Why Do Guys Lie ( Archived) (51)

Nov 22, 2008 11:20 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
My daughter went to have supper with the father of her child last night. When they sat down he told her he was engaged and getting married in December next year.

She asked him does she know they are having supper together, he told her no he told her he was doing errors.

This is the guy that just a few weeks ago wanted them to get back together.
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Nov 22, 2008 11:21 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
They lie because the can..

and we let them get a way with it
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Nov 22, 2008 11:27 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
Not all men lie...I'm sorry that your daughter's father cares so little about his time with her. Just make sure she knows it's him, not her.

My sister has the same problem with the father of her older daughter...and it's worse because the father of her younger one is a great guy who wants time with his daughter. Thankfully, her older one is well-grounded and has high self-esteem despite her father's behaviour...though time will really tell if it's had an impact when she starts dating.

hug hug
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Nov 22, 2008 11:39 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
StressFree
StressFreeStressFreesmall city, Kalmar Sweden176 Threads 16 Polls 8,986 Posts
I often told my ex that she looked hot in whatever hideous outfit she tried on to speed up the process so we can finally go out. She would try on like 10 different outfits, and each time I told her she looked marvelous...but that not deter her from trying on another outfit and striking all kinds of poses in the mirror. So after a while and more asking me if she looked good in this or that outfit, I just told her it does not matter....
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Nov 22, 2008 11:41 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
mike69spain
mike69spainmike69spainAlmuñécar, Andalusia Spain34 Threads 6 Polls 4,110 Posts
kitty01: My daughter went to have supper with the father of her child last night. When they sat down he told her he was engaged and getting married in December next year.

She asked him does she know they are having supper together, he told her no he told her he was doing errors.

This is the guy that just a few weeks ago wanted them to get back together.


She obviously did a correct choice by turning him down.
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Nov 22, 2008 11:43 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
This guy told me that he was still in love with my daughter and wanted to adopt her other daughter. He said he wanted them to be a family. She said she needed to think it over as he had really hurt her in the past.

She decided to give him one more chance and now he is in love with someone else? dunno
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Nov 22, 2008 11:44 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
wixomwizard
wixomwizardwixomwizardWixom, Michigan USA35 Threads 3,636 Posts
Why do women lie ? Men have not exactly cornered the market in that area .confused
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Nov 22, 2008 11:45 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
mike69spain
mike69spainmike69spainAlmuñécar, Andalusia Spain34 Threads 6 Polls 4,110 Posts
mike69spain: She obviously did a correct choice by turning him down.


In response to: She decided to give him one more chance and now he is in love with someone else?


Ok, forget my comment, but at least she got out of what could have become a mess.

He sure is in a hurry to get a ring on the finger ... scold
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Nov 22, 2008 11:48 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
He wants to take his daughter to meet her and now to get to know his family. She is almost 20 months old and he has never introduced her to his family yet.

We are worried as when he was with our neighbour, and in love with her, he wanted to take the baby for them to raise together. He is not on the birth certificate and did not even visit my daughter or talk to her the whole time she was pregnant because he was living with the neighbour and she would not let him.
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Nov 22, 2008 11:54 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
kitty01: This guy told me that he was still in love with my daughter and wanted to adopt her other daughter. He said he wanted them to be a family. She said she needed to think it over as he had really hurt her in the past.

She decided to give him one more chance and now he is in love with someone else?


Ooops...sorry, my misunderstanding...oh, my...so sorry for your daughter, but better she finds out now rather than later.hug
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Nov 22, 2008 11:57 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
druidess6308: Ooops...sorry, my misunderstanding...oh, my...so sorry for your daughter, but better she finds out now rather than later.


I know it is for the best, but we thought this time he was really serious. Seems he only wants her when she says no.
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Nov 22, 2008 11:57 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
chris196eight
chris196eightchris196eightwarwick, Rhode Island USA8 Threads 1 Polls 64 Posts
People usualy lie because they fear something.
Maybe he can't face that level of commitment but struggles with it wishing he could, hence giving mixed messages.
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Nov 22, 2008 11:58 AM CST Why Do Guys Lie
The_Kansan
The_KansanThe_KansanKnoxville, Tennessee USA303 Threads 1 Polls 3,395 Posts
kitty01: My daughter went to have supper with the father of her child last night. When they sat down he told her he was engaged and getting married in December next year.

She asked him does she know they are having supper together, he told her no he told her he was doing errors.

This is the guy that just a few weeks ago wanted them to get back together.


He was right. It was an error. Or was that just an innocent, yet highly appropriate slip?
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Nov 22, 2008 12:00 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
The_Kansan: He was right. It was an error. Or was that just an innocent, yet highly appropriate slip?

Was to say errands, sorry, typing error
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Nov 22, 2008 12:12 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
Abram
AbramAbramGoshen, Ohio USA9 Threads 2,077 Posts
kitty01: Was to say errands, sorry, typing error

You were probably, sub-consciously, thinking the bozo is an error! I don't have much respect for liars, or irresponsible fathers. Both of whom are errors in need of an eraser.
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Nov 22, 2008 12:13 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
Dusty43
Dusty43Dusty43Louisville, Kentucky USA5 Threads 164 Posts
Sorry that type of heartbreaking thing is going on. comfort

What I've had to do in serious situations is

Make an assessment for myself

then, decide, for myself

what I want to do.

That works best for me.

Then, I'm not a victim.
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Nov 22, 2008 12:29 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
Tater
TaterTaterspringfield, Illinois USA45 Threads 3 Polls 3,326 Posts
kissmedeeply: They lie because the can..

and we let them get a way with it


sad but true, that goes both ways also...
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Nov 22, 2008 12:36 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
Abram
AbramAbramGoshen, Ohio USA9 Threads 2,077 Posts
Tater: that goes both ways also...
Ya, but we don't stick around long enough to let 'um think they got away with it.rolling on the floor laughing
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Nov 22, 2008 12:46 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
Tater
TaterTaterspringfield, Illinois USA45 Threads 3 Polls 3,326 Posts
Abram: Ya, but we don't stick around long enough to let 'um think they got away with it.



laugh good point...cheers
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Nov 22, 2008 2:35 PM CST Why Do Guys Lie
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
"GUYS"???????confused
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