grand son went missing last night ( Archived) (119)

Kitty

I am going to be frank here.

And I would appreciate you read this.

I think you and your daughter have had a scare, thinking about what could have happened is not worth your or her airtime. He is home safe.

There will always be people who will react to this kind of thing, laying blame on the parents, it makes them feel better and of course they would never do such a thing.

Well, I did, once, when my daughter was six weeks old, I took her out of the car, went into the bank, did what I had to do at the counter and walked back to my car, without my baby.

Hi Sommer,

I agree with alot of your points but the fact that parents may take issue with a 6 year old taking out the garbage in the evening where there are so many possible things that could happen to him doesn't seem unreasonable. It certainly doesn't make or anyone else "feel" better to question the judgement of this.

This is a 6 year old boy, I don't know the neighborhood, I don't know the people who live around there but certainly question why the 6 year old would be sent out to do this task. Even in broad daylight, it isn't like he is going to his own secure back yard.

It is unfortunate that we live in this kind of world but the fact of the matter is we do.

And yes, if an unattended baby drowned in the bathtub, I would question the parents on that one too.

I think that what folks are saying here is instead of being angry with the bus company or driver, take responsibility, say "wow, that was probably not a good idea" and learn from it.

Kids are kids, they are easily distracted and can wander off... we need to make good decisions for them, because sometimes they don't do it on their own.

I agree.

Completely.

We would sympathise if a parent lost a baby in a bathtub.

We would not, condemn them in public.

WHo would? A parent losing their child?

I agree, I would not be sending any six year old out with the trash, I would go with them.

And yes, I know.

Kids are kids.

You know guys, for me this have been an insightful thread, a happy end to a scare for the parents and Kitty, but for me something to behold and remember when I am one day as a father, in the kitchen, peeling potatoes.

Indeed Mike.

I will remember this. The next will be my grandchildren.

The only concern with me is..why would the child even wonder off..

I never let my child go outside alone to get the paper..garbage or play out alone..

I was always out there with him..if not me someone else..

my children knew enough not to go off the property.esp down the street...

my child is even 10 now and one of us is always out with him...

I quess maybe i am overly protective but at least i know i was out there and someone couldnt lure him off..or him to get that
chance to take off..

JMO

When I was 4, I sneaked off to the mall, as this chap did. Why? Well, you see, I had seen that the people in the library had money in a glass bowl, and I knew that money was needed to buy sweets.

The story ended with my father finally finding my under our terrace (it was a great place to hide, as I did know, that leaving from home unwarranted was not allowed ) eating sweets and having more money to spend.

I still remember the buzz of people around me, the police, everything. I was four... I had walked to the library, took money from the pot, entered the store and picked up sweets which I then paid for with this money and then back home again. No one interfered.

At seven I had a bicycle. One day my mum got a call from a friend telling her I was there. The friend lived in a house 11 km from home...

At ten, I took the train to visit my biological father. I had only gone there by car before, but I was p*ssed on my mum and wanted to leave. (Well, you know, the run-away story). I took a train, got to the right city 400 km away, left from the station and found my way to his house.

Did I have a bad child hood, was I abused or anything like that?

No.

I was simply a naturally born globetrotter and adventurer - I am still on my way, but now-a-days I know that the money in the Library is not for people to take. Most of all, I was a boy then as boys are most.

Well not mine...mine didnt dare to wonder off alone..

and the reason why i am saying this becos if its this dauaghter
we are talking about has many many issues with drinking and so on..

Of course things like drinking problems or drugs in general, sickness and other things can distort the attention of the parent, even make them unfit guardians.

But as Sweden have its own share of alcoholics I must say that it seems to be the most secure kids that commit this wild acts, as if they think the world could harm them (looking at myself and in my passport...)

The kids in families where they have troubles more often seem to try to stay home and help out or join up with other kids and make up for the lack of a "real family". Not venture out alone on a walkabout with an air of secure self that makes adults let you pass for someone on "legit business"

I am a laymen in these terms, I have seen very few things to support my thinking, it is more a feeling in my gut, and it could be wrong. I only have my own child hood to refer to.

yes that is true..I am not saying just becos of ur child hood was good/bad in what you did..

Just saying many issues here and things happen before..

but all in all the child is fine..but hopefully was sat
down and talk to about what may/could happen..

Not judging but if its with the same Daughter many issues again..

I love you Kitty not really being judgemental here but have read alot what you said before..and hopefully it doesnt happen again...

No one wants to ever learn from a tragedy when it could have been prevented..