Your girlfriend / boyfriend profile is still online. So what? (53)
Kaybee50: Ah..I thought you were questioning why I would be on a dating site that didn't offer forums.
So...posing the OPs question, but in the vein of a dating site that offers no forums, would everyone still answer the same? No problems with a partner being on there, we should trust him/her?
So...posing the OPs question, but in the vein of a dating site that offers no forums, would everyone still answer the same? No problems with a partner being on there, we should trust him/her?
I agree with you Kaybee
2intrigued: I agree with you Kaybee
me too
chococherrie: me too
Hiya hun
In response to: So...posing the OPs question, but in the vein of a dating site that offers no forums, would everyone still answer the same? No problems with a partner being on there, we should trust him/her?
Then my answer would change because if the dating site offered nothing but dating then my boyfriend and I would have no reason to be on them.I would no more be on a dating site with no forums then I would be attending speed dating events.
only person u can really control is yourself
I would hope that my partner in a serious relationship would have "better things" to do
if ya nowutImean
u can state ur preference but if u try to force it - that never bodes well
I would hope that my partner in a serious relationship would have "better things" to do
if ya nowutImean
u can state ur preference but if u try to force it - that never bodes well
only person u can really control is yourself
I would hope that my partner in a serious relationship would have "better things" to do
if ya nowutImean
u can state ur preference but if u try to force it - that never bodes well
I would hope that my partner in a serious relationship would have "better things" to do
if ya nowutImean
u can state ur preference but if u try to force it - that never bodes well
maryrachelle: My boyfriend uses the POF forums,which is on a dating site.His profile there has no picture,is hidden and clearly states that he is in a relationship and is not looking.Why would this bother me?Should we both be so mistrusting and suspicious of one another that we also force each other to take down our Facebook accounts?
I will have to agree with you..
Good lesson learnt!
because I'm not a very open person, so if I have a boyfriend and his profile is still online then I think he doesn't regard me as his girlfriend so why I still regard him as my boyfriend?
In my opinion, if two person fix their relationship and be sure to be lovers in the future then they should tell each other to cancel their profiles together....or if they like the forums, potry center etc, they'd better have the agreement from the other side then take their photo down and say clearly in their profile.......JMO
In my opinion, if two person fix their relationship and be sure to be lovers in the future then they should tell each other to cancel their profiles together....or if they like the forums, potry center etc, they'd better have the agreement from the other side then take their photo down and say clearly in their profile.......JMO
I think if you already have gf/bf, you should delete your account here... Unless you put the picture of both of you and clearly state in your profile that you are not looking for a relationship... That's it! 
Its no ones business but ur own..
If ur husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend knows then fine..
There are more reason why someone is still on a site..
as for the forums..and that is why i am here once in a while..
If ur husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend knows then fine..
There are more reason why someone is still on a site..
as for the forums..and that is why i am here once in a while..
Amenda: because I'm not a very open person, so if I have a boyfriend and his profile is still online then I think he doesn't regard me as his girlfriend so why I still regard him as my boyfriend?
In my opinion, if two person fix their relationship and be sure to be lovers in the future then they should tell each other to cancel their profiles together....or if they like the forums, potry center etc, they'd better have the agreement from the other side then take their photo down and say clearly in their profile.......JMO
In my opinion, if two person fix their relationship and be sure to be lovers in the future then they should tell each other to cancel their profiles together....or if they like the forums, potry center etc, they'd better have the agreement from the other side then take their photo down and say clearly in their profile.......JMO
It could be done like that however in this case I have negative vibe ... It sounds like controlling your partner and close yourself from other possibility of friendship. Think you forget the word of "trust".
Just my 2 cents
maryrachelle: I'm not trying to keep it a secret.I just am not sure about connecting singles policy of advertising other sites forums???I don't know if anyone here would care for their forums though.They are heavily moderated to the point where posting something like what I am doing now would get you five days in banned camp for off topic.
I fell out with the mods in pof a few years ago because I told them that they where policing rules that they did not agree with and I argued the point that such heavy moderating of a dating sites forum is ridiculous when it means the poster can not show much of their personality in posting.
I am banned for at least 25 years.
I fell out with the mods in pof a few years ago because I told them that they where policing rules that they did not agree with and I argued the point that such heavy moderating of a dating sites forum is ridiculous when it means the poster can not show much of their personality in posting.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I fell out with the mods in pof a few years ago because I told them that they where policing rules that they did not agree with and I argued the point that such heavy moderating of a dating sites forum is ridiculous when it means the poster can not show much of their personality in posting.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I hate my oversensitive mouse!
chocolateflavour: Few weeks ago, I read in several articles that people are actually not happy to know that their boyfriend / girlfriend's profile is still active while they are seriously dating. My concern grows knowing that they would see this online profile as negative sign rather than positive sign.
For me as long as I trust my man and he does the same to me, it doesn't matter at all. I feel more confident because he will not find other super girl rather than me. Additionally to find and further to connect to people regardless it is for friendship or long term or serious, isn't that easy. I would end up having great email conversation with some cyber friends without necessarily to meet in real world and it is the same like reading my email.
So I confused
Let me know your idea and experience too.
For me as long as I trust my man and he does the same to me, it doesn't matter at all. I feel more confident because he will not find other super girl rather than me. Additionally to find and further to connect to people regardless it is for friendship or long term or serious, isn't that easy. I would end up having great email conversation with some cyber friends without necessarily to meet in real world and it is the same like reading my email.
So I confused
Let me know your idea and experience too.
exactly so what if they leave a profile online! so what?
Problem! None!
maryrachelle: I fell out with the mods in pof a few years ago because I told them that they where policing rules that they did not agree with and I argued the point that such heavy moderating of a dating sites forum is ridiculous when it means the poster can not show much of their personality in posting.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I am banned for at least 25 years.[/quote
See that's what I mean.They are completely bonkers on pof!25 years? I mean why not just say "your banned for life now go away"?Another thing terrible over there is they post along with everyone else so they are visible and way to involved in the forums.They play favorites because of it.
I best not get into the politicking of that site too much,but its system panders to mods who thrive on the ego boost that there position provides them.
But in there you can not flirt in any way,address the poster or make light jokes even when on topic.
You try posting within the rules after a few to drink and you want to have a giggle!
true story…
I met someone on a site, we dated and started into a relationship. One day his comment is about my continuing on the site. True to my nature, I openly and truthfully express that I had pen pals which I enjoyed exchanging thoughts and ideas. None of which were of any worry to him or our relationship. He became upset, not understanding the pen pal concept and asks that we both relinquish our profile. Well I do, but red flag is left about his reaction leaves me thinking and for the sake of good order, weeks later I check the site and guess who is still with a profile. He denies any responsibility claiming he cancelled his profile and was not sure why it was still there; which I might add revealed that he had been on line that same day. Truth be told, it did not matter to me if he wanted to remain with a profile. You can’t control people or what they do whether you are around or not. To me it was about the deception and denial of any culpability which became unacceptable. I did not have the same feelings for him after that. I never trusted him about things in general and the relationship did eventually end.
I met someone on a site, we dated and started into a relationship. One day his comment is about my continuing on the site. True to my nature, I openly and truthfully express that I had pen pals which I enjoyed exchanging thoughts and ideas. None of which were of any worry to him or our relationship. He became upset, not understanding the pen pal concept and asks that we both relinquish our profile. Well I do, but red flag is left about his reaction leaves me thinking and for the sake of good order, weeks later I check the site and guess who is still with a profile. He denies any responsibility claiming he cancelled his profile and was not sure why it was still there; which I might add revealed that he had been on line that same day. Truth be told, it did not matter to me if he wanted to remain with a profile. You can’t control people or what they do whether you are around or not. To me it was about the deception and denial of any culpability which became unacceptable. I did not have the same feelings for him after that. I never trusted him about things in general and the relationship did eventually end.
Wooriepeg: true story…
I met someone on a site, we dated and started into a relationship. One day his comment is about my continuing on the site. True to my nature, I openly and truthfully express that I had pen pals which I enjoyed exchanging thoughts and ideas. None of which were of any worry to him or our relationship. He became upset, not understanding the pen pal concept and asks that we both relinquish our profile. Well I do, but red flag is left about his reaction leaves me thinking and for the sake of good order, weeks later I check the site and guess who is still with a profile. He denies any responsibility claiming he cancelled his profile and was not sure why it was still there; which I might add revealed that he had been on line that same day. Truth be told, it did not matter to me if he wanted to remain with a profile. You can’t control people or what they do whether you are around or not. To me it was about the deception and denial of any culpability which became unacceptable. I did not have the same feelings for him after that. I never trusted him about things in general and the relationship did eventually end.
I met someone on a site, we dated and started into a relationship. One day his comment is about my continuing on the site. True to my nature, I openly and truthfully express that I had pen pals which I enjoyed exchanging thoughts and ideas. None of which were of any worry to him or our relationship. He became upset, not understanding the pen pal concept and asks that we both relinquish our profile. Well I do, but red flag is left about his reaction leaves me thinking and for the sake of good order, weeks later I check the site and guess who is still with a profile. He denies any responsibility claiming he cancelled his profile and was not sure why it was still there; which I might add revealed that he had been on line that same day. Truth be told, it did not matter to me if he wanted to remain with a profile. You can’t control people or what they do whether you are around or not. To me it was about the deception and denial of any culpability which became unacceptable. I did not have the same feelings for him after that. I never trusted him about things in general and the relationship did eventually end.
Once the trust is gone, the relationship leads to zero point ...
It is a big deal...if you don't respect each others dignity and privacy on-line.
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So...posing the OPs question, but in the vein of a dating site that offers no forums, would everyone still answer the same? No problems with a partner being on there, we should trust him/her?