Would you move to another place for smb you love or stay because you have a good job? (117)
Mazza1970Lemesos, Limassol Cyprus1 Threads 626 Postsana24: If you would really love that person you wouldn't ask this question...
home is where the heart is...and if it would be in then Antarktis..I just get some real warm clothes and off I'd go..
JAN_is: Not sure I agree with you. It´s not easy at all to find a job in another country if you don´t speak the language. This alone would be a hurdle, often insurmountable for a couple contemplating a life together.
I speak Spanish fortunately, and my work teaching English doesn´t really pose too many problems for jobseekers in the same field who cannot speak Spanish, but I know people who have moved here to be with a lover and it has failed because they haven´t been able to find work in other professions due to the language barrier.
As I said in another similar thread this evening, love does not conquer all.
I speak Spanish fortunately, and my work teaching English doesn´t really pose too many problems for jobseekers in the same field who cannot speak Spanish, but I know people who have moved here to be with a lover and it has failed because they haven´t been able to find work in other professions due to the language barrier.
As I said in another similar thread this evening, love does not conquer all.
it conquers a lot tho! But essentially, I think the best thing about your post is that you point out that there are several facets to the decision that the OP asks about.
IMO people on here up to your post have really oversimplified things, but perhaps they are younger without committments that prevent them from moving. When I was a 20-something I loved a German man and was determined I was going to move there, and I would have, very likely, (The reason I didn't doesn't matter-it's just at that stage in life it was do-able.)
My lifestyle is such that really I wouldn't want to move more than an hour away from where I am now. And I am my own sole source of support, I really, finally like my job after having many I did not like. So , no, I'm not about to give it up. And I learned a long time ago, never depend on a man for financial support totally. Always be ablr to be sif supporting if need be. It's a much better bargining stance
time4fun4u: I would have no problems moving if i found the right person.Its easier to find another job, than to find true love.
Not these days.....
Jaygo1: Not these days.....
correct
my daughter moved several hours away andgave up a really good job. She found work, but as fas ar I know , still doesn't have comaprable employment - partly because she got her job here by having good connections in the area that she didn't have when she moved.
I hope for her sake it's been worth it. Her young man is a sweet
too. That helps!Right after college I gave up a really good job to marry her father, and in the years since our divorce I often wonder what my life would have been like had I taken that job.
At this point I also do not want to be too far away from family. To me that is eve nmore important than my job.
Summervanilla: I recently watched a movie "Going the distance" and started wondering what would be an outcome in a real life?!
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
If I were in love, yes, I would prolly move, but only if I had arranged for employment BEFORE I moved. I would not want my man to feel obligated to support me. Also, if it turned out that we were not really a good match, I would hate to be left there alone with no visible means of support.
felixis99: And I learned a long time ago, never depend on a man for financial support totally. Always be ablr to be sif supporting if need be. It's a much better bargining stance
Fair enough! I agree on the financial part :)
Thanks for sharing, felixis99!
Summervanilla: Fair enough! I agree on the financial part :)
Thanks for sharing, felixis99!
Thanks for sharing, felixis99!
your welcome. there r times I have wished I could pack up and move, but realistically I do not want to. I can certainly understand why people do that though. It's so rare to fine someone who is a true soulmate
No way I'd move.
Call me "odd man out".
Call me "odd man out".
other....haven't decided what other is????
felixis99: your welcome. there r times I have wished I could pack up and move, but realistically I do not want to. I can certainly understand why people do that though. It's so rare to fine someone who is a true soulmate
It`s rare indeed...
lovehue: Whatever it takes i'd definitely move to other country for love... If you have found love, what else do you need?
I love your back.
What's the saying, penny wise pound foolish?
There's a lot that goes into relationships. Much you don't know until you've lived w/a person. To move cross country on "hope"
is foolish for either party.
It falls under the heading of LIVE AND LEARN unfortunately.
There's a lot that goes into relationships. Much you don't know until you've lived w/a person. To move cross country on "hope"
is foolish for either party.
It falls under the heading of LIVE AND LEARN unfortunately.
I think if I were to find a loving man from another location, I'd move heaven and earth to be together. Who knows where or when we will find love, when it happens, it is up to the two people to follow their hearts.
lilmamma71: I think if I were to find a loving man from another location, I'd move heaven and earth to be together. Who knows where or when we will find love, when it happens, it is up to the two people to follow their hearts.
I'de move - if she has money ......
Summervanilla: You`re right - it`s better just sit where you`re and wonder: "what if ?!"
There`s also this saying: the one who never risks, never drinks champagne
There`s also this saying: the one who never risks, never drinks champagne
I'm comin down your way tonite ......are you available ?
No...don't think I would....
jvaski: Only because they don't have Rednecks and Nascar anywhere else ?
cincity: Would rather have love and no job than have a good job and no love
Summervanilla: I recently watched a movie "Going the distance" and started wondering what would be an outcome in a real life?!
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
I think I already posted here
no - probably not , at least not right away ^ not more than a few miles from home
Summervanilla: I recently watched a movie "Going the distance" and started wondering what would be an outcome in a real life?!
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
If you`re not familiar with the movie, check this:
You`re welcome to share your opinion :)
I think I already posted here
no - probably not , at least not right away ^ not more than a few miles from home
I can work anywhere ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
,,,,,,,,,I have skills
here or there is no problem
,,,,,,,,,I have skills
here or there is no problem
I know I have posted here already but I want to say the following
I think that todays economy plays a big role in the decision to give up all or not..plus haven't we become comfort creatures to an extend ? Starting over with nothing or almost nothing..it takes guts which a lot I think don't have..because hardship can be involved..at the same time if you do not risk how on earth will you ever know if you are not missing the best part of your life which still is in front of you.. I am 47 have a 14 year old son and next year..we will be going to join the man I love..I don't need posessions or a life in luxery..as long as we have each other that is what counts in the end..and not what you posess or how much money you earn..the only wealth that counts is the wealth you carry in your heart..JMO
I think that todays economy plays a big role in the decision to give up all or not..plus haven't we become comfort creatures to an extend ? Starting over with nothing or almost nothing..it takes guts which a lot I think don't have..because hardship can be involved..at the same time if you do not risk how on earth will you ever know if you are not missing the best part of your life which still is in front of you.. I am 47 have a 14 year old son and next year..we will be going to join the man I love..I don't need posessions or a life in luxery..as long as we have each other that is what counts in the end..and not what you posess or how much money you earn..the only wealth that counts is the wealth you carry in your heart..JMO
iamwhoiamyousee: I know I have posted here already but I want to say the following
I think that todays economy plays a big role in the decision to give up all or not..plus haven't we become comfort creatures to an extend ? Starting over with nothing or almost nothing..it takes guts which a lot I think don't have..because hardship can be involved..at the same time if you do not risk how on earth will you ever know if you are not missing the best part of your life which still is in front of you.. I am 47 have a 14 year old son and next year..we will be going to join the man I love..I don't need posessions or a life in luxery..as long as we have each other that is what counts in the end..and not what you posess or how much money you earn..the only wealth that counts is the wealth you carry in your heart..JMO
I think that todays economy plays a big role in the decision to give up all or not..plus haven't we become comfort creatures to an extend ? Starting over with nothing or almost nothing..it takes guts which a lot I think don't have..because hardship can be involved..at the same time if you do not risk how on earth will you ever know if you are not missing the best part of your life which still is in front of you.. I am 47 have a 14 year old son and next year..we will be going to join the man I love..I don't need posessions or a life in luxery..as long as we have each other that is what counts in the end..and not what you posess or how much money you earn..the only wealth that counts is the wealth you carry in your heart..JMO
Another inspiring story - thank you!
hmmm
really nice Question ! heart will say move and mind wouldn't want. mostly need comfort 
time4fun4u: I would have no problems moving if i found the right person.Its easier to find another job, than to find true love.
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