Which expectations are realistic for your next relationship, after turning 55? (64)
Nice poll. Me personally see little to few problems,
actually it should be pretty easy after kids moved out.
I'm "only" 51 but almost 'bagged in' lol a 56year old last year.
She has one kiddoe still at home 17, 23y old moved out.
She asked me if it was alright that her daughters got all money after her
I immediately said "give them all".
What do you see as potential problems?
actually it should be pretty easy after kids moved out.
I'm "only" 51 but almost 'bagged in' lol a 56year old last year.
She has one kiddoe still at home 17, 23y old moved out.
She asked me if it was alright that her daughters got all money after her
I immediately said "give them all".
What do you see as potential problems?
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By the way, glad you showed up. This OP is not so talkative.
Going to tuck in
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Grandsiozzie: Nice poll. Me personally see little to few problems,
actually it should be pretty easy after kids moved out.
I'm "only" 51 but almost 'bagged in' lol a 56year old last year.
She has one kiddoe still at home 17, 23y old moved out.
She asked me if it was alright that her daughters got all money after her
I immediately said "give them all".
What do you see as potential problems?
Perhaps it may be different for men, but I've had a problem with an older man, divorced with kids and bills, thinking that we could not be in a real relationship because his finances weren't what they should be (even though I'm financially independent, and understood his situation). Also, I'm not certain that expecting to find my 'soulmate' is being practical.actually it should be pretty easy after kids moved out.
I'm "only" 51 but almost 'bagged in' lol a 56year old last year.
She has one kiddoe still at home 17, 23y old moved out.
She asked me if it was alright that her daughters got all money after her
I immediately said "give them all".
What do you see as potential problems?
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I would like to meet someone in real life who has absolutely no expectations from me so I'm totally free to be who I am at any given time. And I'd like to be in a mind space where I have no expectations from him so he's free to be who he is at any given time!!
Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
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Selenite: I would like to meet someone in real life who has absolutely no expectations from me so I'm totally free to be who I am at any given time. And I'd like to be in a mind space where I have no expectations from him so he's free to be who he is at any given time!!
Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
Wow Selenite, I think you may be my sole-mate Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
I see it just like that myself, maybe we're romanticaliqueske
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Grandsiozzie: Merc, can you show me the direction to the real world. Is it pretty awwsome there?
Do you remember when this place used to be part of the real world too?
Here in my country we have men not sitting behind a screen flip flopping wasting peoples timeDo you remember when this place used to be part of the real world too?
Here in the real world when I'm chatting with men..I have facial expression..I have body language
Behind a screen all I have are typed words of men saying what they think I want to hear
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Selenite: I would like to meet someone in real life who has absolutely no expectations from me so I'm totally free to be who I am at any given time. And I'd like to be in a mind space where I have no expectations from him so he's free to be who he is at any given time!!
Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
Yeah, I'd also like to be in a drama-free relationship where her money is hers and my money is mine. Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
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The only realistic expectation I have, is to have no expectations of anyone or anything or event. I enjoy the surprise and often learn regardless of good or bad outcomes. I’ve learned that expectation often leads to disappointment and sorrow. I much prefer the joy of an interesting surprise. The thrill of meeting someone of similar thought process and exploring what that may entail. The value of giving or receiving something as simple as a smile.
I just see the world through different eyes.
I just see the world through different eyes.
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Didi7: Perhaps it may be different for men, but I've had a problem with an older man, divorced with kids and bills, thinking that we could not be in a real relationship because his finances weren't what they should be (even though I'm financially independent, and understood his situation). Also, I'm not certain that expecting to find my 'soulmate' is being practical.
I would say: forget that stupid misleading "soul mate" expression, what (crap) is that anyway?
Personally I am NOT looking for one who see through me like with xray vision.
Just find a good partner who is willing to drop everything in his hands
and walk into the sunset with you!
That would be perfect and all you ever need!
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Selenite: I would like to meet someone in real life who has absolutely no expectations from me so I'm totally free to be who I am at any given time. And I'd like to be in a mind space where I have no expectations from him so he's free to be who he is at any given time!!
Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
Is having "no expectation/s of a person (in any type of relationship) being realistic though? Don't we all have preferences about the people or situations that we find ourselves in/with, consciously and or unconsciously.....that's life.Just beyond human attraction with no agenda, in a story that's not yet been written or rehashed in my mind or his ... Being in one another's company, we will glow. We will know ... that's it ... each day will write itself ...
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Grandsiozzie: I would say: forget that stupid misleading "soul mate" expression,
what (crap) is that anyway?
Personally I am NOT looking for one who see through me like with xray vision.
Just find a good partner who is willing to drop everything in his hands
and walk into the sunset with you!
That would be perfect and all you ever need!
Totally agree!!what (crap) is that anyway?
Personally I am NOT looking for one who see through me like with xray vision.
Just find a good partner who is willing to drop everything in his hands
and walk into the sunset with you!
That would be perfect and all you ever need!
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Grandsiozzie: Wow Selenite, I think you may be my sole-mate
I see it just like that myself, maybe we're romanticaliqueske
I see it just like that myself, maybe we're romanticaliqueske
What kind of sole?
Romanticaliqueske?
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Didi7: Is having "no expectation/s of a person (in any type of relationship) being realistic though? Don't we all have preferences about the people or situations that we find ourselves in/with, consciously and or unconsciously.....that's life.
I've done the "expectations" bit ...Thought I'd try it without next ...
What do you mean by "being realistic"?
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Stan_147: The only realistic expectation I have, is to have no expectations of anyone or anything or event. I enjoy the surprise and often learn regardless of good or bad outcomes. I’ve learned that expectation often leads to disappointment and sorrow. I much prefer the joy of an interesting surprise. The thrill of meeting someone of similar thought process and exploring what that may entail. The value of giving or receiving something as simple as a smile.
I just see the world through different eyes.
Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with you about the "interesting surprise", I still believe that we have 'expectations', or perhaps 'hopes', based upon what we want from the experience.I just see the world through different eyes.
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Stan_147: The only realistic expectation I have, is to have no expectations of anyone or anything or event. I enjoy the surprise and often learn regardless of good or bad outcomes. I’ve learned that expectation often leads to disappointment and sorrow. I much prefer the joy of an interesting surprise. The thrill of meeting someone of similar thought process and exploring what that may entail. The value of giving or receiving something as simple as a smile.
I just see the world through different eyes.
Exactly!! I just see the world through different eyes.
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galrads: Yeah, I'd also like to be in a drama-free relationship where her money is hers and my money is mine.
I didn't mention drama or money in my post ... do you equate "expectations" with drama ad money? ------ This poll is Archived ------
No varicose veins would be a plus.
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Selenite: I've done the "expectations" bit ...
Thought I'd try it without next ...
What do you mean by "being realistic"?
Thought I'd try it without next ...
What do you mean by "being realistic"?
Isn't it realistic to 'expect' that the person that you connect with cares about you at least as much as (if not more than) you may care about him? Isn't it realistic to expect that the man you connect with has the requisite maturity, intelligence an trustworthiness?
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Selenite: I didn't mention drama or money in my post ... do you equate "expectations" with drama ad money?
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cupid_stunt: No varicose veins would be a plus.
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Thanks much for the responses, but I have to leave to run an errand. Sorry , but please continue. I'll follow up with responses when I return.
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Mercedes_00: Nor whiskers on the chin
I don't know, whiskers on the chin might be interesting in certain situations. Not scratching them off my list.------ This poll is Archived ------
Didi7: Isn't it realistic to 'expect' that the person that you connect with cares about you at least as much as (if not more than) you may care about him? Isn't it realistic to expect that the man you connect with has the requisite maturity, intelligence an trustworthiness?
No...Why is it realistic to expect such things?
I'm not saying that I would not listen to my intuition on whether we vibrate well together or not ... what you describe are limitations created by the fear of the person we meet not being "up to standard" ...
By not creating a criteria I leave the possibilities open to infinity without creating mind boundaries with a list of limiting characteristics that could be well inferior to the characteristics of whom I might meet.
I've decided to not allow my mind to create limitations for who I would attract ...
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Didi7: No, I don't.
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Selenite: I didn't mention drama or money in my post ... do you equate "expectations" with drama ad money?
Thats how i perceived your post and i believe our expectations determine our reality. Money and drama are major issues which impact most relationships.------ This poll is Archived ------
cupid_stunt: I don't know, whiskers on the chin might be interesting in certain situations. Not scratching them off my list.
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All I expect is the same courtesy I give to them
People who expect things in life are greedy
Just go with the flow
People who expect things in life are greedy
Just go with the flow
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galrads: Thats how i perceived your post and i believe our expectations determine our reality. Money and drama are major issues which impact most relationships.
I had not the slightest thought of drama or money as I wrote my post. Your perception belongs to you and determine your reality not mine.
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Selenite: I had not the slightest thought of drama or money as I wrote my post.
Your perception belongs to you and determine your reality not mine.
True but can anyone separate drama and money from expectations and I think all relationships have expectations for money and drama.Your perception belongs to you and determine your reality not mine.
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Mercedes_00: Too many fussy people on dating sites
That will be the ones who are perfection personified. You know, the single ones who have nowhere else to be but here.------ This poll is Archived ------
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Created: Mar 2022
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Last Commented: Mar 2022
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