Would you be wary of someone who keeps in touch with their ex? (92)
justjim63: That's what I hear......And I used to be pretty bad!
gotta love my Aussie bad boy
jono7: side bet...
i've got $5 on felix...a formidable opponent..
i've got $5 on felix...a formidable opponent..
thanks for the vote of confidence. I'd vote on me too
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jono7: all's well thank you, ..... i don't complain.... ( )
hoping things are well with you, too.
now yanno.....
time flies...you're gonna have to start your training immediately.
and yes...
we're all expecting posted vid of the match...
hoping things are well with you, too.
now yanno.....
time flies...you're gonna have to start your training immediately.
and yes...
we're all expecting posted vid of the match...
maybe you could be the referee...lol
I don't have to be concerned about my guy keeping in touch with his ex cause she passed away the very same year my late husband passed away.
When she was alive he did speak to her on the phone but it never bothered me.I trusted him cause without that he and I wouldn't have a relationship in the first place.
When she was alive he did speak to her on the phone but it never bothered me.I trusted him cause without that he and I wouldn't have a relationship in the first place.
I would be warier of someone who thought I should not be friends with my ex. We have a long history together, and whilst we are not together now, we share a lot of our memories together.
IF I was too friendly with him, or reliant on him... that would be an issue I guess.
IF I was too friendly with him, or reliant on him... that would be an issue I guess.
I kept in touch with my ex-husband because he was sick and we shared a daughter.
Other then him there's no other ex that is worthwhile to receive my attention
Other then him there's no other ex that is worthwhile to receive my attention
felixis99: gotta love my Aussie bad boy
I would be very wary. Usually when a person keeps in touch with an ex, it means they are probably not over them thus they are not into you like they should be.
StillOfTheNight: I would be very wary. Usually when a person keeps in touch with an ex, it means they are probably not over them thus they are not into you like they should be.
I am inclined to agreee. That would be my biggest concern as well
StillOfTheNight: I would be very wary. Usually when a person keeps in touch with an ex, it means they are probably not over them thus they are not into you like they should be.
Wrong, if you need to be "wary" then you are probably with the wrong person, if there is honesty and trust there's no need to be wary.
Pom_Pom: Wrong, if you need to be "wary" then you are probably with the wrong person, if there is honesty and trust there's no need to be wary.
It has nothing to do with trust and everything to do with respect for the person you are with
montemonte: It has nothing to do with trust and everything to do with respect for the person you are with
It has everything to do with trust, if there is no trust, how can there be respect?
Pom_Pom: It has everything to do with trust, if there is no trust, how can there be respect?
Clarification:
Just because you trust someone it doesn't mean that you're giving them carte blanche to interact with past lovers.
The person who keeps a relationship going with a past lover doesn't have their whole heart into the current relationship.
If children are involved that's a different story but if they are in touch with someone from their past just to see how they are doing IMO it shows disrespect to the person they are with.
There has to be a clean slate of no contact
Pom_Pom: Wrong, if you need to be "wary" then you are probably with the wrong person, if there is honesty and trust there's no need to be wary.
Wrong how? Its my personal opinion and my choice. I don't have to share someone with their ex and I will never share someone with their ex.
montemonte: Clarification:
Just because you trust someone it doesn't mean that you're giving them carte blanche to interact with past lovers.The person who keeps a relationship going with a past lover doesn't have their whole heart into the current relationship.If children are involved that's a different story but if they are in touch with someone from their past just to see how they are doing IMO it shows disrespect to the person they are with.There has to be a clean slate of no contact
Just because you trust someone it doesn't mean that you're giving them carte blanche to interact with past lovers.The person who keeps a relationship going with a past lover doesn't have their whole heart into the current relationship.If children are involved that's a different story but if they are in touch with someone from their past just to see how they are doing IMO it shows disrespect to the person they are with.There has to be a clean slate of no contact
I disagree, if you have to be so jealous, if you can't trust your partner to "behave" then you should change your partner for a new one. If someone really wants to cheat on you, they'll do it be it with an ex or with ur next-door neighbour.
StillOfTheNight: Wrong how? Its my personal opinion and my choice. I don't have to share someone with their ex and I will never share someone with their ex.
The way you use the word "share" here, you make ur partner sound like a thing you own.
You can't deprive other people from having friends and aquantainces.
I'll say invite the ex for pizza and wine, if they broke up in the past, there sure was a reason. There's no danger there.
Pom_Pom: The way you use the word "share" here, you make ur partner sound like a thing you own.
You can't deprive other people from having friends and aquantainces.
I'll say invite the ex for pizza and wine, if they broke up in the past, there sure was a reason. There's no danger there.
You can't deprive other people from having friends and aquantainces.
I'll say invite the ex for pizza and wine, if they broke up in the past, there sure was a reason. There's no danger there.
Once bitten, twice shy. I been in the situation before and I learned rather harshly that it usually do not work out when there is an ex in the picture.
They are merely stating their opinion...
StillOfTheNight: Once bitten, twice shy. I been in the situation before and I learned rather harshly that it usually do not work out when there is an ex in the picture.
We could just agree to disagree on that one.
Pom_Pom: We could just agree to disagree on that one.
lol sounds good to me
Just a smile for those who still hate their EXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX 
I didnt vote for this poll as relationships finish for different reasons.
General rule of thumb is never remain in contact however sometimes the outcome is determined by circumstances and commitments.
Bottom line...... it depends on what footing the relationship ended.
General rule of thumb is never remain in contact however sometimes the outcome is determined by circumstances and commitments.
Bottom line...... it depends on what footing the relationship ended.
I expect two people to stay in contact, if underage children are involved. The children need the family unit, somehow, someway. I've had somewhat of short-term relationships with a necessary for the couple to stay in touch, I certainly had no problem with it. So far, I haven't been with an adult woman that clings to her ex to a large extent, but Oh good God almighty help me Lord, when I use to date teenage girls, some of them would still cling to their ex boyfriends. That's when life was a total nightmare. 
I wouldn't be intimidated by it but after dating a man where the ex had a big say in everything...and joined us on most of our evenings out together...in fact, she was the sent to talk to me when he and i split up....i'd be very very wary in future
Logically, if children are involved then it is expected that the mother and father keep in touch...how silly to think that they would not
This then comes down to the level of trust and communication between the two people concerned as to the amount of talking, texting and messaging that goes on with mum and dad over the children
every situation is different, just depends on how comfortable you feel as a person with the ex and their time and attention with the former ex husband or ex wife concerning the kids
like everything else, work it out as it goes along.....always depends on your level of comfort and well-being
not working out, well maybe time to walk
This then comes down to the level of trust and communication between the two people concerned as to the amount of talking, texting and messaging that goes on with mum and dad over the children
every situation is different, just depends on how comfortable you feel as a person with the ex and their time and attention with the former ex husband or ex wife concerning the kids
like everything else, work it out as it goes along.....always depends on your level of comfort and well-being
not working out, well maybe time to walk
Count_Me_In: Logically, if children are involved then it is expected that the mother and father keep in touch...how silly to think that they would not
This then comes down to the level of trust and communication between the two people concerned as to the amount of talking, texting and messaging that goes on with mum and dad over the children
every situation is different, just depends on how comfortable you feel as a person with the ex and their time and attention with the former ex husband or ex wife concerning the kids
like everything else, work it out as it goes along.....always depends on your level of comfort and well-being
not working out, well maybe time to walk
This then comes down to the level of trust and communication between the two people concerned as to the amount of talking, texting and messaging that goes on with mum and dad over the children
every situation is different, just depends on how comfortable you feel as a person with the ex and their time and attention with the former ex husband or ex wife concerning the kids
like everything else, work it out as it goes along.....always depends on your level of comfort and well-being
not working out, well maybe time to walk
Yes, I can only speak for myself, as there are as many differnt situations as couples.
our children were older when we decided to part, so it was easier to explain to them.
We had no real issues, we had just grown up and grown apart. We were kids when we married, and she had developed her own career and I mine.
My door is always open to her if she needs any help.
Strangely enough, she changed her career from the civil service, to become a singer with a well known band.
Our kids are healthy and well balanced, and we are both happy.
Right decision.
Logically, if children are involved then it is expected that the mother and father keep in touch...how silly to think that they would not
Some of the chicks that I've dated leave a lot to be desired. It's scary to think that they have children. I'm not going to say any more about it, I think you get the idea.
Some of the chicks that I've dated leave a lot to be desired. It's scary to think that they have children. I'm not going to say any more about it, I think you get the idea.
tomcatwarne: Yes, I can only speak for myself, as there are as many differnt situations as couples.
our children were older when we decided to part, so it was easier to explain to them.
We had no real issues, we had just grown up and grown apart. We were kids when we married, and she had developed her own career and I mine.
My door is always open to her if she needs any help.
Strangely enough, she changed her career from the civil service, to become a singer with a well known band.
Our kids are healthy and well balanced, and we are both happy.
Right decision.
our children were older when we decided to part, so it was easier to explain to them.
We had no real issues, we had just grown up and grown apart. We were kids when we married, and she had developed her own career and I mine.
My door is always open to her if she needs any help.
Strangely enough, she changed her career from the civil service, to become a singer with a well known band.
Our kids are healthy and well balanced, and we are both happy.
Right decision.
Hey Tomcatwarne, glad to hear that things have worked out for the better with you and your ex, under the circumstances.....having the kids healthy and well-balanced is the main focus in any parent's life. All the best to the both of you
CuddlingSoul: Logically, if children are involved then it is expected that the mother and father keep in touch...how silly to think that they would not
Some of the chicks that I've dated leave a lot to be desired. It's scary to think that they have children. I'm not going to say any more about it, I think you get the idea.
Some of the chicks that I've dated leave a lot to be desired. It's scary to think that they have children. I'm not going to say any more about it, I think you get the idea.
Hi CuddlingSoul, sorry to hear that this has been your experience with some women and sad to hear that they leave a lot to be desired....so maybe it is best that the fathers are involved (where possible), and the kids are being looked after if not by mum but by dad
anyway, hoping for the young ones that someone is there for them...
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all's well thank you, ..... i don't complain.... (
hoping things are well with you, too.
now yanno.....
time flies...you're gonna have to start your training immediately.
and yes...
we're all expecting posted vid of the match...