I've been reading all of the posts in this thread -- and discovered some interesting things:
Most of the posters who said it should solely be parental responsibility to solve peanut allergy problem -- are from "red" states (e.g. Indiana, North Carolina, etc.), within the U.S. Don't know political leanings from outside of U.S.
Parents are the first line of defense, so to speak, obviously. The problem with that is that we live in a world today, where the majority of homes require both parents to work (in a 2 parent home). It used to be where the wife would be able to stay home and closely oversee teaching her children what they need to know. That is not the case anymore. It is even worse in single parent homes.
A school which undertakes extensive proactive policies in order to try and protect children from these allergies, are doing so to try and prevent their being sued, which happens all too much these days. As was mentioned the HIPPA laws prevent such simple measures as asking the other children to be aware of the individual student's problem, unless the affected student's parents sign a release which would authorize the school to take such measures.
Home schooling is the ideal situation in today's world. But, how many parents can afford to do this? I am afraid the number is probably pretty small.
Our advanced medical technologies are part of the problem. When I was growing up, most people weren't aware of the prevalence of these various allergies. A lot of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches were in my lunch when I was growing up and in school. A student might have a reaction and get very ill, but nobody would know what was causing it. Plus, at least for me, my high school had over 3,000 students. The odds were that if an individual student had a problem, nobody else would even know about it, except maybe for the small circle of friends of the affected student.
We are exposed to so many different toxins and chemicals in our foods and other things, that our body can't keep up with them. And antibiotics have been prescribed for so many things, that our immune systems are getting weaker and weaker. Our bodies become immune to many of the normal antibiotics. They just don't work anymore. Which is why we now see more and more cases of MRSA infections, which require hospitalization and IV administration of "super" antibiotics.
This problem is a lot more complex than we realize and there are no simple "cut and paste" answers to it.
I think you would be surprised at how many men, "over 50" have a wee bit of knowledge about how a woman's body works! We actually spend a lot more than a few minutes "priming the pump", so to speak, before dropping a bucket into the well. And yes, things that happen by being more leisurely are absolutely amazing -- for both partners.
I never thought I would see a thread started where you did not have a definite position, one way or the other.
For myself, as an old soul, I would say definitely emotional pain.
I have experienced physical pain many times, on one occasion so bad that if I would have had a gun, I would have used it on myself, just to end the pain. I had my right hip replaced, and during the process my right femur was first fractured vertically down from the head -- and then four or five spiral fractures down the body of the femur. I was on a morphine drip for 5 1/2 days and then two weeks in rehab. I walk now with one leg 1/2 inch shorter than the other and deal with pain still on a daily basis. Add to that 12 other major surgeries and I can say I know "bad" physical pain. But the bad part of the pain is gone and I have learned to deal with the remaining pain. It is just part of my daily routine.
But, emotional pain can stay with you all your life. You can put it away in a corner of your mind, thinking that you have dealt with it, only to have it come back, time after time, to remind you, again and again, that it is still there.
I have buried two of my children, one many years ago. He was a twin who only lived three hours, due to diseases resulting from premature birth. The other, Damon, my youngest son, died last May, from suicide. He was 1,000 miles away and I had no way to get to his funeral. I had to have a small urn sent to me, so that I can remember the good times we had together. He was only 32 at the time of his death. My older sister died, also at age 32, also from suicide. My older brother died just 4 years ago, from a bad heart. He was 72.
The emotional pain from those deaths will stay with me till the day I die myself. I will always grieve for them, mourn their loss, not only for myself and my younger brother, the only two remaining members of our family, but also the loss of whatever good things they may have done had they lived.
I totally agree with your post. After 61 years of experience that I can draw on, with many relationships, I truly say one cannot be whole standing alone. Both halves are necessary to make a whole.
You must, of necessity bring all your past baggage with you when you enter a new relationship. But, that is not to say that the baggage hasn't been repaired and dusted off. You can unpack the baggage and put the contents away, in a safe place, and your new partner can help with the washing, folding and putting away.
I have known a great deal of pain in my years on this planet. I am still here. I have managed to put the pains and hurts away in a safe place. But, every once and awhile, there is the occasional item that needs to be rewashed and put back. Some pains never go all the way away. Some wounds never totally heal. Those pains and wounds can only be mitigated with the help of someone else, a significant other. Everyone occasionally will find the need to have someone tell you that everything will be alright.
There must be compromise on both sides. Even if we start out with little compromises, it will set the basis for future negotiations.
Palestine will never get back all of their lands. They know it, but cannot admit it. That would lose face. Israel will have to give up some of their lands. They know it, but they, too would lose face.
Both sides will have to lose face and compromise.
It will be decades more conflict before we see true compromise. Until then, there are going to be killings on both sides.
Trust? Maybe in tiny little bits. Trust is easily lost, but very difficult to regain.
Five out of seven years I was married to a woman who nagged and criticized every single day of the week, week in, week out. After five years of it, I left. I later discovered that she had been "going through the change", and that it was a hormonal thing.
Would the outcome have been different had I known about it sooner? Probably not.
Hormonal changes can definitely allow a woman to be considered "temperamental"!
Don't know if that helps to answer your question. It is only MHO.
You are totally correct, Venus. There does need to be accountability for these actions -- and severe consequences. And I do not mean for the people who were lied to, in order to buy those houses. The banks ran their operations like a big sting operation. Enticing in essentially good people with the offer of what appears to be incredible deals, then nailing them six months down the road, knowing the vast majority of them will fail, so the banks can start all over again. They knew these people couldn't afford the homes they were selling. But hell, all they saw were commissions coming in. And they bundled hundreds of sales together and quickly resold them, making yet more profit. With no consequences whatsoever. And it will happen, over and over, until people smarten up and hold those responsible accountable for their actions.
This post is so full of it that I almost need to put on wading boots to complete it.
The stimulus was needed to prevent the country from going into a depression. The biggest complaint from economists was that it didn't go far enough, should have spent more, not the other way around. Where do you think the unemployment rate would be had it not been for the stimulus?
Another part of that "debt" increase was due to the bank bailouts, which were, by the way, created by greedy corporations and greedier financiers. The majority of which, I would bet, were those on the right side of the aisle.
Then, let's add to that debt the costs of two wars. Neither one of which was ever paid for. Both wars started by a Republican administration.
Social Security didn't add one penny to that debt. Medicaid costs have gone up, due to the increased unemployment, caused by those things I already mentioned. Medicare costs have gone up. But the people using it didn't cause the increases. In fact, medicare recipients pay each and every month into the system. Is less going into the system right now? Of course. Less people are unemployed.
HUGE tax cuts for the top 1% of the population caused about 800 billion dollars of that debt. And Obama "was" stupid to go along with it, so I also blame him for that one.
BUT, the vast, vast majority of that deficit and national debt I hang around the shoulders of those where it precisely belongs, the Republicans and greedy big businesses.
So, lay out "all" the facts, "correct" facts, before laying the blame totally on the Obama administration!!!!!
Stormee- Chivalry is not dead! It might be gasping for air, now and then. But not dead. At least not from my perspective. But, yes, there are some out there, definitely not to be trusted.
Venus - You little devil, you!!! Your odds of finding someone better are a wee bit higher than many others - look at your location, for goodness sakes. Buenos dias!!
I have yet to meet anyone who ever totally heals from a bad relationship. It isn't possible, because, as you have said, we "are" the sum total of our past and our experiences do shape and define us.
Even in the best of future relationships, there will be something that someone says or does that will temporarily allow some of that previous negativity to "peek" into the current relationship. It is impossible to avoid.
Everybody walks around with invisible scars. Some have more than others. In an ideal world, the famous phrase "love is never having to say you're sorry", would be the ideal. But we don't live in an ideal world and there will be occasions in any relationship when one will have to apologize for a mistake or slip-up of one kind or another.
You should do a bit more research, as corporate tax rates are some of the lowest in the world, especially when you factor in all the loopholes, subsidies and other deductions. Example: IBM and I believe GE paid absolutely "0" tax dollars.
Hard for me to act like a kid. Well, hard for my body to respond as a kid anymore. But, "did" engage in a playful pillow fight with an old girlfriend's daughter one evening. It was fun, but had to quit as 13-year old daughter was acting too precocious. But she told mom she had a great time, so I guess that was all that mattered.
Not at all, at least with respect to myself. I would not respect a woman who would be other than that. Any man who would want it differently, IMHO, must be pretty insecure and/or low on self-esteem.
Both men and women have interests, some in common with each other, if in a relationship, some in common with no relationship, and others have dissimilar interests -- and can still be open to a relationship.
The world has changed -- is changing, every second. Those who are stuck in the stereotypes of the past will find it difficult to commit to those who have moved on.
Speaking as a man not in a relationship, I can say that if I could choose, I would want a woman who not only respects me and my interests, but who would also have her own interests. The two are perfectly compatible. I try to learn something new everyday, even after 61 years -- and would want anyone committed to me to do the same. Isn't that the general idea? To "grow" together?
To the CS member I am hoping to grow into a relationship with, just know that our conversations are treasured, as stimulating pieces of info going back and forth. I look forward to the next one.
You want some true heaven on earth?? Take a mess of boneless country style pork ribs. Slice some onions and put them in the bottom of a crockpot. Add the boneless ribs. Pour a can or so of beef broth over them. Pour a jug of your favorite bbq sauce over it all. Put the cover on and cook on low for 10 hours or so. The result are bbq'd ribs that just fall apart and are fantastic!!
Fantasy -- There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying what you want. Nor with being straight forward. But, perhaps, it is the way you say what you are looking for. I have seen your profile in the past, but don't remember what you said you wanted. So I am working somewhat in the dark. But a wee bit on honey can go a long way.
Men do tend to be intimidated, oftentimes for no apparent reason. With some men, it takes very little for them to become defensive.
If you are laying out what you want, like "A,B,C" (I mean really direct, firm specs), you may be limiting yourself in what responses you may get. You might miss getting a response from someone who may have two out of the three things you are looking for, but maybe has other things that are constructive, to offer.
Boredom is a state of mind. Kind of like living alone but never being lonely.
Though I joined this site to try and find someone to form a lasting relationship with, I enjoy almost as much, all the different forums. It is always such a treat hearing what other people have to say on such a wide variety of topics.
If you are bored here, then you are definitely not looking around you!
That's what I just said, just used different words loving oneself=facing oneself.
As far as helping others only if they want to be helped. Another old diddy is appropriate here: You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink!
There are many men out there, even in CS, who are looking for a relationship. Who don't want anyone's money. Who also don't have any money to send, myself included.
But distance is a real bummer. Germany to US in a lo-o-ong way to go, n'est pas?
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RE: One child in elementary school has a P-nut allergy. Should the school
I've been reading all of the posts in this thread -- and discovered some interesting things:Most of the posters who said it should solely be parental responsibility to solve peanut allergy problem -- are from "red" states (e.g. Indiana, North Carolina, etc.), within the U.S. Don't know political leanings from outside of U.S.
Parents are the first line of defense, so to speak, obviously. The problem with that is that we live in a world today, where the majority of homes require both parents to work (in a 2 parent home). It used to be where the wife would be able to stay home and closely oversee teaching her children what they need to know. That is not the case anymore. It is even worse in single parent homes.
A school which undertakes extensive proactive policies in order to try and protect children from these allergies, are doing so to try and prevent their being sued, which happens all too much these days. As was mentioned the HIPPA laws prevent such simple measures as asking the other children to be aware of the individual student's problem, unless the affected student's parents sign a release which would authorize the school to take such measures.
Home schooling is the ideal situation in today's world. But, how many parents can afford to do this? I am afraid the number is probably pretty small.
Our advanced medical technologies are part of the problem. When I was growing up, most people weren't aware of the prevalence of these various allergies. A lot of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches were in my lunch when I was growing up and in school. A student might have a reaction and get very ill, but nobody would know what was causing it. Plus, at least for me, my high school had over 3,000 students. The odds were that if an individual student had a problem, nobody else would even know about it, except maybe for the small circle of friends of the affected student.
We are exposed to so many different toxins and chemicals in our foods and other things, that our body can't keep up with them. And antibiotics have been prescribed for so many things, that our immune systems are getting weaker and weaker. Our bodies become immune to many of the normal antibiotics. They just don't work anymore. Which is why we now see more and more cases of MRSA infections, which require hospitalization and IV administration of "super" antibiotics.
This problem is a lot more complex than we realize and there are no simple "cut and paste" answers to it.