Politeness... turn on or off? (118)
hopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 PostsGood thread! I've enjoyed the reading!
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To the Thread subject I only know how to be a gentleman to a lady. I guess this came with my age group and when I grew up. I do see things different with some of the younger people than I am and I guess if it works for them and the environment that they have to survive, it okay, if both parties enjoy the relationship. For me, I will continue to be nice, kind and consider the woman's needs. I haven't ever had a negative reaction to me be polite and acting like a southern gentleman.
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This topic also reminds me of a discussion I had in another group. For the most part everyone agreed that it had to do with your culture, or how you were raised or what generation you were raised in. For some, these courtesies, such as opening doors for others come natural. Then again for some, they aren't intentionally being rude, it just hasn't occured to them.
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rwantin: Sometimes it pays to be polite. Anyone want to hear my apartment manager story?
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SweetKim: I wanna hear!
Okay, so this guy goes into a bar with a duck on his head...wait. Wrong story.
True story. Back home in Michigan, my good friend and roommate were parting company because of his work, so I had to find a place to live. A friend of mine from the office mentioned his apartment complex in Royal Oak that he really liked, and I should come by and check it out, which I did.
I arrived that evening. I noticed an old woman with a couple of grocery bags, and asked if she needed help. She politely declined. There were two large heavy glass door entries to the courtyard, so I waited by them. "You don't need to do that," she said. I agreed but waited by the doors anyway, instructing her not to hurry. I held the doors and we bid each other a good night.
I really liked my friend's apartment, and the complex was perfect, not too large, lots of character. This is where I wanted to live. I called the manager's office the next day. I was told there was a waiting list, but I should stop by and get on it. I was a bit disappointed, as I did not have a lot of time. I stopped in anyway.
By now you can probably guess who the manager was. "Well hello," she said, "nice to see you again." After the surprise worn off, smiles and a pause, she said, "so...when would you like to move in?"
It never hurts to be polite.
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rwantin: Okay, so this guy goes into a bar with a duck on his head...wait. Wrong story.
True story. Back home in Michigan, my good friend and roommate were parting company because of his work, so I had to find a place to live. A friend of mine from the office mentioned his apartment complex in Royal Oak that he really liked, and I should come by and check it out, which I did.
I arrived that evening. I noticed an old woman with a couple of grocery bags, and asked if she needed help. She politely declined. There were two large heavy glass door entries to the courtyard, so I waited by them. "You don't need to do that," she said. I agreed but waited by the doors anyway, instructing her not to hurry. I held the doors and we bid each other a good night.
I really liked my friend's apartment, and the complex was perfect, not too large, lots of character. This is where I wanted to live. I called the manager's office the next day. I was told there was a waiting list, but I should stop by and get on it. I was a bit disappointed, as I did not have a lot of time. I stopped in anyway.
By now you can probably guess who the manager was. "Well hello," she said, "nice to see you again." After the surprise worn off, smiles and a pause, she said, "so...when would you like to move in?"
It never hurts to be polite.
True story. Back home in Michigan, my good friend and roommate were parting company because of his work, so I had to find a place to live. A friend of mine from the office mentioned his apartment complex in Royal Oak that he really liked, and I should come by and check it out, which I did.
I arrived that evening. I noticed an old woman with a couple of grocery bags, and asked if she needed help. She politely declined. There were two large heavy glass door entries to the courtyard, so I waited by them. "You don't need to do that," she said. I agreed but waited by the doors anyway, instructing her not to hurry. I held the doors and we bid each other a good night.
I really liked my friend's apartment, and the complex was perfect, not too large, lots of character. This is where I wanted to live. I called the manager's office the next day. I was told there was a waiting list, but I should stop by and get on it. I was a bit disappointed, as I did not have a lot of time. I stopped in anyway.
By now you can probably guess who the manager was. "Well hello," she said, "nice to see you again." After the surprise worn off, smiles and a pause, she said, "so...when would you like to move in?"
It never hurts to be polite.
Reminds me of pay it forward!
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In response to: Out of curiousity, how far can a guy go with being polite on a day before its a turn off? Or is it ever a turn off? When I no out I want the guy to open the doors for me, pay for dinner, compliment me if I look nice and spent time to look good! Walk me to my door... Now I don't want a guy to flippin trip over his own feet in a sprint to run to me to open the door when he isn't close... But those are turn ons to me..
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
I grew up with two older brothers who would not only ‘not’ open the door for me, but would put me in a very undignified headlock as we were walking through the door.
I have to say that I find it very charming when men do things like open a door for me. Very charming. I don’t expect it, but do like it. What makes me nuts though and does annoy me is when a man makes a charming gesture but does it in an overboard ‘I wanna be thanked and noticed’ sort of way. Like pulling the chair back for me and making a sweeping gesture for me to sit. Courtesy for courtesy sake is appreciated by me. Courtesy for show is annoying to me. Just my opinion. It also makes me crazy if I open the door for myself and a man barges ahead of me through the opened door.
I find it extremely charming when I see a man (especially a teenager) showing polite and courteous behaviour to an older person.
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rwantin: Okay, so this guy goes into a bar with a duck on his head...wait. Wrong story.
True story. Back home in Michigan, my good friend and roommate were parting company because of his work, so I had to find a place to live. A friend of mine from the office mentioned his apartment complex in Royal Oak that he really liked, and I should come by and check it out, which I did.
I arrived that evening. I noticed an old woman with a couple of grocery bags, and asked if she needed help. She politely declined. There were two large heavy glass door entries to the courtyard, so I waited by them. "You don't need to do that," she said. I agreed but waited by the doors anyway, instructing her not to hurry. I held the doors and we bid each other a good night.
I really liked my friend's apartment, and the complex was perfect, not too large, lots of character. This is where I wanted to live. I called the manager's office the next day. I was told there was a waiting list, but I should stop by and get on it. I was a bit disappointed, as I did not have a lot of time. I stopped in anyway.
By now you can probably guess who the manager was. "Well hello," she said, "nice to see you again." After the surprise worn off, smiles and a pause, she said, "so...when would you like to move in?"
It never hurts to be polite.
I thought you were gonna say she wasn't gonna let you have it! Lol you neve know about some people. Either they don't mind help or ar very independent. I work with elderly people and who's sometimes they'll Let ya have it! Lol I think that if you do help and that snap at you. You'll still feel good that you offered even if you do get drop kicked lolTrue story. Back home in Michigan, my good friend and roommate were parting company because of his work, so I had to find a place to live. A friend of mine from the office mentioned his apartment complex in Royal Oak that he really liked, and I should come by and check it out, which I did.
I arrived that evening. I noticed an old woman with a couple of grocery bags, and asked if she needed help. She politely declined. There were two large heavy glass door entries to the courtyard, so I waited by them. "You don't need to do that," she said. I agreed but waited by the doors anyway, instructing her not to hurry. I held the doors and we bid each other a good night.
I really liked my friend's apartment, and the complex was perfect, not too large, lots of character. This is where I wanted to live. I called the manager's office the next day. I was told there was a waiting list, but I should stop by and get on it. I was a bit disappointed, as I did not have a lot of time. I stopped in anyway.
By now you can probably guess who the manager was. "Well hello," she said, "nice to see you again." After the surprise worn off, smiles and a pause, she said, "so...when would you like to move in?"
It never hurts to be polite.
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At the end of a date I think a kiss on the cheek is very sweet! Yet I never get that! Lol they always try to do a whole make out scene and I end up either getting whisker burn which will NEVER happen again!! Or one time I dated a Russian guy and I guess he bit my lip just right cause the next day it looked like I ran into about 7 walls. I don't know what excuse I used to tell people about what happened but the whiskers thing I told people a box fell out of the closet and hit my face lol
Any other bad kissing experiments, or is it just me! Lol
Any other bad kissing experiments, or is it just me! Lol
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SweetKim: At the end of a date I think a kiss on the cheek is very sweet! Yet I never get that! Lol they always try to do a whole make out scene and I end up either getting whisker burn which will NEVER happen again!! Or one time I dated a Russian guy and I guess he bit my lip just right cause the next day it looked like I ran into about 7 walls. I don't know what excuse I used to tell people about what happened but the whiskers thing I told people a box fell out of the closet and hit my face lol
Any other bad kissing experiments, or is it just me! Lol
Any other bad kissing experiments, or is it just me! Lol
You just need practice...come here honey...
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mbcasey: You just need practice...come here honey...
its not me that needs practice, just guys keep roughin me up. Go back and read my post of the other thread you'll remember its notme that needs to learn. I could do the teacher lol------ This thread is Archived ------
SweetKim: its not me that needs practice, just guys keep roughin me up. Go back and read my post of the other thread you'll remember its notme that needs to learn. I could do the teacher lol
I think we all get beat up from time to time on the Threads. I believe it is just part of the process that some CS'ers like to put us through. I generally just forget about it and move on.
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In response to: Out of curiousity, how far can a guy go with being polite on a day before its a turn off? Or is it ever a turn off? When I no out I want the guy to open the doors for me, pay for dinner, compliment me if I look nice and spent time to look good! Walk me to my door... Now I don't want a guy to flippin trip over his own feet in a sprint to run to me to open the door when he isn't close... But those are turn ons to me..
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
Both. One has to be flexible. Without going into detail, let me say that to demonstate overly servitude to all may offend some, or paint a wrong impression for another. Or they may like or appreciate it. Depends on the person and situation. But starting off polite is a positive opening act every time.Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
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I think in general, everyone tries to be polite...I find the men I meet on a site, that have been on for long periods of time...years, are the worse...That is strictly speaking from a personal view point....I don't think there is such a thins as too nice...Not more me anyway....I recently just had a bd, and a simple phone would have worked for me....
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SweetKim: Out of curiousity, how far can a guy go with being polite on a day before its a turn off? Or is it ever a turn off? When I no out I want the guy to open the doors for me, pay for dinner, compliment me if I look nice and spent time to look good! Walk me to my door... Now I don't want a guy to flippin trip over his own feet in a sprint to run to me to open the door when he isn't close... But those are turn ons to me..
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
turn on!Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
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curefan: turn on!
sorry let me add to that i didnt read all your thread its a turn on for a woman to polite the whole time!and also i cant open a cardoor for a woman because i have a smoke blowing bike
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SweetKim: Out of curiousity, how far can a guy go with being polite on a day before its a turn off? Or is it ever a turn off? When I no out I want the guy to open the doors for me, pay for dinner, compliment me if I look nice and spent time to look good! Walk me to my door... Now I don't want a guy to flippin trip over his own feet in a sprint to run to me to open the door when he isn't close... But those are turn ons to me..
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
Girls do you like guys to be a gentlemen or rathe do things yourself?
And men do you prefer to do these things for ladies? Or had any lady tell get ticked for doing so?
My experience is that the more polite you are the less you are likely to be respected. It is almost an inverse relationship. The better a man treats a woman in the Western World the less respect he gets. I suppose that the saying, "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" came from that.
It's too late for me to change the way I behave now, but I have noticed that many women are madly in love with guys that treat their dogs better.
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Big_John: To the Thread subject I only know how to be a gentleman to a lady. I guess this came with my age group and when I grew up. I do see things different with some of the younger people than I am and I guess if it works for them and the environment that they have to survive, it okay, if both parties enjoy the relationship. For me, I will continue to be nice, kind and consider the woman's needs. I haven't ever had a negative reaction to me be polite and acting like a southern gentleman.
I love southern gentlemen, John.
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