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Lumblebee: almost two years ago I met a man through his personal website and because I was a shy and very self consious person I told him my name was something other than my own and sent pictures that were not truly of me. As time progressed he started to develope feelings for me and though I knew it was wrong and unfair and because I was afraid of losing his friendship I did not tell him the truth. Now that he has found out all that I have ever told him was untrue he says that he will sue me for breach of promise and I do know that he is in fact very serious. I won't try and fight it because I know I am guilty of all he says but I am very worried as to what will happen.
I don't own anything. Not a house or a car..nothing and I do not work.. What happens when you are sued but have nothing to pay? Do you go to jail?
I don't own anything. Not a house or a car..nothing and I do not work.. What happens when you are sued but have nothing to pay? Do you go to jail?
First off what did you promise him that he can sue you for????
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Ummm...breach of promise? Did you sign a marriage contract under that false ID? If not, what was the promise supposed to be? I would suggest fighting this, lady. It's not a crime to hide your true identity, or do anything of the above, with a "friend".
As to the other, I'm sorry, I can't answer.
As to the other, I'm sorry, I can't answer.
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Hum
I do not think you need to be told that truth is always the best policy.
What was the promise?
I cannot think unless, you have signed an agreement for delivery of something, that he has paid for, that he can sue for anything.
Or you owe him money...
I do not think you need to be told that truth is always the best policy.
What was the promise?
I cannot think unless, you have signed an agreement for delivery of something, that he has paid for, that he can sue for anything.
Or you owe him money...
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Hugz_n_Kissez: First off what did you promise him that he can sue you for????
sigh...i don't know..i am just goi9ng by what he says..trying to find out if he can and what will happen if he does. he thought i was someone else and that i looked different. he says that he has alot of emotinal damage because of it
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i did not sign any agreements
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Get a lawyer's advice. I'm not registered with the bar, but it sounds like he really doesn't have a leg to stand on. Breach of promise? Did you sign anything? Was any money transacted? If no, there's no damages he can sue for. Punitive damages don't count in this case because you took nothing from him.
But, like I said, you really need to talk to a lawyer about it. I wouldn't sweat it too much, however. There's a serious burden of proof in this that I don't see to be apparant.
Good luck. And be honest next time. If someone can't accept you as you are, then you really don't need the hassle.
But, like I said, you really need to talk to a lawyer about it. I wouldn't sweat it too much, however. There's a serious burden of proof in this that I don't see to be apparant.
Good luck. And be honest next time. If someone can't accept you as you are, then you really don't need the hassle.
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Lumblebee: almost two years ago I met a man through his personal website and because I was a shy and very self consious person I told him my name was something other than my own and sent pictures that were not truly of me. As time progressed he started to develope feelings for me and though I knew it was wrong and unfair and because I was afraid of losing his friendship I did not tell him the truth. Now that he has found out all that I have ever told him was untrue he says that he will sue me for breach of promise and I do know that he is in fact very serious. I won't try and fight it because I know I am guilty of all he says but I am very worried as to what will happen.
I don't own anything. Not a house or a car..nothing and I do not work.. What happens when you are sued but have nothing to pay? Do you go to jail?
I don't own anything. Not a house or a car..nothing and I do not work.. What happens when you are sued but have nothing to pay? Do you go to jail?
It sounds like he is just very upset that he was decieved to me. I wouldn't worry about it too much. You don't have anything that he can sue you for and I am very sure that you can't be jailed.
There are so many crimes that happen on the internet that the courts can't keep up with them...
I would suggest that you send him a heartfelt apology and let it alone.
That is just my opinion. Best of luck to you
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He could only sue for breach of something (never heard of breach of promise 
) if there was a legally enforceable contract, which it does not sound like there is.
Also, when someone is sued and cannot pay, you do not go to jail. You cannot be put in jail for civil charges, only criminal. Worst case scenario, they would garnish your wages. And if you don't have a job, they can't do anything except wait until you do.
But I wouldn't worry about anything. He may be serious, but so was the dude who sued God. Those frivolous lawsuits just get thrown out.
) if there was a legally enforceable contract, which it does not sound like there is.Also, when someone is sued and cannot pay, you do not go to jail. You cannot be put in jail for civil charges, only criminal. Worst case scenario, they would garnish your wages. And if you don't have a job, they can't do anything except wait until you do.
But I wouldn't worry about anything. He may be serious, but so was the dude who sued God. Those frivolous lawsuits just get thrown out.
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Lumblebee: sigh...i don't know..i am just goi9ng by what he says..trying to find out if he can and what will happen if he does. he thought i was someone else and that i looked different. he says that he has alot of emotinal damage because of it
Right...
I think he is hurting and in doing that he is trying to hurt you back by frightening you.
He cannot sue you for emotional damage.
He can sue you for harraasment, if you owe him money, any breach of contract that you have both signed, but not and I repeat, not for emotional damage...
Cut the contact, change your email address and learn a leson from it, always dangerous these online liaisons, people are swung along and they are able to hide their own insecurities from behind a keyboard and live a life of fantasy.
Which is what you have done, you have led a person to believe that you are somebody else, it may have made you feel good for a while, but not now.
Cut him off, he is hurting and unless he asks you to explain yourself, and you should if he does, then cut the contact.
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Lumblebee: i did not sign any agreements
That question needs not occupy you at all.He is insane.Cut any communications with that person.
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Lumblebee, we always recomend people to create a virtual person at first contact with unknown people over the net.
It is to protect you.
If you did not actually in writing (email counts) agree to any type of transaction or support that can be translated into a monetary value, nor made him sacrifice anything from his possessions for you during this contact, then he have nothing.
My instinct is that he is playing with your mind, so many people do when they find a weakness. Your way of introducing this is gives me an impression of a careful person with not much bad in mind.
He saw that too.
As GB said, talk to a lawyer, it will be done and over with in a day.
It is to protect you.
If you did not actually in writing (email counts) agree to any type of transaction or support that can be translated into a monetary value, nor made him sacrifice anything from his possessions for you during this contact, then he have nothing.
My instinct is that he is playing with your mind, so many people do when they find a weakness. Your way of introducing this is gives me an impression of a careful person with not much bad in mind.
He saw that too.
As GB said, talk to a lawyer, it will be done and over with in a day.
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Lumblebee: he has emails from me but not as "me" meaning not my real name but the false one i gave him.
So delete the false email.
If you set it up for this purpose, then you can delete it.
Honestly, you are being rather silly, just delete it.
He was a fool too.
For two years this has been going on and you have never met.
Just goes to show why people cannot have true relationhips when they become addicted to the internet.
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Lumblebee: sigh...i don't know..i am just goi9ng by what he says..trying to find out if he can and what will happen if he does. he thought i was someone else and that i looked different. he says that he has alot of emotinal damage because of it
Honey, if we could all sue for emotional damage without being in a disfiguring accident, we'd all be rich on here! He has no leg to stand on here. Check it for sure with a lawyer...but breach of promise is something like breaching a rental contract, or some other contract...has nothing to do with contact through a false id. You've done nothing wrong.
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Lumblebee: he has emails from me but not as "me" meaning not my real name but the false one i gave him.
just tell the judge...that aint me, i dont know what he's talking about.....or tell that guy to pull up his breaches and get over it
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oh, by the way....thats not really me in the picture...in real life, i have hair
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i really dont know how to help you.i wish i could..
You should never done it in the first place..you have done something really so awful.
You had your 2years of good times when you lied to him..now he got his right share of good times.
The only thing is you go and seek lawyer's advice,and to accept things as they are.
Never do this to anyone again.. Only fools invite troubles..
You should never done it in the first place..you have done something really so awful.
You had your 2years of good times when you lied to him..now he got his right share of good times.
The only thing is you go and seek lawyer's advice,and to accept things as they are.
Never do this to anyone again.. Only fools invite troubles..
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i really dont know how to help you.i wish i could..
You should never done it in the first place..you have done something really so awful.
You had your 2years of good times when you lied to him..now he got his right share of good times.
The only thing is you go and seek lawyer's advice,and to accept things as they are.
Never do this to anyone again.. Only fools invite troubles..
You should never done it in the first place..you have done something really so awful.
You had your 2years of good times when you lied to him..now he got his right share of good times.
The only thing is you go and seek lawyer's advice,and to accept things as they are.
Never do this to anyone again.. Only fools invite troubles..
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I don't own anything. Not a house or a car..nothing and I do not work.. What happens when you are sued but have nothing to pay? Do you go to jail?