Why do we choose to met people online instead of Out There? (85)
Big_John: I am who I am!! A well known and intelligent person said this I think it was Popeye. I write, talk and behave the same online that I am in real life. I trust people and don't worry too much about hiding things. I truly believe you must be yourself to find someone and have it work. I'm not perfect and have many faults.
I don't think people are deliberately different. I think they come off in writing that way. For example I like to write and I like to write [what I consider] funny stuff, I don't want to get too deep. I have that all day in my work and my life. Plus I have an audience-some people don't get me and they get mad but way more often I get emails telling me that what I wrote made them laugh. Other people like to be deep and philosophical on here they like to post things on religion, spirituality and guide people and people respond well to that. Others like to impart information, some people like to be very supportive give therapy and advice but these are only one aspect of people's personalities and usually one very small one. I don't think people are hiding anything although again in my case I am careful what I post. School districts can and do fire teachers for not holding to the morals of the community-I remember when I read about that in a law and ethics class I took for my MA and I called my father in shock and asked if it was true and he said absolutely. I've seen it happen.
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LACali: I don't think people are deliberately different. I think they come off in writing that way. For example I like to write and I like to write [what I consider] funny stuff, I don't want to get too deep. I have that all day in my work and my life. Plus I have an audience-some people don't get me and they get mad but way more often I get emails telling me that what I wrote made them laugh. Other people like to be deep and philosophical on here they like to post things on religion, spirituality and guide people and people respond well to that. Others like to impart information, some people like to be very supportive give therapy and advice but these are only one aspect of people's personalities and usually one very small one. I don't think people are hiding anything although again in my case I am careful what I post. School districts can and do fire teachers for not holding to the morals of the community-I remember when I read about that in a law and ethics class I took for my MA and I called my father in shock and asked if it was true and he said absolutely. I've seen it happen.
I think you are going to connect with some and not with others that is pretty much it. Some people are going to get you and some don't and vica versa.
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Dawn7z: I think you are going to connect with some and not with others that is pretty much it. Some people are going to get you and some don't and vica versa.
Story of my life Dawn.
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Hey I calling it a night and heading to bed--alone damit!!!
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Big_John: Hey I calling it a night and heading to bed--alone damit!!!
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Big_John: Hey I calling it a night and heading to bed--alone damit!!!
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I meet amd date men from both "worlds". I am not a bar hopper or club patron. I find "shopping" online for a man is much easier, more reliable, and better quality of merchandise than trying on the ill-fitting ones I seem to select from the racks at Rate-A-Date.
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I choose to meet people online because I live in a very small town.
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LACali: I don't think people are deliberately different. I think they come off in writing that way. For example I like to write and I like to write [what I consider] funny stuff, I don't want to get too deep. I have that all day in my work and my life. Plus I have an audience-some people don't get me and they get mad but way more often I get emails telling me that what I wrote made them laugh. Other people like to be deep and philosophical on here they like to post things on religion, spirituality and guide people and people respond well to that. Others like to impart information, some people like to be very supportive give therapy and advice but these are only one aspect of people's personalities and usually one very small one. I don't think people are hiding anything although again in my case I am careful what I post. School districts can and do fire teachers for not holding to the morals of the community-I remember when I read about that in a law and ethics class I took for my MA and I called my father in shock and asked if it was true and he said absolutely. I've seen it happen.
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LACali: Because even though I live in the place I grew up and should be comfortable with local culture there are so many things I don't like and since I can't move I thought maybe I'd meet some people with different values online. You've lived here you have some idea what I'm talking about.
Now I'm back to real life. Not as exciting but more real and easier to actually date people.
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hedistuff: Oh yes. We signed a morality code when hired by the board of education. It is even worse in rural areas. Everyone knows everyone.
That's true but even in bigger cities when you've lived there your whole life and been in the same career there are kind of circles within circles of people who know each other and I have to be very very careful.
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It is much easier for me to meet and date gentlemen from online then some because I am retired, very flexible, and willing to relocate, but I can understand why many are not or can not move.
Plus, I have accumulated many frequent flyers mileage.
Plus, I have accumulated many frequent flyers mileage.
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In response to: For me, I know myself. Out There, I would get utterly entranced with a woman who smells good and looks good, and we would have absolutely nothing in common. I know I'm a bit different, but normal, and I am looking for someone equally normal. But what about you? Why look in here instead of Out There?
For me, I´m not seriously looking here, I enjoy the forums occasionally, particularly the EU forum which is asleep at the moment! but for many, I suspect, it´s not a case of one method over the other, but an added opportunity of meeting somebody.
As I´ve said before, the sadness is when people have no life outside CS and rely on it as a means of communicating.
As for some of the comments about online and real life comparisons, I have to say in all honesty I´ve never met such a bunch of oddballs in real life as I´ve seen here!
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Either here, online, or out there among ladies within my community, all options are open. The one option I closed, was the night club scene, although, in the past, it produced significant results, I ain't dying for the opportunity.
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Abram: Either here, online, or out there among ladies within my community, all options are open. The one option I closed, was the night club scene, although, in the past, it produced significant results, I ain't dying for the opportunity.
I think most people on here are looking online and in "real life". I have't been to the night club scene since I started looking for a soul mate.
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Big_John: I think most people on here are looking online and in "real life". I have't been to the night club scene since I started looking for a soul mate.
Just about the same here John, but I think, what I miss the most of the night club scene, is kickin' some wanna be pool sharks butt.
Have not shot a game in about 7 years, and just itchin' to do it again, but I know the temptations, and possible results of thinking with my other head. Plus there is the drive home, and the local PD, looking for innocent men, like myself. 
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Abram: Just about the same here John, but I think, what I miss the most of the night club scene, is kickin' some wanna be pool sharks butt. Have not shot a game in about 7 years, and just itchin' to do it again, but I know the temptations, and possible results of thinking with my other head. Plus there is the drive home, and the local PD, looking for innocent men, like myself.
I have a local sports bar that is about one mile from my home that has pool tables and I go there a couple times a month and play. I usually call my son to pick me up or take a taxi home. No women use this place most nights.
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Because out there you cant sit around with your laptop and nightgown....teasing...It is better to get out there...The economy is so bad now , though.....I think on the sites, men in general show less manners...I am sure it is just me......
Big_John: For me, I know myself. Out There, I would get utterly entranced with a woman who smells good and looks good, and we would have absolutely nothing in common. I know I'm a bit different, but normal, and I am looking for someone equally normal. But what about you? Why look in here instead of Out There?
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