I am not responsible for your happiness (10)
He is not responsible for her happiness...but he can partake in making it.
If she is unhappy...then she needs to find out why, not lay the issue on her partner.
If she is unhappy...then she needs to find out why, not lay the issue on her partner.
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Ulimaroa: I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
A pertnership is supposed to be a team so you do try to make you're partner happy. But you cant control if they dont want to be happy.
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They're married? Then he's responsible for her misery. 
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Ulimaroa: I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
I think it depends on the context, why it was said and how it was said.
Generally, I'd say that we are each responsible for ourselves, but if a partner is not supportive, or abusive then I would say that they were responsible for somebody's unhappiness, at least in part.
Jac xxx
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jac379: I think it depends on the context, why it was said and how it was said.
Generally, I'd say that we are each responsible for ourselves, but if a partner is not supportive, or abusive then I would say that they were responsible for somebody's unhappiness, at least in part.
Jac xxx
Generally, I'd say that we are each responsible for ourselves, but if a partner is not supportive, or abusive then I would say that they were responsible for somebody's unhappiness, at least in part.
Jac xxx
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jac379: I think it depends on the context, why it was said and how it was said.
Generally, I'd say that we are each responsible for ourselves, but if a partner is not supportive, or abusive then I would say that they were responsible for somebody's unhappiness, at least in part.
Jac xxx
Generally, I'd say that we are each responsible for ourselves, but if a partner is not supportive, or abusive then I would say that they were responsible for somebody's unhappiness, at least in part.
Jac xxx
ditto 
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I'm not a man but I could interpret it in two ways.
1) He means he can't provide ongoing entertainment for her if she doesn't have any meaningful hobbies or activities of her own; two people can't just spend time with each other 100% of the time and it's healthy for the woman to have her "girl" time and for a man his own time. Maybe it was said at a time like that, when he wanted to be alone and she was reproaching him for leaving her "unhappy" (i.e. by herself) etc. It's true that a partner can't make an unhappy person happy, he can only make an already happy person even happier.
2) He really means that he doesn't care anymore whether she's happy or not. (Maybe he's tried making her happy but she didn't appreciate it.) There's actually an opinion that men come into our lives to be our very real knights in shining armor, and by making us happy they reach heights of happiness and fulfillment they never knew before (cos it's a chain of reactions in their life). So if by saying that he means he's not ready or willing to make any effort anymore, that's pretty bad news then.
Therefore, I'd be sad to hear something like that from my partner. I appreciate men with a healthy dose of responsibility, let alone desire and enthusiasm to make a lady happy(-ier), and hearing something like that would be a big red flag to me.
1) He means he can't provide ongoing entertainment for her if she doesn't have any meaningful hobbies or activities of her own; two people can't just spend time with each other 100% of the time and it's healthy for the woman to have her "girl" time and for a man his own time. Maybe it was said at a time like that, when he wanted to be alone and she was reproaching him for leaving her "unhappy" (i.e. by herself) etc. It's true that a partner can't make an unhappy person happy, he can only make an already happy person even happier.
2) He really means that he doesn't care anymore whether she's happy or not. (Maybe he's tried making her happy but she didn't appreciate it.) There's actually an opinion that men come into our lives to be our very real knights in shining armor, and by making us happy they reach heights of happiness and fulfillment they never knew before (cos it's a chain of reactions in their life). So if by saying that he means he's not ready or willing to make any effort anymore, that's pretty bad news then.
Therefore, I'd be sad to hear something like that from my partner. I appreciate men with a healthy dose of responsibility, let alone desire and enthusiasm to make a lady happy(-ier), and hearing something like that would be a big red flag to me.
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There is always the HOPE that you get back what you give 
... not always the case unfortunately.
I'd have to know them both to form a real response for their particular situation.
... not always the case unfortunately.I'd have to know them both to form a real response for their particular situation.
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G'Day Uli girl... nice to see ya..
Ah about your thread...
Its hard to answer cos I have been living alone for a long while now.. and I know that I am responsible for my happiness... but Jeez... it sure makes it easier being happy if my partner is happy too.
The thing is.. that you cant be outwardly happy around a person who is sitting there with the miseries.. especially if he is your partner
Have a nice weekend chick...& still admire your pics..
Ah about your thread...
Its hard to answer cos I have been living alone for a long while now.. and I know that I am responsible for my happiness... but Jeez... it sure makes it easier being happy if my partner is happy too.
The thing is.. that you cant be outwardly happy around a person who is sitting there with the miseries.. especially if he is your partner
Have a nice weekend chick...& still admire your pics..
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Happiness starts with in ones self,and is broadened by the people around them....so yes i believe his actions can help her be a happier person.
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I am not responsible for your happiness(Vote Below)
I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?