Guys: Would you consider going out with an avg. looking woman if she took a chance & asked you out (132)
EagleWoman: You're not getting it Felixis ... some women just don't do make up. It doesn't make them frumpy. It makes them natural. It doesn't mean their hair is a mess or their clothes!!! It just means they don't wear make (or jewelry sometimes).
What I don't get, is the assumption that a woman has to be adorned "as a rule" in order to be attractive to men.
What I don't get, is the assumption that a woman has to be adorned "as a rule" in order to be attractive to men.
Women don't have to be adorned these days (and glad I wasn't around if/when they were.) Give me good old GI Jane style any day.
Forcedhand: I'm going to get slapped here, but that question suggests you're below average in intelligence! Didn't you ever hear that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? Don't be rating yourself as a 6, the fact is that we're all someone's 1 and someone else's 10.
A lot of truth in that remark and the reality is that on the internet it seems that that menality is used in the selection process rather than getting to know the whole person. A handsome man/beautiful woman doesn't necessarily translate into a sparkling personality, but how often do we get/give the opportunity for the other person to flourish before us?
I remember talking for the longest time with someone without a picture ... he seemed to hestiate to send it, but finally it arrived months after we had first talking. He'd already captured my mind/imagination and I have to admit my heart - no picture required. His picture didn't capture his sparkling eyes, dimpled smile or the aura that surrounds him to draw me in like a magnet. I smile as I remember his self-description of himself - he didn't do himself justice in the least.
galrads: Women don't have to be adorned these days (and glad I wasn't around if/when they were.) Give me good old GI Jane style any day.
When I was working, up to last year I was high maintenance getting my hair and nails done. I gussied up everyday with makeup, fixed my hair and dressed accordingly for a law office. I did it for two reasons: It was expected of me to dress professionally AND I felt good when I knew I looked good. Now I'm not working, I rarely wear makeup and never dress up anymore. I wear old stretch pants, old tee shirt usually with stains, heat is expensive so I wear a flannel shirt around the house, by body is clean, my teeth are brushed and my nails look like hell, but I don't care. I not only don't care about that stuff anymore but since losing my job, I can't afford the beauty treatments. If somebody caught my eye on here and wanted to meet I would wear a little makeup but not so much that it changed my personality. My clothes for that meeting would be nice stretch pants and a tee shirt that didn't have stains
Much has changed in my life and now I am more truer to who I am then I ever was...
venusenvy: O Please!! They should be so lucky
fieldworking: I'm asking because I consider myself to be average in appearance. I realize that I will never be one of the prettier women or one of the "hot women." I don't think that I am unattractive. Basically, I think that I'm a 6. Anyway, I was wondering if guys would take a second look at me if I took the chance and asked them out. It doesn't have to be me but just an average looking woman in general.
Have you ever seen the movie "Forever Young"? Well, do what makes you happy but don't wait until forever because of some "average" thing. We're all average!
montecito: When I was working, up to last year I was high maintenance getting my hair and nails done. I gussied up everyday with makeup, fixed my hair and dressed accordingly for a law office. I did it for two reasons: It was expected of me to dress professionally AND I felt good when I knew I looked good. Now I'm not working, I rarely wear makeup and never dress up anymore. I wear old stretch pants, old tee shirt usually with stains, heat is expensive so I wear a flannel shirt around the house, by body is clean, my teeth are brushed and my nails look like hell, but I don't care. I not only don't care about that stuff anymore but since losing my job, I can't afford the beauty treatments. If somebody caught my eye on here and wanted to meet I would wear a little makeup but not so much that it changed my personality. My clothes for that meeting would be nice stretch pants and a tee shirt that didn't have stains Much has changed in my life and now I am more truer to who I am then I ever was...
Hey, Monte. i used to work as assistant director in a pretty posh gallery. everyday: hair done..makeup on..little black dress..high heels. but now that i teach art, most folks expect a little eccentricity, and accept me however i'm dressed. lol. and frankly i prefer it that way. and i gotta tell ya...since i switched my pic to straw hat and glasses, the mail is way more interesting on here as well. i think the way it works is just be genuine to yourself, and you'll connect with like minded folks.
jono7: i used to work as assistant director in a pretty posh gallery. everyday: hair done..makeup on..little black dress..high heels. but now that i teach art, most folks expect a little eccentricity, and accept me however i'm dressed. lol. and frankly i prefer it that way. and i gotta tell ya...since i switched my pic to straw hat and glasses, the mail is way more interesting on here as well. i think the way it works is just be genuine to yourself, and you'll connect with like minded folks.
Hey, Jono. I'm not saying your disingenuous but you're not chewing on any straw in your current primary picture.
it's in my other hand...grin
jono7: it's in my other hand...grin
smarty. should be cannabis anyways...... galrads: smarty. should be cannabis anyways......
did i say it wasn't....lol
(yah, and there's a pony in the room too...grin)
jono7: i used to work as assistant director in a pretty posh gallery. everyday: hair done..makeup on..little black dress..high heels. but now that i teach art, most folks expect a little eccentricity, and accept me however i'm dressed. lol. and frankly i prefer it that way. and i gotta tell ya...since i switched my pic to straw hat and glasses, the mail is way more interesting on here as well. i think the way it works is just be genuine to yourself, and you'll connect with like minded folks.
my last post was for this comment ! 
montecito: When I was working, up to last year I was high maintenance getting my hair and nails done. I gussied up everyday with makeup, fixed my hair and dressed accordingly for a law office. I did it for two reasons: It was expected of me to dress professionally AND I felt good when I knew I looked good. Now I'm not working, I rarely wear makeup and never dress up anymore. I wear old stretch pants, old tee shirt usually with stains, heat is expensive so I wear a flannel shirt around the house, by body is clean, my teeth are brushed and my nails look like hell, but I don't care. I not only don't care about that stuff anymore but since losing my job, I can't afford the beauty treatments. If somebody caught my eye on here and wanted to meet I would wear a little makeup but not so much that it changed my personality. My clothes for that meeting would be nice stretch pants and a tee shirt that didn't have stains Much has changed in my life and now I am more truer to who I am then I ever was...
Very well said Monts
fieldworking: I'm asking because I consider myself to be average in appearance. I realize that I will never be one of the prettier women or one of the "hot women." I don't think that I am unattractive. Basically, I think that I'm a 6. Anyway, I was wondering if guys would take a second look at me if I took the chance and asked them out. It doesn't have to be me but just an average looking woman in general.
I course I would! I notice that all the votes are Yes to going out with an average woman. And Field is definitely more than average.
i knew that...grin (thank you)
i like that all the votes say yes in the poll. and i agree with above. i don't think the OP is average either. but i don't see her on here now and i hope that's coz she's dealing with all her mail. grin
i like that all the votes say yes in the poll. and i agree with above. i don't think the OP is average either. but i don't see her on here now and i hope that's coz she's dealing with all her mail. grin
oops! my last comment was for this comment....lol
fieldworking: I'm asking because I consider myself to be average in appearance. I realize that I will never be one of the prettier women or one of the "hot women." I don't think that I am unattractive. Basically, I think that I'm a 6. Anyway, I was wondering if guys would take a second look at me if I took the chance and asked them out. It doesn't have to be me but just an average looking woman in general.
You look great to me. But if you were 'average' , whatever that is, your approach, personality, timing etc. would weigh far more heavily in my decision. Likewise if you were a beauty queen or hottie. What's the sense going out with somebody who you know right off you are not going to like in a million years.
The physical while important should not be the only criteria used when deciding to date or not to date.
Iam consider myself as an average looking too
and they always avoid me to asking me on a date 
and they always avoid me to asking me on a date fieldworking: I'm asking because I consider myself to be average in appearance. I realize that I will never be one of the prettier women or one of the "hot women." I don't think that I am unattractive. Basically, I think that I'm a 6. Anyway, I was wondering if guys would take a second look at me if I took the chance and asked them out. It doesn't have to be me but just an average looking woman in general.
whoaaaa...wanna ask the same question to y'all guys..
R don't under estimate yourself. You are a beautiful young lady. The only reason I don't try to date you is I'm to old for you.
Manroe has a habit of underestimating herself. She's much more than average.
Thanks for the encouragement guys, but look my glasses iam just looks like a nerd
So is Nardia. They are both pretty women, but to young for me.
manroe23: Thanks for the encouragement guys, but look my glasses iam just looks like a nerd
M, those glasses look great on you!!
Forcedhand: I'm going to get slapped here, but that question suggests you're below average in intelligence! Didn't you ever hear that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? Don't be rating yourself as a 6, the fact is that we're all someone's 1 and someone else's 10.
Hmm...thanks for saying that I'm stupid but I will have to say that I'm not. I may have my moments but we all do. If I were stupid then I wouldn't be in grad school. I am aware that I am a 1 to some people and 10 to someone else. But I am also realistic. If I were more attractive then more guys would be paying me attention. Maybe they have and I just didn't realize it. So, maybe in that sense I am stupid. Like I said earlier, I know that I'm not ugly (at least in comparison to people that I have met) but I'm never going to be as attractive as someone like Jennifer Love Hewitt, Beyonce, or Kim Kardashian. Not that I would want the kind of attention. I am just realistic. It seems that the guys I am interested in are more attractive than I am and the guys interested in me are guys that I'm not really attracted to. Yes, looks do matter to people. There is a need to be attracted to physically to someone before you can find yourself attracted to someone's personality (inner beauty). My personality kicks butt.
binghamm: You look great to me. But if you were 'average' , whatever that is, your approach, personality, timing etc. would weigh far more heavily in my decision. Likewise if you were a beauty queen or hottie. What's the sense going out with somebody who you know right off you are not going to like in a million years.
The physical while important should not be the only criteria used when deciding to date or not to date.
The physical while important should not be the only criteria used when deciding to date or not to date.
I do agree, the looks aren't the only thing to look at when considering to date someone. The way you look does get the attention long enough to see the personality. I know what I'm like. I'm smart, witty/funny, mischevious, and stubborn. Yes, I am looking for a long term relationship that could lead to marriage. I think we all want someone that we are physically attracted to. But I can say, at least for me, that if I went out with an attractive guy and he couldn't keep me intrigued intellectually and make me laugh then it wouldn't last. There are a lot of attractive guys out there but I wouldn't go out with them because they are conceited. I'd give most guys a chance as long as they looked like they took care of themselves and seemed like they had a reasonable personality (as well as something more than marbles between their ears).
manroe23: Thanks for the encouragement guys, but look my glasses iam just looks like a nerd
Me too...I'd go for contacts or the corrective surgery but I've been wearing glasses since I was 10 and I'm 30 now. So, I think I look better with glasses.
Your very pretty you just need some confidence back im single does that mean im ugly.. dont answer that lol I know im hideoys lol jk
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it doesn;t hurt to leave the inner frump at home sometimes - I have my days where I go about hair a mess & no make up toobut wouldn;t consider that for a date
You're not getting it Felixis ... some women just don't do make up. It doesn't make them frumpy. It makes them natural. It doesn't mean their hair is a mess or their clothes!!! It just means they don't wear make (or jewelry sometimes).
What I don't get, is the assumption that a woman has to be adorned "as a rule" in order to be attractive to men.