Guys: Would you consider going out with an avg. looking woman if she took a chance & asked you out (132)

Me, wearing it since high school maybe we should date men with glasses too

I would say above average

I disagree with you totally.

I once knew a brother and a sister. She was physically very attractive, he wasn't so much. I was really surprised to find they were siblings because they looked so different.

The more I got to know them, the less attractive she became, but he used to make my heart flutter.

I think maybe you should get to know fellas as friends to start with. That attraction thingy can just grow and grow.

fieldworking as you know that love is loving people for what they are not what they look like.

Why would you consider yourself Average?

Seems you're above a lot of prejudicial things that keep most people from growing.....

Ya sure i would like to go heart beauty is matter if she love me i will go definitly

Just remember. There are far more of us "average" people than the "hotties". You heard the old adage that beauty is only skin deep. Well it is true. I have met some women I thought were beautiful until I got to know them. Then they were some of the ugliest people in the world and vice versa. Just for the record, I'd probably ask you out.

it all depends how avarage she is and in what way ?

You're right that attraction can grow but people don't always take a second look. I've known physically attractive people that have a horrible personality and others that were average or maybe not so average in physical appearance and had a great personality. Sometimes, people have the looks and the personality while others lack a little something in the looks department as well as in their personality.

I have guys that are friends and I think that may be part of the problem. They see me more as friends and not as someone that is dateable.

Good questions. Sometimes these guy friends are already in a relationship (have a girlfriend or are married). I wouldn't want to be the reason that they separated. If I intentionally did something to break up a relationship then who's to say that he wouldn't leave me for someone else. There have been a couple of times when I was interested and didn't say anything and I'm glad I didn't. Before I said anything, a guy friend made a comment about a woman that was slightly overweight (how he wouldn't date a woman that was fat). Well, I never told him how I felt. Why? Because I am overweight. I have lost weight since then, but I am still overweight by 25 lbs. That's a good bit for someone my height, but at least I am now classified as overweight and not obese. That happened just from losing 17 lbs. (eating better and working out at the gym).

I have taken chances and asked guys out. I asked this one guy out (more of an acquaintance than a friend). I had known him for awhile but we didn't see each other frequently. When I asked him, he politely turned me down. Why? He is happily married. I never noticed the wedding ring on his finger when I asked him out (or before that time). That is just one example but the point is there.

Me taking a chance to let a guy know that I am interested can be said for guys and not just women. Of course, I don't think that many women will go up to a guy and let them know that they are interested in being more than friends. At my age, it seems like it is difficult enough just to find friends and even harder to meet guys. Most of the guys that I know are in a similar situation as I am. We're in grad school.

Yes, I'd go out with you if you'd ask. I'm shy at times, and it's hard for me to figure out what women want when they never says a thing, onlu uses their looks, glances, playing games to my way of thinking. I like plain speaking, honesty.

And what about me? Would you go out with me if I ask? I'm not that good looking either, maybe average. It's really hard to figure women out, everywhere. It makes me tried, wondering all the time. It's like I can feel the invisible wall. Is it my imagination? I don't know. Yet I sees their eyes, staring at me, looking me over all the time, when I'm out there. I'd catch them, and they'd look away quickly. I'm tired of that games. If they're interested, say so, not play games like innuendos kind of thing.

Oh well.

Very few of our friends become our lovers, but a lover who is not a friend, doesn't stay a lover for very long.

I think very often, maybe particularly with online dating, that people put too much focus, or pressure on themselves to find a lover. If you pile in and make lots of friends (and the forums are very good for that) you may find with one of those friends, the sparks start flying.

Hey man, are you still considering on whether or not you want to publicly apologize to this young lady for making your insensitive remark. Not that I consider myself anywhere close to being a pc police but I'm just hoping you do.

The part of your post I´ve highlighted is an interesting point which made me think. Perhaps a big advantage of dating sites, or at least those with active forums such as CS, offer more opportunities for those who are not "drop dead gorgeous". What I mean is that the character and personality can often shine through on the forums and become a greater attribute than good physical looks, which undoubtedly is what gets noticed first and foremost in the "real world".

Anyway, those who are "drop dead gorgeous" are very often scammers or using fake pics. I know of one woman here in Spain who regularly reinvents herself, and country, using fake pics of much younger and beautiful women. It isn´t me btw!

Yes, I'd go out with you if you asked. It could be a problem though since you're in Australia and I'm hear in the U.S. I understand where you're coming from. Do guys notice me? Women aren't the only ones who don't say anything. Guys look but don't say anything. It's all in the facial expression...at least it has been in my experience (even though that's about all I get here lately). I feel the same way about guys...if they're interested then so.