Lana, I totally agree. After over 60 years on the planet I have found that to be there for everyone else, you need to be there for yourself first. Very well said, I see this problem in a lot of people in my age group, (grandparents...), they just get used too death and then everyone wonders why they are cranky???
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm? I must be doing something wrong... I've been called a lot of things... but never beautiful... I must be doing something very wrong! Ya think? I was even told to hold still when someone shot at me, but that is another problem...
How true! I have been pleasantly surprised by someone pointing out the humor in an otherwise dull day. Like waiting in a long line when in a hurry or looking out at the pouring down rain and not having a coat or hat...an older lady asked me if I could swim? It made me laugh right out loud as hand in hand we both stepped out into the rain together...
Jode, my humblest of apologies. I guess I'm really in the dark. I thought this was Connecting Singles and it was a sight for either single people to connect, or connected people to visit with other connected people or single people about getting connected. What a total idiot I am... my humblest of apologies for this oversight on my part. Please forgive my "gaff" in social etiquette.
Jode, please don't misunderstand my intent. I'm not in any way trying to tell you how to live, heck, I don't know how to live my life, so I'm for darn sure not trying to tell anybody else what to do. I'm just just sharing my point of view, limited as it may be, as to why so many good women are hurt by unfeeling and cruel men. And how more often than not the knife cuts both ways. There is nothing wrong with those who choose to live alone. It's THEIR business, period.
Swiss and Jode, okay I'm going out on a limb here, but please don't chop it off... I think the reason you ladies have a hard time finding a really "good" guy is that you are so attractive. Now I'm not saying this to be a smart-ars, okay? You are very pretty, intelligent, articulate, and I think you can see my point here. You are like a "trophy" to guys that are "hunting" for all the wrong reasons. They don't care about broken hearts or lives, they just want to play the game. And once they've gotten their "trophy" the thrill is gone... I know this sounds awfully cold, but I have seen women of the same caliber and it feels terrible to be just another notch on their belt... but please believe me, there are men in this lonely world that would freely give whatever it took, pay whatever the price, to call your love and devotion their own. I know that I was one of those guys when I found my love-bug. She had been married three times before and she had been hurt very badly, but she still took a chance on me...
I guess I missed this part of my relationship??? I still love the little idiot that loves me...(go figure) We're both battier than bed-bugs though, maybe that's the secret! She can be meaner than a dog turd stuck in your favorite golf shoes, but she always comes home to me... and sometimes I love her so much it makes me cry... if you've ever been lonely than you know just what I mean...
Baltus, I answered your statement but this wreck of a computer took a dump and it didn't go through... I wouldn't get discouraged about your lack of positive response. There is a lot of truth to what Dervish is saying. I wouldn't tell anyone my bank balance, instead I would use the money issue as a "filter" to sort out the "gold-diggers" from the "keepers". I wouldn't say that you've taken an "oathe of poverty" unless you have, instead I would just be truthful. When people want to know how much money I have, I always tell them "Enough" and asked if they would like to make a contribution. Keep the conversation light, if they seem unusually pre-occupied with your finances that is a huge red flag!
tatimi, there is much wisdom in what you say. Thank-you for your input. I myself have had some incredible blessings because I was just in the right place at the right time! Hence, "the neighbor's garden" is sometimes closer than we think...
Dervish, I am genuinely happy to see you! You bring a refreshing difference of opinion, and that is very necessary to any discussion. That is what I so enjoy about this site, don't you agree?
Dervish, you old rascal, good to hear from you! Now please do not misunderstand what I am saying here my friends, Love is a totally different concept, and apart from "paying the bills", okay. In fact I agree with the statement, "I'll tell you about your faith by the size of your donation. If God has your heart, He also has your checkbook.." I personally believe if you haven't given your all, you haven't given anything!
Jim, my good friend, did you ever try to feed the poor with good intentions? I have worked in street missions, prisons, churches and you name it. And nothing goes anywhere without the bucks to back it. Hence the doctrine of titheing, even God needs the money, yours.
I totally agree with all of you. But I still can't explain to my ex-wife why she should have cut the shackles off of my anckles after a 28 year failed marriage...(it must be my limited vocabulary...)
The Amish are very devout religious group of people here in the states, I admire the way they conduct their lives. I used to live by them when I lived in Ohio. Good People!
Thank-you Jim for sharing... I really enjoy the guitar playing. I plunk around on an old 12 string and write a little country and gospel but this guy has the "gift". And the waterfalls were incredible...
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to old to do it...
thank-you Alf