Well, one big factor was their persistence. One guy called me every night, nonstop, for about 6 months. He'd make me laugh uncontrollably, until my cheeks literally hurt. I always had fun with him, when we hung out. And I got to see a different side of him. When I broke up with him, because I felt he was excluding my daughter, my heart was shattered to bits. I bawled uncontrollably. I even had to talk to someone to get him out of my system.
The second guy... well, he was a very sweet man who stole my heart with his words. I hadn't even met him in RL.
That's where you & I differ. I've tried waitressing a couple of times & absolutely HATED it!! IMO, people have little respect for waitresses, pushing them around, ordering, making a mess just for the purpose of me cleaning it up.
On the other hand, as a bartender, I'm more in charge. If they get pushy, I tell them to hold on. If they get rude, I wait on someone else first. If they get obnoxious, I cut them off. Enough said.
I've said before that if the spark isn't there initially, I won't stick around. However, I've been known in the past to fall for someone with whom I didn't initially have that 'spark'. And those seemed to be the hardest ones to actually get over, for me.
It takes a certain 'skill' to be in those professions, LL. IMO, not everyone can do it. I rather enjoy being a bartender. In doing that, I'm a 'boss', 'a psychologist', & a 'friend'.
Interesting though, Ambrose, that given the right circumstances, many of us might sway or bend on our criteria. I know I have in the past. If that person has enough of the important criteria, some of the smaller stuff can somehow be overlooked. It just depends.
I thought of you last weekend. I heard an ad on the radio that a company was doing screen tests at a local hotel. Seriously considered going too... but then chickened out.
Ambrose = A psychiatrist or professor in philosophy. He's always trying to pull our inner thoughts out & to get us to try to analyze ourselves & why we do/think certain things.
Big John = A golf instructor. No explanation needed.
Sassy = Owner of a coffee shop/restaurant. Her wit & wisdom, along with her personality make her perfect for this, IMO.
Dru = Tarot card reader. She has the wisdom & belief in such practice. And she could deliver her predictions with good common sense.
I do believe in 'eternal love'. Any person who can actually find their other half (& I mean that very seriously) has to, in my opinion, be one of the luckiest people in the world.
Here's something I thought might be interesting. Without knowing each member's actual occupation, give them an occupation that you think they'd truly fit, based on how you perceive them on here.
That's why I tell my roommate to please keep the lid down on mine. He thinks I'm neurotic & tells everyone, laughing & rolling his eyes. I just don't want my cat drinking out of the toilet!
It's too funny that you ask this! Obviously, I'm not the only AR person, when it comes to this.
The other day, I came home to find that my roommate had replaced the roll of toilet paper, but backward. He made it dispense from the bottom. I HAD TO change it to make it dispense from the top. Not sure why I'm like this though.
I don't need Donald Trump. What I DO need is someone with a steady income. Maybe that seems shallow to you, but I've lived in poverty, having had to support my ex & my child. I've been evicted because he took the rent money I gave him to the bar. That will never happen again.
But I do want to find that one person who gives me butterflies. I'm still a romantic at heart. If I'm not feeling the love, I'm not sticking around.
They can't really make us cry. We make ourselves cry. What I mean is that sometimes we get ourselves so wrapped up in those who wouldn't shed a tear for us, if circumstances were opposite. We're as strong as we allow ourselves to be, & as weak as we allow others to allow us to be.... the choice is ultimately ours.
It makes total sense. But in love, don't many of us pass up someone who would be a great soulmate for someone who can't possibly give us what we really need? Someone who is our 'polar opposite', so to speak?
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IMO, people have little respect for waitresses, pushing them around, ordering, making a mess just for the purpose of me cleaning it up.
RE: When do romantic preferences become unrealistic expectations or even vintage intolerance?