... Basically I was the "support system" for a few too many people!!! Me, myself got a little forgotten as someone had to keep the "show" together!!!
Till my body said ENOUGH!!!!! by the time I had a consultant apologising profuselly for "some internal growths" somehow having been discovered only at this late stage, I got the wake up call I needed!!!!! I decided if my days were numbered there was absolutely NO WAY I was going to spend them in the present quality of life (- 150 %) ... Then it hit me!! If the quality of my life was not acceptable if my days were numbered WHY should it be acceptable for ever if my days were not numbered?
Before even knowing what was going to happen to me, my marriage was over ... Then after removal of growth and biopsy which proved how lucky I was (only pre-cancerous!!!) I was never terribly materialistic, but even more so material things became totally immaterial. Sold house, got rid of most of my stuff, quit job ... came to terms with the fact I could not be my adult daughter's support system for ever and let her fly solo!!!! My son was already independent. I Lived in a small room out of my suitcases for a few months ... The whole household had been thinking of starting a new life in Spain for a couple of years anyway !!!! But now I only had me to think about!!!!! Then I joined CS and almost changed my plans
And then ...
I met gongman!!! I feel pretty free!!!! I am here because that is were I want to be. We are together because we want to!!!
Life is not fair ... sometimes ... but for me life is GREAT!!!! I don't really care much for social acceptance (I am me!) and I am working on getting rid of conditioning ...
100 points for your balls
dragonfly88: 100 points for your balls
Yep......the lady has cojones!
gongman: Yep......the lady has cojones!
pelotas, pelotas; y no de ping pong
dragonfly88: pelotas, pelotas; y no de ping pong
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Think I just answered in my previous post...