Gender stereotypes...and surprises ( Archived) (20)

Thinking about stereotypes here, not necessarily how you (male or female) might really be.
Do you have a particular trait or characteristic that others have told you is more often found in the opposite gender? In other words, if you are a woman, has anyone ever told you that you do something more like a man might, rather than a woman? And, vice-versa for the men.

And, if so....do you perceive the comments as insults or compliments?

I wonder this because I have been told (more than once) that I think like a man....that I approach something in a certain methodical and logical process of reasoning, and men seem to view this as a manly trait. I don't agree, for I know many women who are logical and thoughtful, but this is what I have heard.

Now, a man telling me this believes that he is complimenting me.

If you are a man, have you been told that you do something like a woman and was it ever meant as a compliment? How many times do we hear phrases like "you throw like a girl!" or "you're acting like a wuss!" (implying a feminine-like show of emotion or discomfort with aggressive behavior). If you are a man, what stereotypical feminine trait might be attributed to you that you would view as a compliment?

I've certainly gotten the one about throwing like a girl...to which I say, "Duh!"

But I've had men enjoy the fact that I tend to shop like a man...and my sons appreciate it too.

Other than that, not really. I've just had most of the guys at the VFW say that if anyone ever comes in to rob the place, they'll let me deal with them if I'm there...but they'll be there for back up. I just get to be the front line.



I find that funny coming from Vietnam and Gulf War vets.

That just tells us all that you are 1 strong willed lady!

Jeffery...you are very feminine and attractive...

I get a few odd looks my way when I tell people I like to cook. I am also very clean and like a clean and neat home. When I am in a relationship, I offer to help my girlfriend with her housework, cooking, yardwork and errands. I even offer to help pay the bills if I am staying a week or more at her house.

I guess guys would think I am a wuss, but I think only a strong man would want to help with these things.

Thank you...I just keep hoping that they're joking.

I agree...I think only a strong man would want to help, and it should be returned when she's at your house. Again, it should be equal.

And there's nothing wrong with a man liking to cook. I know many men who can cook much better than I can, and love to share recipes. My late husband loved to cook, and there were many guys in the bars who liked talking about cooking tips with him. And I don't think anyone would dare to call Emeril a wuss...or the guy that does the Throwdowns on the Food Network.

I can be extremely emotionally aware, empathic, and have been known to squeeze a tear out from some particularly touching thought or even a bloody commercial. I see strength in accepting that I do have emotions but it is often frowned upon by men until they see the look in my eyes that quickly reminds them of who I am.

My worst was when I went out and bought 10 yards of material (cloth) were people everywhere,
The gal at the counter ask.. "what are you going to do with this?"

Told her that I was making new curtains for my house.
all of the women about died.. you wouldn't believe all of the funny comments.

Yes... I run a sewing machine,

Now if I could just find a female partner that can change my transmission!!

Match made in Heaven!!