They refuse to explain what they mean by "curvy"..
2
4%
Obsessive political/religious behaviour
4
9%
He/she shows their genitalia on 1st webcam chat
8
17%
Writes flowery, long, excessively romantic emails
4
9%
Wants you to fill out a 40-part questionnaire
3
7%
He/she talks badly about other people
3
7%
Exhibits insulting and disrespectful behaviour
9
20%
Boasts about sexual prowess
6
13%
Total Votes
46
We all know what Red Flags are. Those warning signs that tell you that the other person is probably not dealing with a full deck of cards. That you may think you're dating Dr Jekyll, but he/she turns into Mr/Mrs Hyde. Something tells you this is not the person you want to take home to meet yer mum. It's like that old saying..."If a guy is rude to the waiter, he's not the one you're looking for".
This is a semi-serious take on spotting Red Flags in online dating.
Which Red Flag do you consider the most important, that warns you off a prospective date?
Great poll, all of them are so true. The lack of a full length photo, their idea of curvy, (65 lbs over weight) I've met in person, women who described themselves as average....average in my opinion is not 195 lbs. Etc.
Odysseus101: We all know what Red Flags are. Those warning signs that tell you that the other person is probably not dealing with a full deck of cards. That you may think you're dating Dr Jekyll, but he/she turns into Mr/Mrs Hyde. Something tells you this is not the person you want to take home to meet yer mum. It's like that old saying..."If a guy is rude to the waiter, he's not the one you're looking for".
This is a semi-serious take on spotting Red Flags in online dating.
Which Red Flag do you consider the most important, that warns you off a prospective date?
Feel free to add any that you feel are important.
I personally don't consider one more important than another. To my thinking, these types of things are all important and to be on the outlook for.
People can hide much .... so its extremely important to pay attention no matter if its an internet relationship or someone that you are dating in the flesh.
I remember a date wherein the guy got upset because the music changed, he insisted that it changed back to the previous song that had been interrupted. There were a few other signs as well that there was something off - it was like walking on eggshells because you could just sense that his temper was lurking just under the surface.
itsallme112Surrey, British Columbia Canada441 posts
All of the above. In person there are other things too. Body language, phone calls from other dates, eyeing and talking about other guys when all you want is a little respect and attention.
My red flags are up when a person can NEVER take responsibility for their behavior. When I see a person, you can not get a POINT across to, the Red FLAGS FLOW.
I went on a date recently. The lady was so hyper, she talked incessantly for 3 hours. I realised that if I just sat back and remained quiet, she would simply continue talking. By the end of the meal, I was literally exhausted, and couldn't wait to get away. Sure thing, the next morning there were 2 text messages waiting for me, telling me how much she enjoyed the meal, and was looking forward to seeing me again. I felt like bolting for the hills, and screaming for help on the way.
There sure are many show offs online but i guess its down to being able to say what you like without feeling behind a screen, some folks just revel in attention and some think that sarcasm gives them the god given right to be the online boss, i am not online to argue with anyone as why would i, i have manners and care about other folks feelings,sometimes ignorance is just total bliss,i am by no means a pushover but in the real life so to speak i deal with it but online i just switch off,what is most important in life is to be the best that you can be..
Odysseus101: I went on a date recently. The lady was so hyper, she talked incessantly for 3 hours. I realised that if I just sat back and remained quiet, she would simply continue talking. By the end of the meal, I was literally exhausted, and couldn't wait to get away. Sure thing, the next morning there were 2 text messages waiting for me, telling me how much she enjoyed the meal, and was looking forward to seeing me again. I felt like bolting for the hills, and screaming for help on the way.
Being talked at is very draining .. I find myself zoning out after a while and then I stop and realise I havent heard what the person has said for the past 5 minutes or more
My thoughts are that half the time, when people say you are a good listener, it's because they feel they can bang on for hours without interruption (meanwhile you're plotting their murder because they're boring you to death )
I'd rather spend 3 hours at the dentist .. at least it's more likely to be productive
I once had a brief relationship with a woman who displayed the most exasperating characteristic I have ever experienced. She denied all liability for anything that went wrong. Any discussion, argument, creative problem-solving was impossible with this woman. When faced with irrefutable facts about the consequences of her actions, she simply denied their existence. "But last week, you clearly said such-and -such."...Her answer...."No, I didn't.." How can you discuss anything with somebody who simply denies liability for anything? It got so bad, I started to think that she could be slightly mad. I kid you not.
This is a good post...but no single choice stands out to me as best because I'd run from all of them!
I think it should be attached to everyones profile so they can be rated like the photos are rated. That would stir things up or many people would disappear!
I was exchanging emails with another member here. We had planned to meet at some point. After some weeks, she asked me, for about the second time, if I am Italian, or not. I repeated that I'm not. She wrote back, telling me I had lied to her, LIED TO HER!!!....and saying that "You have put the Royal Family's lives in danger...."
Odysseus101: I was exchanging emails with another member here. We had planned to meet at some point. After some weeks, she asked me, for about the second time, if I am Italian, or not. I repeated that I'm not. She wrote back, telling me I had lied to her, LIED TO HER!!!....and saying that "You have put the Royal Family's lives in danger...."
...I swear, I'm not making this up.
Oh, she cares that so much...
I dont' care which country you are from...exchange emails with me pls....
Odysseus101: I was exchanging emails with another member here. We had planned to meet at some point. After some weeks, she asked me, for about the second time, if I am Italian, or not. I repeated that I'm not. She wrote back, telling me I had lied to her, LIED TO HER!!!....and saying that "You have put the Royal Family's lives in danger...."
...I swear, I'm not making this up.
Oddly enough, that makes me feel OK, there ARE worse nutjobs than I. Well, there you go.
Odysseus101: Actually, I have great respect for your country, and I wish I owned more chinese stock. I also wish I spoke Mandarin.
But then again, I also wish I was young and handsome.....
oh, thanks, I respect for your country too, though not Italy..
Yes, now I heard that Chinese stock is very low point...I'm not good at it at all, know very little...maybe it's very low ...I heard a lot person lost money there including my ex
But speaking Mandarin is easy....I'm in the north...I can speak very standard Mandarin...because Mandarin is based on our northeast dialect......check price list of a Chinese teacher...then ...being a student of mine.... No need to be young or handsome to be a student....
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Red Flags(Vote Below)
This is a semi-serious take on spotting Red Flags in online dating.
Which Red Flag do you consider the most important, that warns you off a prospective date?
Feel free to add any that you feel are important.