Guys: Would you consider going out with an avg. looking woman if she took a chance & asked you out (132)
hazzemania: I can only talk for myself but I wouldn´t date a person I considered to be average looking or continue dating one that it didn´t click with mentally.
It may very well be so that she might consider herself average but that´s another story. If there´s no physical attraction it doesn´t matter if they are a perfect match in every other way. I rather stay single than get into a relationship with someone who doesn´t attract me on all levels.
But as I said, it is the oppinion I have about the girl that is important not how high or low she ranks herself. I have been with women who have considered themself to be average and I have seen them as perfect 10s.
It may very well be so that she might consider herself average but that´s another story. If there´s no physical attraction it doesn´t matter if they are a perfect match in every other way. I rather stay single than get into a relationship with someone who doesn´t attract me on all levels.
But as I said, it is the oppinion I have about the girl that is important not how high or low she ranks herself. I have been with women who have considered themself to be average and I have seen them as perfect 10s.
I feel the same way. The physical attraction needs to be there but there also needs to be a connection on the mental level as well.
JAN_is: The part of your post I´ve highlighted is an interesting point which made me think. Perhaps a big advantage of dating sites, or at least those with active forums such as CS, offer more opportunities for those who are not "drop dead gorgeous". What I mean is that the character and personality can often shine through on the forums and become a greater attribute than good physical looks, which undoubtedly is what gets noticed first and foremost in the "real world".
Anyway, those who are "drop dead gorgeous" are very often scammers or using fake pics. I know of one woman here in Spain who regularly reinvents herself, and country, using fake pics of much younger and beautiful women. It isn´t me btw!
Anyway, those who are "drop dead gorgeous" are very often scammers or using fake pics. I know of one woman here in Spain who regularly reinvents herself, and country, using fake pics of much younger and beautiful women. It isn´t me btw!
I hadn't thought about it like that...the fake pics. Thanks.
JAN_is: The part of your post I´ve highlighted is an interesting point which made me think. Perhaps a big advantage of dating sites, or at least those with active forums such as CS, offer more opportunities for those who are not "drop dead gorgeous". What I mean is that the character and personality can often shine through on the forums and become a greater attribute than good physical looks, which undoubtedly is what gets noticed first and foremost in the "real world".
Anyway, those who are "drop dead gorgeous" are very often scammers or using fake pics. I know of one woman here in Spain who regularly reinvents herself, and country, using fake pics of much younger and beautiful women. It isn´t me btw!
Anyway, those who are "drop dead gorgeous" are very often scammers or using fake pics. I know of one woman here in Spain who regularly reinvents herself, and country, using fake pics of much younger and beautiful women. It isn´t me btw!
Give us her initials.
Oh now...say it ain't so. Women would never do such thing!
jac379: Very few of our friends become our lovers
Try throwing in a little alcohol in the mix ;)
fieldworking: I feel the same way. The physical attraction needs to be there but there also needs to be a connection on the mental level as well.
If a woman asked me out, I certainly am not stupid enough to say no. Wouldn't matter what she looked like, only that she wanted to go out.
HuggerMan4U: If a woman asked me out, I certainly am not stupid enough to say no. Wouldn't matter what she looked like, only that she wanted to go out.
We are all different, and thats the beauty with this world. I wouldn´t say yes if I wasn´t attracted to her because then I would only steal her time and get her hopes up.
fieldworking: Yes, I'd go out with you if you asked. It could be a problem though since you're in Australia and I'm hear in the U.S. I understand where you're coming from. Do guys notice me? Women aren't the only ones who don't say anything. Guys look but don't say anything. It's all in the facial expression...at least it has been in my experience (even though that's about all I get here lately). I feel the same way about guys...if they're interested then so.
That's the problem with CS forums, we always seem to click with people on the other side of the planet.
hazzemania: I can only talk for myself but I wouldn´t date a person I considered to be average looking or continue dating one that it didn´t click with mentally.
It may very well be so that she might consider herself average but that´s another story. If there´s no physical attraction it doesn´t matter if they are a perfect match in every other way. I rather stay single than get into a relationship with someone who doesn´t attract me on all levels.
But as I said, it is the oppinion I have about the girl that is important not how high or low she ranks herself. I have been with women who have considered themself to be average and I have seen them as perfect 10s.
All levels? I believe that is what's happening with most people here on CS. Even with profiles, just by having one small thing not meet the criteria automatically raises the red flag. And the same goes for posting in the forums. Not everyone will be in 100% agreement with another. But that is what separate's us from that standard melting pot, our differences.It may very well be so that she might consider herself average but that´s another story. If there´s no physical attraction it doesn´t matter if they are a perfect match in every other way. I rather stay single than get into a relationship with someone who doesn´t attract me on all levels.
But as I said, it is the oppinion I have about the girl that is important not how high or low she ranks herself. I have been with women who have considered themself to be average and I have seen them as perfect 10s.
Unfortunately, many possibilities can and do get overlooked because of it.
hazzemania: Try throwing in a little alcohol in the mix ;)
That never worked with me.
Two glasses of wine and I'm plain asleep.
Rocksmith: That's the problem with CS forums, we always seem to click with people on the other side of the planet.
That is so very true. The guys that live within a certain distance of where I am (i.e., 25 to 100 miles) don't seem to notice me. That's a globalization though. They notice but that's about it.
Rocksmith: That's the problem with CS forums, we always seem to click with people on the other side of the planet.
But do we really? I think it´s often the difference in culture that attracts, which doesn´t necessarily mean there would be a true connection if those two people actually met, and sometimes, with some people here, it´s the "safety" of communicating with someone afar because deep down one
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
JAN_is: But do we really? I think it´s often the difference in culture that attracts, which doesn´t necessarily mean there would be a true connection if those two people actually met, and sometimes, with some people here, it´s the "safety" of communicating with someone afar because deep down one
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
I think if it was as simple as the diffence in culture, it would happen more often.
But it doesn't... Not very often at all!
JAN_is: But do we really? I think it´s often the difference in culture that attracts, which doesn´t necessarily mean there would be a true connection if those two people actually met, and sometimes, with some people here, it´s the "safety" of communicating with someone afar because deep down one
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
A lot of folk just use the forums as a for of chat room entertainment. They just log on and chat to "friends" they have made on here over the time they have been using C S.
Some do attend meetings and have laugh, I often wonder if folk are using this as a form of social entertainment without having to actually meet the folk they chat to.
I have met a few folk from here socially and chat to others pretty regularly on the forums and some by the odd E-mail.As always I say to each their own and it is harmless in the main....
So with or without commitment I reckon folk get what they want fro CS. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion....
patmac: A lot of folk just use the forums as a for of chat room entertainment. They just log on and chat to "friends" they have made on here over the time they have been using C S.
Some do attend meetings and have laugh, I often wonder if folk are using this as a form of social entertainment without having to actually meet the folk they chat to.
I have met a few folk from here socially and chat to others pretty regularly on the forums and some by the odd E-mail.As always I say to each their own and it is harmless in the main....
So with or without commitment I reckon folk get what they want fro CS. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion....
Some do attend meetings and have laugh, I often wonder if folk are using this as a form of social entertainment without having to actually meet the folk they chat to.
I have met a few folk from here socially and chat to others pretty regularly on the forums and some by the odd E-mail.As always I say to each their own and it is harmless in the main....
So with or without commitment I reckon folk get what they want fro CS. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion....
Oh and as to the question in the point of the thread.....I would be more than happy to.
fieldworking: I'm asking because I consider myself to be average in appearance. I realize that I will never be one of the prettier women or one of the "hot women." I don't think that I am unattractive. Basically, I think that I'm a 6. Anyway, I was wondering if guys would take a second look at me if I took the chance and asked them out. It doesn't have to be me but just an average looking woman in general.
good hearted a plus,also.id give u more than a 6.jac379: That never worked with me.
Two glasses of wine and I'm plain asleep.
Two glasses of wine and I'm plain asleep.
Maybe you should try vodka instead? ;)
Rocksmith: I think if it was as simple as the diffence in culture, it would happen more often.
But it doesn't... Not very often at all!
But it doesn't... Not very often at all!
But it does happen here, very often. There are huge cultural differences between the Brits, Americans, and Aussies like yourself, I´m not just referring to Eastern and Western cultural differences.
I think it´s very easy here.....too easy in fact, to strike up a friendship, or romance, from across the miles, but most of the time nothing serious actually comes of it.
I say this after having been an on and off member of CS for almost 6 years and having seen the literally handful of couples who do actually succeed. I like the forum banter.....sometimes!, and they are the only reason I visit occasionally. I have made no friends, but there are a few people who write to me and I to them, and very nice people they are, but they are not the same as my friends offline, how on earth could they be if I´ve never met them?
It´s best to stick to real life encounters or local dating sites in my opinion if one is seriously looking for a partner.
YouMeUs: All levels? I believe that is what's happening with most people here on CS. Even with profiles, just by having one small thing not meet the criteria automatically raises the red flag. And the same goes for posting in the forums. Not everyone will be in 100% agreement with another. But that is what separate's us from that standard melting pot, our differences.
Unfortunately, many possibilities can and do get overlooked because of it.
Unfortunately, many possibilities can and do get overlooked because of it.
I don´t want the person I date to think exactly as I do. I welcome different views and would love to meet someone who have other opinions than those I have. If I would meet someone who had the exact same view as I have on things none of us would ever challenge eachother and then we would stop evolving mentally. I´m not sure I´m making myself clear as english is not my first language and in text it´s sometimes harder.
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
hazzemania: I don´t want the person I date to think exactly as I do. I welcome different views and would love to meet someone who have other opinions than those I have. If I would meet someone who had the exact same view as I have on things none of us would ever challenge eachother and then we would stop evolving mentally. I´m not sure I´m making myself clear as english is not my first language and in text it´s sometimes harder.
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
Great post!
hazzemania: I don´t want the person I date to think exactly as I do. I welcome different views and would love to meet someone who have other opinions than those I have. If I would meet someone who had the exact same view as I have on things none of us would ever challenge eachother and then we would stop evolving mentally. I´m not sure I´m making myself clear as english is not my first language and in text it´s sometimes harder.
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
There ya go, now that's what I'm talking about. By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
hazzemania: I don´t want the person I date to think exactly as I do. I welcome different views and would love to meet someone who have other opinions than those I have. If I would meet someone who had the exact same view as I have on things none of us would ever challenge eachother and then we would stop evolving mentally. I´m not sure I´m making myself clear as english is not my first language and in text it´s sometimes harder.
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
By clicking on all levels I meant that I have to be attracted by everything about her. She´s got to match me mentally and physically but I don´t want her to think exactly as I do or God forbid look exactly like I do. Our interests doesn´t have to be all the same but as I like to take care of my body and appearance I wouldn´t click with someone who doesn´t care what she eats or doesn´t like to be physical active.
No ones perfect and none are alike, it´s the small things that separates us and that makes us who we are. In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams character says the following about his dead wifes idiosyncrasies "People call these things imperfections, but they're not, aw that's the good stuff."
My analogy would be, we don't need to be on the same road all the time, but it's important to be going in the same direction.
I'm different from every other guy on this site. I give every woman an equal chance, regardless of looks. What's inside is the only criterion for me. Looks fade, but who a woman is inside stays with them for life. I'm like a double blind study with woman. I don't know who I'm going out with, but by the time I date her, I know she's a beautiful person inside, which is all that counts with me.
thanksJAN_is: But do we really? I think it´s often the difference in culture that attracts, which doesn´t necessarily mean there would be a true connection if those two people actually met, and sometimes, with some people here, it´s the "safety" of communicating with someone afar because deep down one
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
doesn´t seriously want to commit, and knows nothing will come of it.
Very well stated!
Amity: im average and been single for 5 yrs!! You guys lie
I'm average and have been single all my life. What is your point?
But it does happen here, very often. There are huge cultural differences between the Brits, Americans, and Aussies like yourself, I´m not just referring to Eastern and Western cultural differences.
I think it´s very easy here.....too easy in fact, to strike up a friendship, or romance, from across the miles, but most of the time nothing serious actually comes of it.
I say this after having been an on and off member of CS for almost 6 years and having seen the literally handful of couples who do actually succeed. I like the forum banter.....sometimes!, and they are the only reason I visit occasionally. I have made no friends, but there are a few people who write to me and I to them, and very nice people they are, but they are not the same as my friends offline, how on earth could they be if I´ve never met them?
It´s best to stick to real life encounters or local dating sites in my opinion if one is seriously looking for a partner.[/quote
Ok Jan you say it happens very often... it may well do "for you"
But it doesn't for me!
It's quite easy to strike up a friendship or romance 'anywhere', be it on CS with someone on the other side of the globe or the girl next door.
But most of the time nothing serious actually comes of it.
It all goes back to the "click" thing i was refering to.
For some of us it just doesn't happen often!
Cheers.
I think it´s very easy here.....too easy in fact, to strike up a friendship, or romance, from across the miles, but most of the time nothing serious actually comes of it.
I say this after having been an on and off member of CS for almost 6 years and having seen the literally handful of couples who do actually succeed. I like the forum banter.....sometimes!, and they are the only reason I visit occasionally. I have made no friends, but there are a few people who write to me and I to them, and very nice people they are, but they are not the same as my friends offline, how on earth could they be if I´ve never met them?
It´s best to stick to real life encounters or local dating sites in my opinion if one is seriously looking for a partner.[/quote
Ok Jan you say it happens very often... it may well do "for you"
But it doesn't for me!
It's quite easy to strike up a friendship or romance 'anywhere', be it on CS with someone on the other side of the globe or the girl next door.
But most of the time nothing serious actually comes of it.
It all goes back to the "click" thing i was refering to.
For some of us it just doesn't happen often!
Cheers.
Ccincy: fieldworking as you know that love is loving people for what they are not what they look like.
Why would you consider yourself Average?
Why would you consider yourself Average?
If you notice the ratings on my pics, it seems to suggest that I am average in appearance. It could be that the pics aren't that great or it could be that I'm not as attractive as I thought I was. Oh well...to each their own.
fieldworking: If you notice the ratings on my pics, it seems to suggest that I am average in appearance. It could be that the pics aren't that great or it could be that I'm not as attractive as I thought I was. Oh well...to each their own.
You had some high ratings there as well but to begin with why would you let the opinions of others bring you down?
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I think very often, maybe particularly with online dating, that people put too much focus, or pressure on themselves to find a lover. If you pile in and make lots of friends (and the forums are very good for that) you may find with one of those friends, the sparks start flying.
...as does the fur...