lighter_times Forum Posts (416)

RE: arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.

Hey, what you stressing about - some beans take a little while to grow into beanstalks and then you'll find your fortune - I write and haven't earnt much at all yet, got a couple of nice trophy things and a small cheque every quarter that'll buy me a paper once a week but I'm following my heart and what I want to do at the moment. Same for you. So what if you're working in a bingo hall at the moment a lot of actors wait tables, life has it's own path and if you're destined to do that it will happen no matter what age you are. I didn't start writing till I was 39 - and my Nan's 86 and she's learning how to use the computer!! Age has nothing to do with it!!!

RE: arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.

Personally I would even change my number or buy myself another sim card for everyday use, she'll soon get bored when she knows she can't screw your head up anymore. Come on mate, you really don't need this you've got your whole life ahead of you - now enjoy it!

RE: arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.

Are the fireman there yet in their uniforms?? If so, I'll be over in about 10 minutes - keep them there for me!!! I do like a man in a uniform!!!

RE: arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.

I am so proud of her to be honest. See you have to move on and just let it go - if it's still bothering you then write it down, tear it up, set light to it and then throw the ashes outside - it's supposed to help.

RE: arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.

Don't beat yourself up! By my reckoning, without casting any judgements, maybe the intention was to hurt and screw your head up totally, who's to say. But holding onto the images inside your own mind really isn't doing you any favours. Why do you feel inadequate? Were you there when she was having this other relationship and saw what they were doing and how 'well-hung' he was so to speak? All you have are the mental images that were planted there, love, and out of respect for your feelings I personally feel such details as have been relayed to yourself, should never have been shared with you.

RE: whhhhyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

I really like the last paragraph

RE: single life

So it will happen! Sometimes we look too hard or expect too much straight away. I couldn't tell you how many times I wished things to be different for myself and if there is someone in the world for everyone then I know you will find her, it's just sometimes it takes a little longer.

RE: whhhhyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

I sent you a message - at least that way you've had one today!!!

RE: single life

Double that mate and that's how long I've been single. Admitedly I wasn't looking but there's nothing wrong with enjoying the single life - at your age who needs to be tied down with a bird who's expecting you to take her out all the time or moan because you wanna watch football? It will happen when the times right, so just enjoy the time you have at the moment until then.

Recurring Dreams!!!

Dreaming about losing your teeth is really common. There are many different interpretations for these dreams but I tend to think this is more relevant to you: If they fall out one by one without prior pain then I would say there may be certain aspects of your life which you feel control of your decision-making has been taken away from you or lost - (a random example would be contact with a child - someone else makes the decision as to when and where you see that child and you have little 'control' over that decision - nothing implied at all Jason) - this is just an illustration, it could be work commitments or just trying to fit in around someone elses schedule. As the dream is personal to you at the time you should consider what else is going on at the time in your dream and it may make it easier for you to understand. Some interpretations state that falling out teeth can also be a sign of concerns over your appearance and whether others would find you attractive. Hope you understand my ramblings.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Magsy, thanks for sharing such a lovely poem with us - I appreciated it!

And as you said, out of negative can come positive - you've sure proved the truth in that saying with the amount of hugging that's been going on. Without your first post none of this would have been shared. So I suggest we keep this thread running for anyone who ever needs a hug if they're feeling low, unloved or alone!! There will always be somewhere old members and new can get the support and hugs they need, thanks to you - see that's one big positive that's come out of your situation so far. Thank you!


Extra hugs all round.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Medieval, these ones are definately dedicated just for you Have a good day!

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Here you are Jason - there's an extra couple for spares as well. If you run out then get in touch and we'll give you a refill!

Recurring Dreams!!!

Interpreting this dream is relatively easy - don't wear pvc catsuits in bed anymore bulldog - then when you dream of someone beyond your reach you won't get all sweaty!!!!

Surely saying No should mean No!

Have you been talking to my kids Lily? They thought last night when I sent them to bed at almost 1am when I said "no playing up for bed!" meant jump about on your beds, argue over who eat all the pringles (it was me!!!!) and then nag to see if I would relent into letting them have their telly on.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Thanks Ramone, I'm claiming a couple of these for myself today, hope you don't mind.

Has anyone found a lost voice? Got up this morning and my voice has gone walkabout - so if you find it could you please return it - I can't even nag about the mess the kids have left in the sitting room!

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

I do understand, although it's not the same thing my eldest moved to Australia last year - I miss her terribly and when she's down all I want to do is put my arms around her but obviously that's impossible with the distance - so my phone bill looks like someone stood my phone in a grow bag overnight! All you can do for your daughter is tell her you love her and will always be there for her. It's hard I know Englandz - I was hoping my daughter would be back in Feb when her visa runs out but yesterday she told us she's extending it with a view to staying permanently - which she can do because of where she works. I'm so proud of her and I know she's happy and where she wants to be but it doesn't stop me missing her. So the extra hugs go down a treat today, thank you.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Magsy, I'm glad you're feeling a bit better and if you need anymore virtual hugs then post away - we'll all gladly send you them - I don't know about anyone else but it makes me feel better sending/giving hugs as well. My Nan always said it's better to give than receive - so here's a spare hug you can keep in your pocket and when you feel the need take it out and use it.



If you run out and need a refill, don't hesitate to ask!!!

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

I'm fine - but it does annoy me - I realise that every person in the world can get low, of course I do, and only used the scenario of a single parent as an example - didn't mean to infer that it was an affliction that only single mums suffered from! My brother's single with no children and I know how it is for him when he hits a real low. So Englandz your hugs are greatly appreciated as I nurse my wounds and place myself in the naughty corner. And we wonder why the world is looking a bit hugless - The nearest source? Around here that would be the postperson - do you think she'd mind if I grabbed her for a hug then? - she's about the nearest hug-source we have around here! - Only trouble is I think she may call the police or something if I ran out of the house screaming 'hug me!'.

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

What's the point bringing surprises with me if I'm gonna tell you what they are! All I can say is, what and see and you won't be disappointed! By the way do you like Haribos??

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

cool - can I bring my washing with me as well - you said you were a dab hand at washing!

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

No problem - I'll even fix it while I'm waiting for the fireworks to start!

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

I was first to ask so I'm first in the queue. Would you prefer payment in wine gums or licorice comforts?

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

Can I book five tickets for front row at your window for next year?? Do refreshments come included?

RE: The first post of 2007 on the UK board

We've still got fireworks going on around here - I thought after the kids watched all the ones on tv they'd finally go to bed to sleep. Not a chance - they've already pulled one of the roller blinds down trying to see where the fireworks are coming from!

If I had three wishes for the New Year then they would be:

That everyone I know on here and elsewhere have the most fantastic year they could dream of.

That they find the happiness they seek.

And that they all live happily ever after like in the fairy tales.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Well, you should consider yourself lucky because by the sounds of it you've not experienced that low yet and I hope you never do. It's nearly impossible to just turn up on someone's doorstep for a cup of tea when you're that low especially if you're a single parent with several children in tow, and I speak from experience! So if someone needs a virtual hug on the threads or some comfort etc they are more than welcome as far as I'm concerned!

Surely saying No should mean No!

I couldn't have explained things more clearly after the word 'No' and yes in my vocabulary no does mean no. It never means maybe or go ahead and nag me I'll change my mind. No means purely what it says and I personally feel that any person who doesn't understand the meaning of 'No' shouldn't be sending messages to people in the first place! But that's just my opinion!

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

I do think sometimes although the tv people say call this number they don't realise just hard it is to pick up the phone and call a complete stranger when you really are on that sort of low. It's not just up to the person to make themselves feel any different but if people around just showed they cared in a supporting manner, rather than a materialistic manner at xmas then the world would definately be a better place and there would far fewer people who feel low this time of year. I get cross with family who pop round just before or after and say "we'll have to do this more often" but despite your efforts they never seem to arrive until the next special occasion.

And I hope I'm not speaking out of turn; there are so many special people on here willing to lend an ear, at least you know there is always someone who will listen and care because everyone has really made me feel at home in such a short while. I wish you all a really fantastic year ahead and hope that everyone finally finds the happiness they truly deserve.

RE: you know when they say that everyone needs a hug now and then.........

Tell you what, we'll set up our own Charity - "Save Hugs from Extinction!" It's probably easier to set up a paypal account - that way we can take credit cards as well!

Recurring Dreams!!!

I think sometimes we don't get all of the message in one go - maybe the time isn't right for us to work out what the dream means but we get hints along the way as if to say, it's alright there will be a solution! Then suddenly when the time is right we either understand it ourselves or there's a coincidental meeting or conversation, such as this, that says yep the times right to finally sort this. I don't know - well I'm glad you're not offended and it's about time I did some house-work today! Have a great day Englandz!