I too have a dark side, very dark, after all there is no one more darker than a "Sorpio Woman" Go read the dark side of Scorpio, you will know what I mean, cos that is me to a tee.
My dark side is not often to the fore, unless I am pushed.
Dear nam, if we can't find you, I'm sure you know where to find the people who respect you. You are a superb blogger and always bring joy to many people. I do know there are two sides to most people ... I have a side to me that would make people run for cover if ever they press the wrong button.
Well Ian, you did learn something from your Dad, NEVER to treat a woman like he did.
I have not been on this site very long, but to me I always saw the big hearted loving side to you, and I guessed you were hurting too. What a fantasic comment from Nam. You are a very handsome young man and some lady is going to get lucky one day. At least you have good friends here, good friends love you warts an all.
Ian, like many people here I have my own story, but today is not about me, it is about you. Ccincy spoke words of wisdom, she is so right. You can forgive, you forgive the bad thing's that woman did and how she hurt your Mother and her kid's, but you will NEVER forget.
When you are haunted by something that happened in your past, whether someone wronged you forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for other people. When you forgive, it doesn't mean that you approve of what's happened. Rather, it means that you're giving yourself permission to move on with your life.
Forgiveness is a choice. Don't wait for it to just wash over you all of a sudden. You have to choose it. Don't give your power away. The pain of what happened is inevitable, but continuing to suffer is optional. The only person you can control is you. By constantly reliving the pain of what happened, you are giving your power away to the person who wronged you.
Don't cling to negative feelings. Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear, guilt, grief or frustration. While the pain may never completely disappear, forgiveness can help you release the anger and bring those in your life closer to you. People who make you angry, "CONTROL YOU"
If you can't do it for yourself Ian, do it for your dear Mother, your Mother would want you to be happy, not a to dwell on the past, these "Sociopathic" woman who destroy live's have not one ounce of empathy for anyone, all they care about are themselves.
Don't you think a Blog like this will cause more discord, just let it lie. My Mother had a saying ... "The least said ... The soonest mended" Just my advice, of course you don't have to take it, after all, what do I know?
Quiet and silence is a form of power. Thoughtful and wise people are not talkative people. – Dr T.P.Chia
There is so much that is good in the Bible, and I think if more people were humble like Jesus it would be a better world.
Don't you think we can pray to God in private when we ask for forgiveness?
I don't understand this below that I read, can you explain? because I am shocked.
'How many times,' the woman pleaded, 'How many times must I forgive my husband for breaking my bones and battering my body? The priest, the church, the Bible - they all tell me I have to forgive 70 times seven. My friends tell me I'm stupid for going back to him. What does it mean wives submit to your husbands?"
Can't argue with this blog. But hey! I only ever talk about this stuff when I am face to face with my friends, I do like a good debate, we can have differing opinions but we never fall out.
I think quite often people don't want comments because at the time of writing they are hurting, and can't handle negative comments at that given moment, they don't want anymore hurt when they read what others say that are not so nice. I do agree with you about reading some stuff that would like to comment. "A smile and a kind comment will make someones day so much brighter"
RE: Some choice here ladies!
Read my blog KN, many views, no comments. Human nature eh, give me my dog any day.