Does your partner need to know ALL of your friends? ( Archived) (48)

What I mean is if my boyfriend needs to "meet and greet" all of my friends, he doesn't have to. But he's supposed to have an idea of who they are. From work, from HS, from college.

Not that I don't want him to know of the friends I meet.

The last time I looked on my friends list it said, "You have no friends".

Harsh.

Wouldn't it bother you if he made a secret of it?

Tell your future husband I'm your friend!

Of course that would bother me. Eventually I would want to meet that person at least once. I don't have to become bbf's with each of his friends though. I am not a jealous person by nature and I have to trust him that he would be faithful. I would have no problem with him having female friends either.

Isn't there a contradiction in answering yes?
Trust, but only if I know everything?
Isn't that the whole point?
Trusting, regardless of knowing all?
Know and understand all and trust becomes irrelevant.
Don't know all and one becomes deceitfull or is dishonest? mad.

Exactly! Thank you!

I don't need to know a single friend of hers; I don't need to know where she is, with whom, what she does, etc.

A boyfriend having lunch with his female friend that we know of is not bothersome at all. If he forgot to mention it,I would know. If he deliberately made it a secret, I would know.

And I think, a MAN knows if his gf is one who would take a truth gracefully, or would make it seem like a reason for a world war. At the end of the day, it would all depend on each of the partner's behavior in and towards the relationship.

I would have to get some friends first

Well said! If it's deliberately kept a secret, something's wrong. I would then qquestion him and his secret luncheon. That would make me suspicious of course. I may not be jealous, but I'm not oblivious either.

I think you nailed it there. The point of trust is not in the knowledge but the lack of it. But MEN and WOMEN should not disregard each other's differences. Women are most of the time interested in details, and most of us get suspicious when men failed to mention the small ones. I am not saying it's right, but it is our nature to look to details. Not all, but most of us. There are also some women who have gotten past of the compulsion of knowing all the details. But if a woman is not interested in details in you guys, most of the time it means she doesn't care.. And if the woman doesn't care, it isn't good.

Men on the other hand speaks generally most of the time. Sometimes deliberately leaving out details, maybe because they're just tired of talking or think details really don't matter.

Be one of them, please

You're always scared.

You seem to be very easy going and peaceful person but I hope that it goes both ways in your relationship. I get the impression it does and I hope I'm right for her sake.

Don't underestimate her, lala.

I might have.
But where were you last night at 9:15 pm? I was texting you, you weren't answering back. Don't tell me you were at the office for OT. Your officemate said you went out of the office at 7:45. You were out with her again weren't you?!

ahhh I was flirting with happy uhmmm stuck in traffic, yup that's it!

I'm sure she is a fine woman, I just hope you are as fair to HER and laid back as you are appearing to be. Not that I am underestimating her.