What would you do in these situations (23)
tainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago215 Threads 2 Polls 3,777 PostsYou've been talking to someone online for a while, they seem cool and you like each, you IM, call on the phone, e-mail etc.. Then you decide to meet(they don't live in the same country) so you invite them to visit you and you discover that you are wildly attracted to each other but there is so much distance between you or you met and find that you were not as attracted as you thought you would be. How would you handle either situation?
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would the lack of attraction on your side be a deal breaker or would you still remain friends?
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tainogirl: would the lack of attraction on your side be a deal breaker or would you still remain friends?
If you don't take the risk you will forever live with the thought "what if", if the initial contact has created a special bond, then I would say go for it, you can sort out the semantics later if the spark is there for you both, if its missing well, yes you have a friend, but, it will not be the same kind of friendship, at least thats what I think, I have met some women from here who seemed ideal, but the spark was missing, some I still keep in touch with, others have faded away,but stay as a lovely memory.
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I would get on a plane and see where it takes you.
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.
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I would get on a plane and see where it takes you.
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.[/quote
Lady I like your spunk 
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.[/quote
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Swap the thinking everything through head for life is to short, give it a go whats to be lost head.
You gain either way a new a partner or friend.
Morning Sommer... I bet you remember Worzel Gummage and Aunt Sally?
You gain either way a new a partner or friend.
Morning Sommer... I bet you remember Worzel Gummage and Aunt Sally?
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tainogirl: I would get on a plane and see where it takes you.
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.[/quote
Lady I like your spunk
Analysing it, worrying about it,will do nothing.
Get on the plane.[/quote
Lady I like your spunk
I did, I got on a plane and went to find out for myself...
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Tamarin: Swap the thinking everything through head for life is to short, give it a go whats to be lost head.
You gain either way a new a partner or friend.
Morning Sommer... I bet you remember Worzel Gummage and Aunt Sally?
You gain either way a new a partner or friend.
Morning Sommer... I bet you remember Worzel Gummage and Aunt Sally?
I resemble Worzel Gummidge in the mornings.
Hi Tamarin.
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but what would you do if they are attracted to you and have built up all these expectations and now after inviting them to visit you've got to let them down. I know this is a scenario that many of us may eventually have to face.
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tainogirl: but what would you do if they are attracted to you and have built up all these expectations and now after inviting them to visit you've got to let them down. I know this is a scenario that many of us may eventually have to face.
Oh right, so you have invited him and now changed your mind?
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Do you actually want him to visit or not?
Is it fairer on both to explain over the internet or phone that this will not work before there is a long journey and expense?
Is it fairer on both to explain over the internet or phone that this will not work before there is a long journey and expense?
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tainogirl: but what would you do if they are attracted to you and have built up all these expectations and now after inviting them to visit you've got to let them down. I know this is a scenario that many of us may eventually have to face.
Its all down to openness and honesty
When my lady was about to visit me, we agree to be completely and utterly honest about our feelings, that should that spark or whatever be missing we would say so, no offence would be taken and that the visit would still continue as friends.
Happily when we met at the airport we just looked at each other, fell into a hug and the rest got better,
My point is, that if you are connected well enough to contemplate a meeting then honesty has to be at the forefront.
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Tamarin: Do you actually want him to visit or not?
Is it fairer on both to explain over the internet or phone that this will not work before there is a long journey and expense?
Is it fairer on both to explain over the internet or phone that this will not work before there is a long journey and expense?
But if you knew before hand that it wouldn't work then it would stop there, no need to invite to visit since you would know how you felt. I'm talking about if you thought there might be a possibility but on meeting the feelings just don't spark for you. Meeting in person and meeting online is two different things I think.
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rizlared: Its all down to openness and honesty
When my lady was about to visit me, we agree to be completely and utterly honest about our feelings, that should that spark or whatever be missing we would say so, no offence would be taken and that the visit would still continue as friends.
Happily when we met at the airport we just looked at each other, fell into a hug and the rest got better,
My point is, that if you are connected well enough to contemplate a meeting then honesty has to be at the forefront.
When my lady was about to visit me, we agree to be completely and utterly honest about our feelings, that should that spark or whatever be missing we would say so, no offence would be taken and that the visit would still continue as friends.
Happily when we met at the airport we just looked at each other, fell into a hug and the rest got better,
My point is, that if you are connected well enough to contemplate a meeting then honesty has to be at the forefront.
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She got on the plane, I was the one taken to heaven.
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PietroPaoloV: She got on the plane, I was the one taken to heaven.
Ah so someone's found love with an angel
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I personally would get on that plane, if there is a spark long distance and if the spark is not there when you meet well you have made a new friend and we all need as many of those as we can get.
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tainogirl: You've been talking to someone online for a while, they seem cool and you like each, you IM, call on the phone, e-mail etc.. Then you decide to meet(they don't live in the same country) so you invite them to visit you and you discover that you are wildly attracted to each other but there is so much distance between you or you met and find that you were not as attracted as you thought you would be. How would you handle either situation?
As to the first, you knew the distance from the beginning, so that should have already been decided...if you decided to meet, then you should already have talked and thought this one through.
As the second, remain friends. Obviously there is a strong connection there on many levels, just physical chemistry is missing...no reason to ruin what started out as a good friendship and can continue to be one.
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rizlared: Its all down to openness and honesty
When my lady was about to visit me, we agree to be completely and utterly honest about our feelings, that should that spark or whatever be missing we would say so, no offence would be taken and that the visit would still continue as friends.
Happily when we met at the airport we just looked at each other, fell into a hug and the rest got better,
My point is, that if you are connected well enough to contemplate a meeting then honesty has to be at the forefront.
When my lady was about to visit me, we agree to be completely and utterly honest about our feelings, that should that spark or whatever be missing we would say so, no offence would be taken and that the visit would still continue as friends.
Happily when we met at the airport we just looked at each other, fell into a hug and the rest got better,
My point is, that if you are connected well enough to contemplate a meeting then honesty has to be at the forefront.
Well said, Riz. I'll add that in my opinion, if you don't have that kind of honesty, then a LDR won't work anyway, and you'd be better to just stay friends.
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I actually got on a plane to go find out.....it was great, lots of attraction, both on very good behavior for the most part..... but the second visit was more enlightning....gave me a completely different perspective....Then it was over, had to end it.....
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