No, I think it is a ridiculous idea to think you are in love with someone you have never met, you can love the idea of them but real love is based on more than our imaginations.
Fair enough. As I said earlier I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, when I seperated first the last thought in my mind was to meeet anyone else. But time heals and I did reach a stage where I wanted male company, I am human and I think a good person, and was no going to deprive myself of that.
I still think any one who had to wait years, wouldnt, but each to their own.
Sorry hun but if you havent been in the situation you just dont know that. We are all entitled to our opinions but saying that a person should stay alone after a marriage fails even if it takes 20 years to get a divorce is unrealistic.
I do understand where you are coming from P. but if you had to wait 5 years to apply for a divorce you may feel differently, or if you lived in a Country where divorce was not available.
sad but true hun. I was lucky that a friend of mine worked in the resort I stayed in and knew the girls that babysat for me. Other nights I brought the kids with me and they had great time, you have to just except that it is a different holiday to going without kids but if they are having a good time so will you.
Some of the kiddy club supervisors may babysit at night, they did were I was, for a fee of course. I just did that one nigth though after all it is a family holiday.
The first time I brought my 3 away alone they were 3, 6 and 9.
I found a place in Spain that had a kiddies club. They were there for a few hours in the morning and again in the afternoon, giving me time to relax in the sun. Since it was a family place there were other families around in the evening so we all had company.
All he people named so far are great inspiration to us all and I thank you for making us think of these positive people and their works.
On a personal level, my daughter has always been a hero to me. At the age of 3 I was told she would never walk, talk or be able to look after herself.
Thankfully Zoe herself didnt believe that.
I watched her determination to do all of these things, copying her older brother, falling down to many times to count but always trying again. I saw the frustration in her eyes and witnessed the tantrums as she got bigger, I saw the intelligence in her and the frustration that she could not express this. Always a fighter she is now 16 and going to mainstream school with learning support. A popular and outgoing girl who was maid form captain this year.
I lost my job last October. I worked for a Property Development Company and the work just wasnt there. Havent been unemployed in 30 years nd m finding it impossible to get a permnent job. I am temping at the moment.I dont think there is a household here that has not been affected in some way by the cutbacks here.
Well hun as you know I had to sign on coming up to Christmas and have nothing but praise for the staff that dealt with my claim. It was sorted within days for me.
Sorry Eco I know this is not the thread topic but felt answer.
Yes this was the case for many people. Thankfully it has changed. Once the 5 years is up and both parties agree it is relatively easy to get the divorce, it is a 'no blame state' so other than swearing that you have lived apart for that number of years no other reason is required.
Because divorce hasnt been legal here for long the majority of people in my age group who seperate stay that way, many havent bothered getting divorced and are in second long term relationships, I met a woman when I was in court for my hearing that had been seperated 28 years.
That depends on the length of the seperation. Here you have to be living apart for 4 out of the previous 5 years before you can apply for a divorce. My divorce was finalized last month and I am 11 years seperated.
I started dating again 18 months after we seperated, but it is different for each indvidual. Divorce has only been legal here about 10 years so lots of seperated people in second relationships.
For years I had to book holidays as 2 adults and 2 children, was much cheaper than 1 adult and 3 children because of the supplements, used to drive me crazy.
Oh Kitty, it really wasnt your place to get involved. I know we all feel when our children hurt but once they are adults we need to let them get on with their lives and just be there for them. Interferring never leads to a good outcome.
I was to be called Frances after an uncle but my Mam read the name Yvonne while pregnant and loved it, my Grandad called me Frances to the day he died, he thought Yvonne was an unholy name.
Martina, confirmation name as I had just read a book about the life of St. Martin.
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RE: Would you ever do this?
I wasnt going to post at all but then saw that there had been over 100 views and only 14 responses I figured others might feel the same.