I think that this is going to the extreme - if I ever felt that I was on a date where my words, appearance and unconscious actions were being scrutinized it would make me uncomfortable.
For my own part I disagree Susie, I look for women who are available and stay away from those taken.
Now, to answer the initial question posed by thatcutefrenchie I find that at my age and after the relationships I've had I'm not looking for perfection however, my criteria of what I'm looking for has been refined to the point that perhaps I'm being too picky.
Aria Rose wants, but doesn't need, more feedback from the male segment so here's my 2 cents :
Wikked, you are spot on and I totally concur with your thoughts. I'm well past "needing" a women in my life. It's really quite a content feeling and it makes dating less nervous and anxious.
Thanks for this reminder Angel! Bohemian Rhapsody...me & my sons driving on the freeway doing the violent head waving when we realize that the driver in the car beside us is just killing himself laughing at us!
Butterfly's right in that at least it wasn't 4 months...I spent about that time with a girl who said just that: she wasn't ready for a relationship and that was it. We're still friends but the closeness we shared for a time is gone. Que sera sera...
I have an early diagnoses of A.A.A.D.D.; Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder. I was very concerned, so I did some research on the subject.
This is how it manifests itself:
You decide to water your garden. As you turn on the hose in the driveway, you look over at your car and decide your car needs washing. As you start toward the garage, you notice that there is mail on the porch table that you brought up from the mail box earlier. You decide to go through the mail before you wash the car. You lay your car keys down on the table, put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table, and notice that the can is full. So, you decide to put the bills back on the table and take out the garbage first. But then you think, since you are going to be near the mailbox when you take out the garbage anyway, you may as well pay the bills first. You take your check book off the table, and see that there is only one check left. Your extra checks are in your desk in the study, so you go inside the house to your desk where you find the can of Coke that you had been drinking. You're going to look for your checks, but first you need to push the Coke aside so that you don't accidentally knock it over. You see that the Coke is getting warm, and you decide you should put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold. As you head toward the kitchen with the Coke, a vase of flowers on the counter catches your eye -- they need to be watered. You set the Coke down on the counter, and you discover your reading glasses that you have been searching for all morning. You decide you better put them back on your desk, but first you are going to water the flowers. You set the glasses back down on the counter, fill a container with water and suddenly you spot the TV remote. Someone left it on the kitchen table. You realize that tonight when you go to watch TV, you will be looking for the remote, but you won't remember that it's on the kitchen table, so you decide to put it back in the den where it belongs, but first you will water the flowers. You pour some water in the flowers, but quite a bit of it spills on the floor. So, you set the remote back down on the table, get some towels and wipe up the spill. Then, you head down the hall trying to remember what you were planning to do.At the end of the day:
The car isn't washed, The bills aren't paid, There is a warm can of Coke sitting on the counter, The flowers don't have enough water, There is still only one check in your check book, You can't find the remote, You can't find your glasses, And you don't remember what you did with the car keys.Then, when you try to figure out why nothing got done today, you are really baffled because you know you were busy all day long, and you are really tired.
You realize this is a serious problem, and you will try to get some help for it, but first you will check your e-mail.
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RE: WHAT ARE YOU MEN REALLY LOOKING FOR BECAUSE I'M CONFUSED!
I think that this is going to the extreme - if I ever felt that I was on a date where my words, appearance and unconscious actions were being scrutinized it would make me uncomfortable.