It's not easy to communicate with anyone in the west while you live in China but you could have sent gifts or letter by the post I suppose. But Vikings is right, buy a smartphone and have them teach you how to use it. Putting them in charge will encourage a new dynamic between you and the kids.
Not that I'm judging the Americans, lord knows we have worse problems in certain areas. But I am concerned that the world is moving backward with nationalisation becoming the mainstream in the US and the EU because you must admit parts of Europe have become emboldened by Donald Trump and he still has 3 years left in office.
Kindness is more important than wisdom, and recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom. -- Theodore Isaac Rubin
More on google from Theodore Isaac Rubin
Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best.
The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.
Japan's education system is one of the best in the world. Let me look for a meme on my Google+ account, you will love it.
By far the biggest problem is greed and a competitive spirit, where they walk over friends and family, in the Western world in general. The more money they get the more greedy they become, where Japan is different (or it was) in that they live modestly and save for retirement instead of flaunting their wealth.
For example, my ex's kids told me when they began experimenting with drugs. They didn't tell their parents, nor did I say a word. There's nothing wrong with smoking weed but one doesn't know where it can lead, so I told them that if they get caught, and get a criminal record, they won't be allowed to travel to many countries in the world. Both stopped immediately and one is working in the US and the other, like you, is teaching young students in China.
The best way to handle this is to stop looking at them. Make a concerted effort to look elsewhere in the room. The kids don't know you and they are summing you up which they should be encouraged to do. When I first met my ex's kids I ignored them as if they weren't there, it didnt take long for them to warm up to me. Another thing, I never told them what to do and today they tell me secrets that they won't tell their parents because they know I won't judge them.
Good blog, I'd never heard of gaslighting before. And believe me on another site I was trolled relentlessly and hated for reasons beyond my control, mainly because one particular member couldn't take rejection. Then jealousy is right behind everything because I am a success while the others are just floating around with big mouths and no knowledge on to make a comfortable monthly living.
The right one has not yet crossed my path. Although I've had wonderful men in my life, our general outlook was too different to remain together forever. But generally I am the exception to the rule, it would take a special man to want to live with me as I don't believe that marriage is a good institution.
I was told by a taxi driver that we should go to the casino after 4am and no later than breakfast. Now there's no more money to gamble because our new project has taken it all.
RE: Our young - why no speak?
It's not easy to communicate with anyone in the west while you live in China but you could have sent gifts or letter by the post I suppose. But Vikings is right, buy a smartphone and have them teach you how to use it. Putting them in charge will encourage a new dynamic between you and the kids.