You found out that your bf\gf still keeping a photo of his\her ex.How you would react ? (51)
chatonlyman2North Bay, Ontario Canada27 Threads 7 Polls 6,600 PostsBogart_1960: Someone a long time ago told me "Never let anything occupy your mind rent free."
Right on saying. Something like Live and let die...Generally I mean.
guess it all depends on where she keeps it.
I haven't trown out any of the pictures i've taken with my ex before. I actually have some laying around in many closets.. Noone of them are on display anymore. I'm just to lazy to get them all together i guess because i know i won't be living here much longer anyway.
Once i move i will put them all in a shoebox and put that together with the albums we've made from trips we had and store it all in a dark corner of the attic. Very likely they'll never be seen again but still don't see a point to trow them out since it has a lot of memories for me. And that has nothing to do with still having feelings for her or not.
If my current partner wants to trow them out i won't stop her.
I haven't trown out any of the pictures i've taken with my ex before. I actually have some laying around in many closets.. Noone of them are on display anymore. I'm just to lazy to get them all together i guess because i know i won't be living here much longer anyway.
Once i move i will put them all in a shoebox and put that together with the albums we've made from trips we had and store it all in a dark corner of the attic. Very likely they'll never be seen again but still don't see a point to trow them out since it has a lot of memories for me. And that has nothing to do with still having feelings for her or not.
If my current partner wants to trow them out i won't stop her.
Depends on the circumstance to be honest!
If the lady is widowed and loved her husband maybe she would keep all those photos for sentimental purposes, but if she is young and in a new relationship with me I would be pissed!
If the lady is widowed and loved her husband maybe she would keep all those photos for sentimental purposes, but if she is young and in a new relationship with me I would be pissed!
How do you know it's her ex? It could be her brother.
MrRick77: I'd dump her.
Why?
Everyone has a past with people. Photos as a reminder of the past is no problem. I believe everyone has kept pictures of their past loves and friends, pictures somewhere in between the pages of a book, or in an album, maybe in a box in the closet. It's not right to refuse someone their past. The pictures are only pictures, like a ghost: An image of a life that once was. Now, if I have a girlfriend that builds a shrine with lit candles and burning incense around the picture of her ex boyfriend, this would be an issue. 
it's totally normal, you can't pretend erase any memories of your bf/gf previous love life, especially when they have lived about 20years or more together !!!! 
lovemedofr: it's totally normal, you can't pretend erase any memories of your bf/gf previous love life, especially when they have lived about 20years or more together !!!!
I burned all the pictures with my ex in it.
chatonlyman2: I burned all the pictures with my ex in it.
I did that over someone once. Some memories are too painful to have reminders about. 
CuddlingSoul: I did that over someone once. Some memories are too painful to have reminders about.
I have no regrets burning the pictures.
geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bfgf hides a photo of hisher ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
First of all I would expect that they have had past relationships, since we're all out of High School?
Secondly, they are entitled to their own past, their memories, and I am NOT entitled to invade their privacy. If they wish to share details as it goes further along, fine.
Lastly, invasions of privacy and jealousy raising it's ugly head in a new relationship is a dire harbinger of future behavior.
Beware of those who can't respect who I am, where I've been, how I got here, or want to control through their own insecurities!
CasualCarol: First of all I would expect that they have had past relationships, since we're all out of High School?
Secondly, they are entitled to their own past, their memories, and I am NOT entitled to invade their privacy. If they wish to share details as it goes further along, fine.
Lastly, invasions of privacy and jealousy raising it's ugly head in a new relationship is a dire harbinger of future behavior.
Beware of those who can't respect who I am, where I've been, how I got here, or want to control through their own insecurities!
well said.Secondly, they are entitled to their own past, their memories, and I am NOT entitled to invade their privacy. If they wish to share details as it goes further along, fine.
Lastly, invasions of privacy and jealousy raising it's ugly head in a new relationship is a dire harbinger of future behavior.
Beware of those who can't respect who I am, where I've been, how I got here, or want to control through their own insecurities!
Hi Reb, and other wonderful CS ladies and gents.
Hi Reb, and other wonderful CS ladies and gents.CasualCarol: Hi Reb, and other wonderful CS ladies and gents.
howdy all.geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bf\gf hides a photo of his\her ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
It depends where the pic was found. If in a wallet, I would just ask who that person is. In your case, perhaps he is nothing more than a good friend, a friend who has passed away... the possibilities are many and is not necessarily a b/f. If in a drawer of something, I would think that it was laying there all forgotten.
It's part of their past, their past is part of who they are. I might ask what was she like, did you love her, that kind of thing but only out of curiousity. We all have a past and not all of it is bad.
Plus, I only ever get jealous when my instincts tell me I'm being threatened, the past is not a threat.
Plus, I only ever get jealous when my instincts tell me I'm being threatened, the past is not a threat.
Should I take down the framed naked photos of my past lovers then?
what if you found the pic near a lotion and hand towel in the bedroom??
geoabcd1234: Wht you would do if you found out that your bfgf hides a photo of hisher ex and havent told you about it ? post more reactions :)
I would look and try to see if she looked better than me. This is an honest answer 
I don't know why. But I have had this happen before and that is what I did. Not really proud of my reaction. Then I put them back exactly how I found them. Never mentioning them. Now guess what? He is gone. I am left with the pictures. After his death I tried to give his personal pics to various members of his family. But no one wanted them. Been almost five years now. And I think this weekend I am going to throw them out. I just hate throwing something of his out that was worth him keeping all these years. Hope if he can see he will understand. I want to lighten my load in life. I have been paring down my material things since he passed. When we met I owned so little compared to now. I want to get rid of the clutter. 
Life sometimes is difficult when you have a conscious 
Oh sorry the question. No big deal. Past is past. Who cares. Unless of course you end up the owner of ones possessions 
We all have a past and of course I have photos of myself during the years with other people in the pictures - let it be friends or past flames.
I don't "hide" any of these pictures, it is in the past for me. If someone would make a big deal out of hiding his, I would find it strange and might have a chat with him about it.
I don't "hide" any of these pictures, it is in the past for me. If someone would make a big deal out of hiding his, I would find it strange and might have a chat with him about it.
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