I Don't Know How To Deal With This ( Archived) (45)

Morgan,

first all, my prayers are to your family.

Second, with my first marriage, my wife and I had to deal with fertility docotrs due to a condition she had. There was a lot of trial and errors and loss of a pregnacy.

One of my friends said something to me that made sense of it all.

He told me that no matter how small the life, when he/she comes into the world, that little soul at least made a difference in your life. How you respond to that gift of life is how you remember that soul.

It took awhile for me to understand it and when my son was born, I knew he was a mircale of science and God, for the body can exist, but God gives the body a soul.

I hope this makes sense to you.

-Robert

Dear, there are some things that cannot be put into words easily, but i can understand how you feel.

The best advice i can give you is not to shrink from it, and be supportive and remember that some things no matter how hard and how much we try cannot be put right.

The saying some things are not meant to be are not meant to sound glib, but certainly don't attribute the pain and anguish towards anything or anyone.

It's not a matter of blame, self recrimination or anything else.

All you can say is you love them and share their detestation at the news, and i agree its horrible.

I tend to quietly take on all the anguish and crap when a problem comes into my life, but please in your case don't do this yourself, it's no good for you.

Take them down to the view overlooking the sea and let them talk to you, and please tell them i feel truely sorry for them.It's a tradegy, there's no other way to look at it.

Then Lacey will always be remembered.

I will admit, I am a Trekkie and some of the shows have some great quotes.

I have always loved this one when dealing with a loss in my life. To me it made sense.

This was said by a character after she had passed on.

"Death is that state in which one exists only in the memory of others. Which is why it is not an end. No goodbyes. Just good memories."

I always thought that was a profound statement.

I hope you don't take this as a mocking of the situation. For me to cope in life, I tend to find quotes that will help me move forward.

Morgan, I've been keeping Emily updated on this. I just read your post to her and she wants you to know how sorry she is and she'll be keeping you all in her prayers. From Em.

Heart goes out to you, your son, and daughter - in - law. Don't know what to say other that you're all in my thoughts and prayers.

Put it in the hands of whatever higher power you believe in. I wish you the best, Morgan