I don't know about this one.... ( Archived) (43)

What do you mean?

Beats me, I'm not having much luck here either. I checked my viewed list. I had an 18 year old look at my profile. That's all I get? Any younger, and she'd be too young to even be on here. Any younger, and I'd be in jail.

Telling her ahead of time will only allow her to judge me in advance. I'm not interested

Personally I don't think you are really interested in meeting anyone. Why so bitter? If you shock someone, by not being up front with them, then no, they probably won't be interested. I know a few people that are in wheelchairs, and they have met someone that really loves them, but that didn't happen through deception. And they most certainly didn't have your attitude.

I can understand what your saying and fear of rejection is frightening for all of us regardless of whether we are in a wheelchair or not. I think you should tell her first , talk to her and let her have an insight to the person you are, if she does not want to meet you because of it she was not worth meeting in the first place, look at who you are and build on that . Good luck

Hi Dreamer82 you have had some very good advice here so far from everyone.

I can understand your hesitation and though I'm not religious, even the bible
says "God helps those who help themselves" so you need to get out there
and have a go.

Remember that if you don't then you will have to live with the "WHAT IF'S"
and that can be hell ( no pun intended). So don't miss any opportunity.

Good luck.

I saw a beautiful young woman years ago, she was in a wheelchair, I am not. We caught eyes and I wanted to talk to her but was painfully shy at that age and never approached her. I'm sure she though something like what you are thinking.

Don't sabotage a date. Maybe there's something they know about this woman that makes her look past disabilities.

I know a guy, partially paralized, drags one leg as he trys to walk, hands are closed up. He never had a problem finding girlfriends and just got married 32 years ago for the second time. He has 2 sons in their 20's from his first wife.

Think of this as practice. You never know what could come of it.

Woman love to kiss, your lips are not stuck to the wheel chair right?

You have had some great advice from people here.

I can only add, would it be possible to go out with another couple of friends as a foursome, so as to make it more of a friends night out rather than a 'date' and all that that word seems to hold in terror for you?

Dude, just go for it! What do you have to lose? An evening? A nice meal? A chance to get out and about and socialize a bit?

Why do you think I put the pic of me with my prosthesis hanging out? Can't hide it...I worried about the same things as you...that I would be perceived as somehow "less" of a man...I'm just a man with a fake leg, that's all! The rest of me is real....

Why do you automatically discount the womans ability to look past the chair and see the man? Not everyone is a shallow, myopic idiot. I say give it a shot...if nothing else, at least you rule *her* out as a potential mate....plenty more out there..

Of course, the safe path, be sure and stay on it by yourself the rest of your life. But quit yer b*tching about not being able to meet anyone if you're not willing to actually meet someone. I hate to be blunt (no I don't) but I've read your posts since you came on here, and your biggest handicap is not your wheelchair. Yeah I know, being in a wheelchair sucks. But your life doesn't have to unless you want it to.