When a woman says 'you seem like a really nice guy' What does it really mean? (78)
Tormented: it depends on the woman!
it can mean interested or uninterested.
her eyes will tell you which one.
it can mean interested or uninterested.
her eyes will tell you which one.
If she looks down when she says that it means she doesn't want to look into your eyes when she hurts your feelings.
It means I'm not interested in you. Thanks for the coffee, good luck to you.
the definitive translation (now write this down) is that ....in fact......you seem like a really nice guy
Tormented: it depends on the woman!
it can mean interested or uninterested.
her eyes will tell you which one.
it can mean interested or uninterested.
her eyes will tell you which one.
Exactly!
......and her body language too.
kevin2163: I here women say this one a lot! I have had it said to me a few times before!
Most of the time, that is declining in a kind and nice way.
But it seems most guys don't get it.
kevin2163: I here women say this one a lot! I have had it said to me a few times before!
Whatever happened to plain old honesty? It seems to me that if You're not interested in a person in a romantic capacity then be up front, tell them, they are hopefully after all adults, they'll get over it! If on the other hand You used veiled language and dance around the subject then You just open the stage for confusion and resentment. Say what You mean and mean what You say.
justjim63: Whatever happened to plain old honesty? It seems to me that if You're not interested in a person in a romantic capacity then be up front, tell them, they are hopefully after all adults, they'll get over it! If on the other hand You used veiled language and dance around the subject then You just open the stage for confusion and resentment. Say what You mean and mean what You say.
Yeah, well it's better if girls are that direct. No confusion, all is clear.. But some girls just can't. Shyness maybe. Mostly in more conservative countries, that's like that. Or (for some) they just don't want to lose the attention even if they don't like the source of it.
......must be a lot of red indian...woman on here.....cause when I smile say hello....they say>>>>>>>>>>
off.
off. justjim63: Whatever happened to plain old honesty? It seems to me that if You're not interested in a person in a romantic capacity then be up front, tell them, they are hopefully after all adults, they'll get over it! If on the other hand You used veiled language and dance around the subject then You just open the stage for confusion and resentment. Say what You mean and mean what You say.
Agreed!
But, nothing stopping the confused person asking for clarity, either..
kevin2163: I here women say this one a lot! I have had it said to me a few times before!
it means you are an albatross....
LadyDiz: Agreed! But, nothing stopping the confused person asking for clarity, either..
So true, we have a voice for a reason.
I've not answered the poll because what a woman means when she says this it is less about the actually words and more about her tone and the way she says it.
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
dateadave: I've not answered the poll because what a woman means when she says this it is less about the actually words and more about her tone and the way she says it.
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
dateadave: "You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
I agree!
dateadave: I've not answered the poll because what a woman means when she says this it is less about the actually words and more about her tone and the way she says it.
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
I will however say this.
The word 'seem' leaves uncertainty i.e.
"You seem like a really nice guy" is no-where near as positive as "You're a really nice guy".
Such a small difference in language but such a big difference in meaning.
Although if a woman says, "You're a really great guy"
Bazinga!
Good post.
And I guess the body language eye contact and context all have a part to play in it's interpretation.justjim63: Whatever happened to plain old honesty? It seems to me that if You're not interested in a person in a romantic capacity then be up front, tell them, they are hopefully after all adults, they'll get over it! If on the other hand You used veiled language and dance around the subject then You just open the stage for confusion and resentment. Say what You mean and mean what You say.
I'm totally with you on that. What is best than honesty! Unfortunately in the times we live in things are not as simple as they used to be. For instance, in the old times if a boy made a move and the girl politely but straight forwardly declined him, he would behave like a gentleman and keep it at that. Nowadays, gossip, especially among teenagers / college students, became a powerful weapon...
Ancient Greeks used to say Metron Ariston (i.e. it is right to avoid the extremes and excesses, and to seek and find in every act, the qualitative proportions). Somewhere in the course of time we've lost this in many aspects of our lives... Plain old honesty, in some occasions/cultures can be interpreted as rudeness or lack of sensitivity. So, in an effort to "sugar coat" honesty, in time, we ended up saying one thing and mean another - and to this thread, trying to interpret if a simple phrase is acceptance, rejection, or something in between...
Krokox: I'm totally with you on that. What is best than honesty! Unfortunately in the times we live in things are not as simple as they used to be. For instance, in the old times if a boy made a move and the girl politely but straight forwardly declined him, he would behave like a gentleman and keep it at that. Nowadays, gossip, especially among teenagers / college students, became a powerful weapon...
Ancient Greeks used to say Metron Ariston (i.e. it is right to avoid the extremes and excesses, and to seek and find in every act, the qualitative proportions). Somewhere in the course of time we've lost this in many aspects of our lives... Plain old honesty, in some occasions/cultures can be interpreted as rudeness or lack of sensitivity. So, in an effort to "sugar coat" honesty, in time, we ended up saying one thing and mean another - and to this thread, trying to interpret if a simple phrase is acceptance, rejection, or something in between...
Ancient Greeks used to say Metron Ariston (i.e. it is right to avoid the extremes and excesses, and to seek and find in every act, the qualitative proportions). Somewhere in the course of time we've lost this in many aspects of our lives... Plain old honesty, in some occasions/cultures can be interpreted as rudeness or lack of sensitivity. So, in an effort to "sugar coat" honesty, in time, we ended up saying one thing and mean another - and to this thread, trying to interpret if a simple phrase is acceptance, rejection, or something in between...
Very well said.
kevin2163: I here women say this one a lot! I have had it said to me a few times before!
I did not bullet any of the answers, because non of them fit with what I feel, when I say that to a fellow. First and foremost, I am completely honest, I get into trouble, sometimes, not thinking before I say something, but not always. When I say "You seem like a nice guy," it means that I'm not sure, but what you say and what you wrote, (in your profile, for example), makes me think you are a nice guy. When I say or write, "You are a nice guy," I truly mean it, you are a nice guy. I don't mean you "won't get laid" or that there is no chance with me, I'm just saying exactly what I see, read or hear. You are really a nice guy. Period. I don't see anything wrong with telling a fellow that. As a matter of fact, I do compliment people, with their personality, what they wear or how they wear their hair. I will go right up to someone, I might see in the store and tell them how nice they look. If a fellow talks to me, I can tell if he's a nice guy. I will tell him, that too. Just like if a lady talks to me, I will think and tell her how nice she is. The trouble with this world, is everyone is in such a hurry, and second guesses what another person is thinking and saying. So, if you are in doubt, don't assume, just ask, you might find you are really the nice guy and maybe she wants to get to know you more!
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it can mean interested or uninterested.
her eyes will tell you which one.