Life is precious (20)

Hope this thread is not to heavy for CS and apologies in advance to anyone who may have had personal experiences similar. I don't intend to upset anyone........

Our workplace received a big shock today when we heard the news that one of our colleagues had taken their own life.

The first thing I thought of was my last conversation with this person and could I have known how they were feeling. It's so very very sad for the person and the family.

This person was not happy with the work situation they were in. They had been moved about without much choice and forced to work part time in two locations.

They obviously had many issues both at work and in their personal lives and honestly, I will never understand what drives a person to see that as their only option.

We have all felt depression at some time or another.....but this must be something far far worse.

I just wish that those people suffering will seek help from somewhere, either family, friends or professionals before it's too late.

We are all reeling and shocked and wish we could turn back to clock and have done something to help this poor person. so sad.......

Thanks for your support Kizzy and Reo. Sadly Kizzy, I feel your are right when you say there was probably nothing we could have done.

Life had become isolated for this person because they only seemed to see the negative. Others tended to distance themselves from this as no amount of reassuring or encouragement appeared to change their point of view. Which in turn made the situation worse for this person.

Yes let us all make an effort to ask those we spend our days with if they are okay and maybe listen to a little moaning from others more often in the hope that by listening we are helping in some small way to let them know we care....

Sadly suicide is a permanent solution to usually a temporary problem ... and sadly so many, get so down, that they feel they cannot go on ...


I once wrote a poem about depression, and I'll post it here ... because it is such a misunderstood illness ....


Its titled 'Depression'


I feel a gap increasing, as my life, goes on
A broken piece of ground, from days long gone
Missing places and people, as we sometimes do
Maybe in my private thoughts, one of them is you

I cannot change events, nor can I right a wrong
If I could, well no, I’ll just move it, right along
A distance that keeps increasing, no matter what I say
As one rolls in to another, yeah, another lonely day

I so often wonder about my purpose each awakening day
Sometimes I ask myself, if god called me, what I’d really say
How do I say sorry or repent my misgivings, from days past
Why do I worry about mistakes that seem endless and vast?

All is not as it seems, and happiness has gone away
Yet I get out of bed and do the mundane, day after day
I read of kiddies whom are so ill, and so unfairly dying
I have good health and life, yet I want to just stop trying

There seems a lack of logic and I wonder how I ended up here
Was it that I lacked the courage, you know, surrender to my fear
Maybe I have just realized, this is an un-winnable fight
Let me tell you people, this was my haunted dream late last night

I don’t have any answers and nor do I have the clues
Yet day after day depressions onslaught, leaves me with the blues
Another day to tackle, with some more than less clouding up my mind
Maybe my reason for life, might be in a lesson today, that I may find

Please don’t ask if I am ok, cause you know I will say I am
Don’t tell me you are concerned when I myself, don’t give a damn
This is not a cry for help, more, a letter of hope and understanding
One of the many pitfalls of depression, an illness so cruel and demanding.

guess the black dogs have come.....again ta get me

Very sorry to hear that Lilee.
Would be a tremendous shock to hear that at work.
We had one guy was killed in a motorbike accident, but suicide would be worse as you would be thinking, why didn't I do something to prevent this?

Prowler, that's a great poem and really captures the nature of depression. Very true that when someone ask how you are, you always say fine, because you really don't want to be talking about it. As you say because you really don't care anymore.
So the "R u OK", i don't see as much good. However, a general chat would certainly be good at any time, with someone who genuinely takes the time to listen.
I've had my depressive times over the years but am pretty good now. Still a long way to go though.

a friend of a friend hung himself just over a year ago........my thoughts at the time were that if he wasnt drinking that night he wouldnt have done it...........one thing i have learnt is that some people internalise their problems and some ppl externalise them.at the extreme ends of this scale is suicide(internalising) and murder(externalising)i hate to think that any of my friends or family would ever do this and really wish that ppl would talk their problems out in a safe way,call lifeline or get a councillor or join a support group, a problem shared is a problem halved