where is the beer?? Everyone keeps saying they come here for the beer but I can't find any? I've looked under the keyboard, under the monitor and even in the cdrom drive but there's no beer - maybe I'm not signing on properly. So I suppose I'll just have to hang around for the chat and to annoy Migene and Bulldog!
Seeing beyond the physical is so important - I can really look like a tom-boy and tend to most of the time because I just can't go drilling holes in walls etc wearing a pretty, flouncy dress. And doing my hair means two seconds on the way out of the door because we'd be late for school. Not saying I'm not feminine, I do like to spend a little time on myself occasionally but as a single parent I find it difficult to fit in and would rather spend the time doing other things I haven't usually got time for, if that makes sense. And at the end of the day when I wake up in the morning I still look the same as the person you went to bed with!
I know the feeling - I had a couple of days break because I needed to get on with a few things but the first day was terrible - I'd rather give up smoking than go through forum withdrawal again!
Out of curiosity how many of us are actually here just to chat to others, or hopefully find their true love? or just to fill time? Or just to be nosey at the threads and peoples profiles without any actual motive of making contact etc? I was just wondering out of boredom more than anything and checking out to see if there are really any single men who fit my criteria available!
... and they fell in love and lived happily ever after! I should think that's most peoples wish who use dating sites but in reality if there is someone for everyone out in the world they might be searching another site or looking in a different direction. I believe in destiny and if you are supposed to meet whether it is via this site, another or a chance meeting it will happen eventually. I do think however, that a simply reply to say, thanks but no thanks, to a message or flower is courteous. If you state you are considerate on your profile then show that by simply acknowledging the fact that someone has gone out of their way to show interest or just say hello. And if someone's profile details a certain age or ethnic group then show respect for that persons hopes or wishes. I'm still getting messages from lads who are young enough to be my son and I do reply to say no thank you as I've found that they can be a bit persistent if you simply ignore them!
I'm gonna be boring and go back to the original topic of this thread because I missed out on all the fun watching Liverpool getting beat! Stretchmarks - yeah blokes get them and often people who have dieted losing a lot of weight suddenly. Some people have found that using vitamin E cream helps or a cream containing collodial silver - I know the silver option works on scars which is one of the listed treatments as my youngest had a nasty scar by her eye after she split it open years ago and it never seemed to heal properly we'd tried everything and last summer she started getting really upset over it. We just used savlon mixed with a few drops of liquid collodial silver, at the time we couldn't track down the actual cream - it has worked brilliantly as her scar is barely visible and the few stretchmarks I had on my stomach (well you'd expect it after five kids!) I can hardly see anymore after the silver mix so maybe it's worth a try.
They're just so rude in the shops and you might as well be invisible, in or out of the car, as they head towards the rugby ground they just try to walk through you in droves. And me being such a tiny little thing most of them look like they are built like tanks!!
you're not the only one to feel so welcome by west ham fans!! We get it with the rugby fans - thousands of them from all other the country and sometimes world and they frighten the wotsits off me? And if you wanna know what wotsits are - that's when you have to go home to change your trousers!!!!
See that's the thing people don't realise themselves anyway - but as for dot cotton I'm definately not that bad, I was thinking along the lines of Pat Butcher!
I don't know - my best mate is from Liverpool and still have deep family roots there - I don't notice her accent unless she's been back up there for a while. But I was talking to my daughter in Oz recently and she says I sound really cockney - although I never thought I did compared to some people I know, and has said a couple of times when on msn - you're cockney roots are showing mum. So in answer I think it depends on the person who's listening or talking to you!
get back in your playpen!! Only joking, but I couldn't understand why most of my messages or flowers were from lads a lot younger than myself - I would understand if I looked like Angelina Jolie (forgive the spelling if it's not right) and really persistent or messages like if you change your mind I'll be here with open arms! - then I began to wonder if there was a world shortage of men my age!
Scousers got his head screwed on right and the advice he gave you is spot on. Just be yourself, take a couple of deep breaths and if she's not got horns or sharp teeth then you've no reason to be nervous. Your a nice looking lad and your personality as being caring and compassionate comes through in your posts so what's not to like. Don't worry about it - I used to get tongue tied and nervous just picking up the phone to call car breakdown people or someone I didn't know. But at the end of the day I like who I am, and I know you like the person you are and that in itself gives you confidence - let you into a secret though, what helped me through my barrier of talking to strangers was talking to almost anyone - it took a lot of courage at the beginning and now it doesn't bother me. I'd ask for help in the supermarket from people walking past if I'd not got my step-ladder to get things off the top shelf, I'd talk to the old ladies at the bus stop and now it doesn't matter whether I've met someone before or not I'm quite happy to talk.
That's brilliant!!! I hope she's as great as she sounds on the forum and you get on like a house on fire. Keep us posted, can I be bridesmaid??? I'll even make your wedding dress Bulldog, do you want pink to hide your blushes!
I was talking to my son about this and he says it's the Mrs Jones syndrome - apparently most lads between 18 and 28 go through a phase of seeking a 'woman with experience' or a mother figure depending on their needs and wants at the time. So in his words, "it's nothing personal it's just you fit the age bracket, Ma!"
Is anyone else getting problems with very young men being persistent or not taking no thank you for an answer? I know most people may find it flattering but I don't and I even put an age on my profile to avoid the situation.
I hope you've blocked that person. In my book that's out of order and I hope you didn't find it too upsetting. There seems to be a couple of people about lately who either send rude or nasty messages or constantly harrass people when they've said no thank you. Well don't let some immature ba*tard get you down - I'd just block them and forget about it.
Mignene, I hope you don't mean me chasing the Lollipop Man? I won't chase after no man!!! With my little legs I know I haven't got a chance of catching up with them, so why bother????
Compile all your short stories into one book. Be very careful with the states, though - I've learnt from experience. I signed a 7-year contract, such a stupid thing to do now I look back on it as a large publisher here after waiting over a year suddenly expressed their interest and it was too late. I know roughly how many copies friends and family have yet on my royalty statement it stated quite a number less to say the least. Also the law is different and often because we are in this country most of the marketing is left to the Author. Obviously there are good companies but most of them appear to be subsideries of companies based in this country. It's one of those things - we learn by our mistakes.
I really wouldn't worry everyone has some insecurities and if we allow them to govern our lives where would we be? Life-coaching is an excellent way to get past them so I'm told, as I've blown some really good chances of progressing with my writing last year because of my stupid insecurities - I was invited to America to read some of my work at this big writers convention, offered a free place at a special writers retreat (including all my travel etc) as well as had a couple of invitations to read a couple of my poems on some radio station in the States. I didn't want to travel alone but I was only offered expenses etc for myself - too insecure in myself to do that at the time - so I had to decline the offers - I could kick myself now!!!!
When you're rich and famous I can say I knew him when he worked at the bingo hall!!! Have you tried lulu.com for self-publishing?? It's great and no set up fee - it really looks nice when you send out a manuscript as it already looks like a book. Without postage it only cost a few quid per book and you can do all the marketing yourself. Getting published is a real pain in the bum, although I've got a couple of published books by a publisher in the states, most here won't deal with you unless you have an agent and getting an agent is near impossible, they only take on 1 book in a good few thousand each year. I've got four manuscripts I just haven't done anything with yet because I didn't want to waste the money on postage before xmas and get the standard, "thank you but at present we are inundated with manuscripts so have returned your manuscript unread!" Tell you what, I'll write it, you star in it and we'll get the rest of the cast from our friends on here - it'll be a No 1 at the box office - anyone got a video camera????
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Na, bulldog and I just have moments - not really we're just friends online!