lighter_times Forum Posts (416)

RE: What's A Player???

He wasn't from a part of the States was he?

It's just I get a lot of them and they all say here's my email address contact me direct. I respond with a thank you but prefer to keep my mail through this system and after two or three other messages saying it's easier for them to chat away from the board etc or they want the messages to be on a more familiar basis and I still say thanks but don't pass on my private email, they don't get in touch anymore. It's funny because in a couple of those messages although they were polite and quite charming I was called a player for not passing on my personal details.

Lily, I don't think you're a player, I think it was a phrase he used to entice you into proving to him you weren't by passing on your details. If you understand what I mean. Don't stress over it, the only player about at the time was him!

RE: Friendship

Poppy, it's sometimes easier for people to blame those closest to them than look at the real reason. Don't take it to heart - it's her life and her decisions and you aren't and can't be held responsible for them. I'm going through something similar at the moment with my daughter in Oz and I know she's only hitting out at me because of a situation. Concentrate on yourself and your own family/relationships and just be there to pick up the pieces if ever she needs you! That way you'll show her what a true friend you really are!

How can you track?

No, I've been through the friend re-united for our old school and he's not on the list - the only Graham is spelt that way and not his way - and definately not him as I recognised the surname and put a face to it. Well time will tell! My names now on the list so if it's destiny that we get in touch it'll happen.

How can you track?

Thank you, I'm just signing up with friends reunited and will take it from there. I can't understand why it's bugging me - everytime I think of something else he pops into my head. Sometimes that happens, though, if someone I know needs help - it's bizarre but always been that way. For whatever reason I feel I need to at least try to find him and take it from there. If I told the truth as well, when I was 24 I met him again via a friend who worked in a hair saloon near where I worked - I had my eldest daughter and really wasn't in a good marriage to say the least - he was a good friend to me then and even tried to talk me into running off to spain with just my daughter where I had friends for safety - I didn't go and didn't visit my friends workplace anymore for fear of what my now ex-husband would have thought or done if he'd found out I'd told any person about how be behaved! So maybe I have something I need to say to him - like thank you anyway.

How can you track?

thank you - I will try that! And don't worry I'm not about to go stealing someone's husband if he's happily married!

How can you track?

How can you track someone down who you used to go to school with and haven't seen in years without knowing their last name?

Bizarre question I know, but many, many times I've had someone appear in my dreams and we live the happily ever after story. But I've never seen this persons face - it's just you know he's there by your side. Well, last night for the first time ever, I was dreaming this happy ever after dream and this person was by my side, absolutely wonderful feeling of total true love - but this time he got up walked a couple of paces forwards and then turned, smiling saying "you know my name!" I called out his name in my sleep "Graeme!" and woke myself up with it. Got up this morning and shrugged it off, but by this evening his name is haunting me. The odd thing is I've been told many times that my soul-mate is a man from the past who I see but don't see, probably lives within the same area and more than likely goes to the same places - apparently he will suddenly walk back into my life at the right time. But it's bugging me now because I can see a mental image of him and how he was in my dream!!! So any suggestions????

RE: Is there such a thing as true love?

I hope so - because I'm gonna be waiting a long time otherwise!

But seriously some people are lucky enough to find it and others it takes a little while - my Nan met my Grandad when she was 45 and he 36, everyone was against such an age gap in those days but they truly did find true love and live happily ever after!

ROMEO, ROMEO WHERE FOR ART THEY ROMEO?

How can any woman resist such charm?

ROMEO, ROMEO WHERE FOR ART THEY ROMEO?

I'm getting my fishing rod out of the shed - maybe I'll have more luck with that!!!

ROMEO, ROMEO WHERE FOR ART THEY ROMEO?

Out of absolute boredom tonight I've come up with a plan. In one sentence say something alluring, not rude, to entice your dream match, or list your favourite chat up line.

RE: can any 1 help please

There is a loop hole where the person is 'self-employed' and supposed to be tax and ni registered and aren't - there's little chance of actually proving it in many cases. Also if there has been any recorded violence in the relationship which would suggest that further violence/harrassment may be triggered by the CSA enforcing payment then they won't even chase the matter. And if you're on benefit it makes little difference to your money, so is it really worth it? I know how much I would benefit from an extra £10 or £20 per week but the consequences and risk I would be taking would definately outweigh the benefits!

KISS & MAKE UP

Thank you and make sure you spend some time on you!! Have a great day!

KISS & MAKE UP

Much better thanks - the sun is shining here inside me and outside my house. How are you? I'm on and off a bit today as I've got the energy to do some of those jobs you put off all the time! So I'm gonna charge ahead with them although it's taken me half the day to get dressed! No, I'm not being lazy - the phone hasn't stopped - that's great because it was happy chat for the sake of chat! and been doing a couple of jobs whilst on the phone so I didn't have a hand free to put my clothes on. So upstairs I go now, get dressed and tackle the mess in the kids room! I will show no mercy as the toys scattered everywhere seem to get themselves out they can either put themselves back or I'm bagging them up and putting them in the loft!!!! And not an idol threat this time!!!! So will catch up again soon.

RE: new to all this

It wasn't me - I didn't do anything - the banishing spell was for someone else - must have been reading his post at the same time!!!

I'm not sure because the couple of blokes I do like I've recently found out are Gay - and my book doesn't have a spell to turn them straight! Damn!!!!


Today I would just be grateful to anyone who can make my washing pile disappear - I've tried and tried but the only spell I can find is to put them all in a big pile in the garden and set light to them then scatter the ashes to the wind - but I think the kids will moan when I'm walking around the house with no clothes to put on!!!

DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

Yeah will catch you later hun, there's also a bonus to me having all my kids; just think of how many birthday and christmas presents they'd get!!!

RE: new to all this

OK since I made the tea & coffee again will someone do the washing up? And Migs, if you don't put your cookies back in the drawer and they get eaten it's not my fault - you should tidy up after yourself! Bulldog, did you eat all the kitkats? All I can find in this drawer now are wrappers - I know they say take a break with a kit kat but it doesn't mean when you have a day off work you sit and eat kit kats all day!!!

DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

Well said Bulldog!!!



I had a day and a half yesterday and I began to think I'd jumped into the middle of a reality show called "Let's Put Her Down!!" - feeling a lot better today, especially with everyone's support which is brilliant and appreciated. I'm a romantic - I live in hope of finding someone to love unconditionally and receive the same in return especially since I've been on my own for so long. I have dreams where I'm living the happily ever after story then wake feeling unloved and alone - no wonder I can't wake up in the morning! I know this is why that womans words hurt me so much, I'd had a couple of other problems in the day including the washing machine deciding to keep turning itself on and off (all this electronic crap on washing machines just gives it a will of it's own! - got enough of that going on in the house with teenagers don't need a washing machine having a hormonal crisis!!) and the thought of waking up and facing everything on my own for always seemed a really bleak and sad future. So thanks everyone, I've taken my confused, depressed head of today and put the happy, life is good, head back on.

RE: new to all this

It depends, the guarantee doesn't cover you for things like man-handling or careless use! You'd better show it respect if you wanna take it back afterwards!!!

RE: new to all this

I've only been here about four or five weeks I think, but to be honest everyone is so nice you just feel at home. Who's making the tea? - I did it last time!

RE: new to all this

you're getting the clone, Migs - after 24 hours you'll be taking it back asking for a refund!!!

RE: new to all this

Hi, have fun and welcome!

DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

I also think that's a mistake we make - being a good friend is often far better than trying to fit into another persons shoes.

RE: new to all this

Sorry, Lily but 24 hours is all you get - you'll have to pick someone else for the next day - any way they say variety is the spice of life!!

And thank you for saying such a nice thing - you're a lovely person as well so working on your theory they'll be two very lucky men in the world!!!

RE: new to all this

OK I understand 24 hours is a short time but just think at least you won't have to do his washing!!

RE: new to all this

You drew the short straw - you get a clone of me!!!

DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

Thank you - does anyone know where I can get some cloning done - I wanna take a small bit of everyone nice on here and have someone created especially for me!!!

DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

Thanks Poppy, it did get me down but if someone can be so narrow-minded and not see beyond the number of children I have then it's their loss. I'm not looking for a dad for my kids at all, it'll be nice if they regarded whoever as a friend, someone that shares the good and bad times with mum and gives me love and shares in my laughter but in 6 years or so my children are all going to be independent and I don't want to face a future alone. If you understand what I mean, it's lonely at night sometimes, when something good happens I have nobody to share it with other than the kids and to be honest, it may not mean as much to them. I'm rambling so I'll stop there!

RE: new to all this

who's kidding, lets get my book of shadows out and see what we can conjure up - Lily do you want Patrick Swayze tonight or that other one - and remember the benefit is that they only last 24 hours so make the time count!!!

RE: new to all this

Hi Lily, don't go expecting me to fly my broomstick tonight because it's not a full moon!!! LOL

RE: new to all this

Hi and welcome, hope you have fun here because I do!!