What is a Gentleman? ( Archived) (11)

What is a Gentleman?
Few of us may be lucky enough to find one in the 20th century.
I just came back to C.S. and from the time I have being here never have experimented so discouraging to placed a post, not fun any more. Where are the gentleman, where did they go? I remember some use to come to C.S. and can still see some.
This is a definition of a gentleman, hardly and sadly to find in a man now days.
It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who never inflicts pain. This description is both refined and, as far as it goes, accurate. He is mainly occupied in merely removing the obstacles which hinder the free and unembarrassed action of those about him; and he concurs with their movements rather than takes the initiative himself.

His benefits may be considered as parallel to what are called comforts or conveniences in arrangements of a personal nature: like an easy chair or a good fire, which do their part in dispelling cold and fatigue, though nature provides both means of rest and animal heat without them.

The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause ajar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast; -- all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at their case and at home.

He has his eyes on all his company; he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd; he can recollect to whom he is speaking; he guards against unseasonable allusions, or topics which may irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation, and never wearisome. He makes light of favours while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring.

He never speaks of himself except when compelled, never defends himself by a mere retort, he has no ears for slander or gossip, is scrupulous in imputing motives to those who interfere with him, and interprets everything for the best.

He is never mean or little in his disputes, never takes unfair advantage, never mistakes personalities or sharp sayings for arguments, or insinuates evil which he dare not say out. From a long-sighted prudence, he observes the maxim of the ancient sage, that we should ever conduct ourselves towards our enemy as if he were one day to be our friend.

He has too much good sense to be affronted at insults, he is too well employed to remember injuries, and too indolent to bear malice. He is patient, forbearing, and resigned, on philosophical principles; he submits to pain, because it is inevitable, to bereavement, because it is irreparable, and to death, because it is his destiny. If he engages in controversy of any kind, his disciplined intellect preserves him from the blunder. [From The Idea of a University, 1852]

Confucious say: check out this guy

Paws says; check out nobodyzfool.

what? you don't think we already have?

Well then ladies, tell him. We all need strokes. Men love to be flattered too. Paws

It's not that complicated. You'll know one when you find him... Remember, when looking for a guy, actions will always speak louder than words. Talk is cheap, find one that's sincere in his actions.

there has always been a gentleman around,some calls him a knight in shinning armor,some calls him a angel,it seens like he knows when they need something to smile about.

to them it seens like he always knows the right thing to see,to lift them up when they are going through a bad day.they know he is there and some are thankful he is there for them.

he always treats them with respect and sometimes tender loving care,but only a few sees him as he is really is.he is always telling them something positive to lift them up,knows how to make them smile.

when they tell him thank you,all they get is no need to thank you,for it is a honor to bring you a smile

Hey I resemble that remark

No one has to tell a woman WHAT a gentleman is...we can SEE who they are!