When a male meets a genuine lady, why does he do his best 2 destroy everything? (14)

Hi, friends from CS, I have 3 questions:

1. When a male meets a genuine lady, why does he do his best 2 destroy everything?
a) How does & where arise misunderstanding?
b) What is / are reason/s for that in ur point of u?

2. Why men are possessive in nature, even with a lady who they know for a while?

3. Why do they often keep tabs on someone who they know form a short time?

Be honest, men! That’s all! I would love 2 hear ur pint of view. Of course ladies are also free to take a part in this discussion…

There,s nowt so queer as folk. I have asked myself the self same questions re females,well two very nasty ex wives to be frank. They are out there babe.Maybe someone once screwed them over and they are.....whatever,keep looking,there are plenty of nice genuine people out there too.One talking to you right now.

I'm with smoky on this one...It cuts both ways...Also Maybe the other person was in an abusive relationship before and It takes a bit of time for them to start trusting again...

Or maybe the bloke was kicked in the balls and is only protecting himeself..To put it down to one gender is unfair..Women are just as guilty as screwing up a good thing just like men are..

1.a-b) From not listening properly to what is told and not keeping it in memory while the other person expects this to happen.

When you think he must understand what you say, but he does not, and you do not try to take a new angle in your explanation.

When you enter a subject that happens to be a weak spot for that person and he do not inform you it is, or you do not respect it is.

2. Ask scientists... we probably want to keep our partners as they do us. Overly possessive is a sickness and can not be treated by you, only hurt you.

3. Because they have not yet learned to trust you, but want to get to know you. The fear of opening your persons inner being to someone and then get betrayed is strong in the beginning of a relation where you are serious with your feelings and intentions.

All in all... apart from being overly possessive I can only see that this man does want to understand you, he is stressing himself to do so, but it does not always get right.

Next time he do not understand, ask him to rephrase to you what he have understood; you will soon see where he got it wrong and you can work it out from there. Accept that the meaning of one word can be very different between people.

Dear Magrarita,

Are there really nine Magraritas? That would be fantastic.

With reference to your questions :

1. You say a 'male' meeting a 'genuine lady'. That is obviously part of the problem - I mean, your problem. Obviously, you see yourself as the 'genuine lady'and the 'male'as some generic quantity which cannot be refined further in definition. If you meet, say a 'gentleman' would you still say that he tries to destroy everthing? It is a little problem of definitions right at the outset. If you agree, would you please define what a 'genuine lady'is in real life.

2. This assertion is hard to support. It may be your personal experience but that experience is hardly universal.

3. This is the same point as you make in (2) above.

I have read your profile and you are a passionate person with a high degree of self-esteem. Perhaps you may be a a little touchy about men trying to be dominating - and that is often the case and I thing all 'males' would admit to it. But that is not the same thing as trying to take-over a woman and eventually leading to a destruction of a budding relationship.

Misunderstandings and different views are the stuff of life. They dont need to precipitate a breakup...a little understanding and give-and-take is all it needs.
Hi, friends from CS, I have 3 questions:

I am impressed by your profile, your strenght of conviction although it might be a wee bit too egotistic.

Wish you all the best.

Onlooker

Great thread! And everything in the postings so far is so true!!!!

We are men. Some of the things we do and want are genetically pre-programmed. We are complicated. Women are complicated. Some of the things they do and want are genetically pre-programmed. Human relationships are complex, and such fun, and and and....

Maybe because the genuine Lady is not that genuine !