mindfful Forum Posts (18,996)

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

so in the end rather than daft we are elevated because we seek to punish ourselves?

thats convenient

so even tho we are insane we are to be held up as martyrs and saints?


hmmmm


i like it

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

that is a question for the ages my man

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

well that was fun


see yas

RE: any cross dressers out there

that depends
did he look cute and did you guys do it while he was wearing it?

RE: any cross dressers out there

ive dated a few


mmmmmbest of all worlds

SEE YA JAC

im off to the races

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

he is resting up

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

mmmmmmmm

i know they are here but ive yet to find a reallly really good one in chicago

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

QUOTE JEEPERS

I feel fortunate that even though I wasted a lot of time and brain cells back in the day, I was doing it while the drugs and hallucinogenics were good. Where you couldn't feel your face when you did a snort of coke and you ran and hid under the bed while on an acid trip. Yeeee-Ha !


Oh ! I forgot to mention, I also feel fortunate that I made it out alive and no longer find that lifestyle appealing. i laughed but also i say amen and amen

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

some days yer luck is in i guess hello dearie

RE: Priorities...

this is CS at its best

learning about each other and sharing the truth of us

thanks for sharing that sass-i never knew that

ive not lost a child to death but it seemed like it for 14 years

i had no one to share it with and i know its what often tears a marriage apart

im sorry you had to go through this but im glad when people share -it gives me hope that such things are survivable

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

i did thats what the problem is


hi langley

im just in mail a bit and then bed but hey

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

i am going to say one more time what i said at least 3 times already

i am not angry

i did not speak against amity

i dont know how to be more clear

i explained i spoke on me and my feelings

for everyone to ignore what i said i said and what i said i meant is really silly isnt it?

once again more was made of a comment than needed to be by a number of people and that is what inhibits free speech around here

and i think it sucks

i mean the least we can do a stranger is extend the benefit of the doubt when they attempt to clarify rather than hold them hostage to what we are so sure they meant

this is supposed to be a place of friendship-
why not believe someone when they say they were misunderstood?

i chose amitys post to respond to, and i felt i responded in a clear and rather non personal way because i felt safe to speak on that topic in response to her.

that was a misfire on my part and i wont presume such a notion again.

but after explaining myself 2 or 3 times i feel its unfairr for people to keep insisting she was wronged in some way and paint me in such a light.

communication is impossible when you all insist basically that im a liar. im here to communicate and share myself not be labeled and boxed up according to the needs and presumptions of others.

i mean isnt that what we all hope for?

why is clear communication seen here as an attack or rude? why cant we just talk to each other?

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

this is what i mean

other peoples feelings are not doing anything to you

youre not a victim and i am not victimizing you

ive not done anything to you

i talked about me and my feelings

YOU made it about you and insist on doing so even after that was explained

you are doing something to me in fact


by making me some attacker

but you cant see it

its very very sad

and i cannot fix it

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

im not upset by amity

and she shouldnt be upset by me

apparently i did a really poor job of expressing myself since she is so hateful in my mailbox and you 2 smart women also misunderstood me

so i was not as clear in my posting as i had hoped and for that i suppose i owe an apology

but i will say i am so sick of having to speak in some perfect languaging lest someone take it as an attack

it almost doesnt seem worth the effort to post

for me i am a flow of consciousness person

so maybe trying to talk to strangers is unsuccessful since they have no frame of reference for my personality and mode of expression

but i want beating her up

in fact i was using her post as a point of reference really but i guess i failed at making that clear

so much for my fun thread

goodnight people

i give up

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

dont start this with me again

i do not exist for you to use in front of an audience as some beast that is hurting you

i speak about me and my feelings and i have every right to do so

sometimes yes as you illustrated in the past with your goodbye thread

we can be sensitive and feel hurt by peoples posts

most days i find, for me that is more about me than the other person

thats why i use the word i use

like I FEEL...

so you see I FEEL upset is not an invitation to come and crap on me and make what I FEEL all about you amity and then begin a poor amity is being attacked campaign

my feelings are mine and are about me, please do not hijack them for some other use

when i say i am feeling hurt that means i am responsible for my feelings

if i want to say you hurt me i will write someone

thats how i have always been here

i am sorry you found reason to be ugly towards me because you didnt like my post

i do feel really brought down when people say ugly snarky stuff like that in the middle of some laughter in a thread but thats how I FEEL-its not a judgement on who is right or wrong-cuz feelings arent right or wrong-they are feelings

and no i most certainly was not judging you-i was extremely careful to be claer on that in the language i chose but seems you have decided i am some problem in your life and as absolutely sad as that makes me i am not gonna keep beggin to love you.

i am going to learn to be comfortable being myself regardless of ehat you try to twist it into-and you means all any and the entire world of you

so wish me luck as sadly my friggin life is so damn intertwined in my sense of being accepted its a miracle ive not killed myself by now

RE: Priorities...

hi morgan



xx


ambrose we dont know stuff til we know it ya know?

my life was indeed inappropriately focused on my kids and they became responsible for my emotional life and that is wrong


period

and if we have no other interactions that is what will inevitably happen

but yes im often a bad guy for talking about my own experience strength and hope

but i was the same
couldnt tell me a damn thing

when we are lonely and we have no other relationships we will relate to those available

'bonding' over our pain w/ our children is wrong-but at the time it seems amazing

me and my kids were a tribe - over 20 yrs i was a single mom

my poor boys

but i did the best i could with what i knew and today i know a little better and do a little better-this is how it works

my kids are my priority but my relationship to myself is primary to any other relationship i may have

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

maaybe its what you perceive as gossiping that is part of what makes them happy

isnt this comment of yours in itself gossip?
im never clear really on exactly what gossip is maybe.

but to find it entertaining i guess is ok if you arent proclaiming happiness?

im a very confused person
im very sensitive and frankly your comment hurt my feelings

im happy and im a mess at the same time

but i am glad i dont go about judging people here
as so often, even on this dumb website i end up crying from feeling judged and rejected so would never want to cause someone else to feel this way

i feel very very sad all of a sudden

RE: Priorities...

if we are 'right' it follows naturally that the kids will be also


hiiiiiii you

RE: Priorities...

maybe all i mean to say is that i made my kids my priority really and in a good healthy way when i made myself my priority

i am so glad i didnt teach my daughter that the only way to love someone is to sacrifice yourself

cuz i dont want her treating herself that way

that attitude permeates everything- what we will tolerate in a job or in a friendship or love relationship

thank god i started learning to be well by the last kids arrival

one seems to be starting adulthood healthy while the older ones, despite my best intentions are 30 and trying to undo their misinformation so they can be peaceful and appropriate in relationships



the best thing is -today we can all talk about it and they know i went from sick to well-ish-
they were there and saw it
so they do take a bit of advice while they seek their own balance because they know i know

RE: Priorities...

ambrose is right

the primary relationship
the foundation of the household must be sturdy

i mean sure many partnerships are faulty or worse- but we are all only talking generally pretty much

so yes the couple who care for and model behavior for
the children



when i was a mom w/ young ones i made them the priority but there is a difference in priority and primary

single parents can become inappropriately involved with their children

i know this is an unpopular topic so i am not uncomfortable speaking only about myself and admitting my mistakes

i learned that sometimes single moms rely on their kids for allll of their emotional and social life.

i know i did. as the kids got older it was really inappropriate for a few reasons- and i was adrift and almost resentful, but certainly my feelings were hurt when they began to develop properly and build little lives for themselves-as they should from about age 11 on

i participated in counseling because of the imbalance my well meaning love caused- and they came too and were given permission to understand their feelings and for me to get mt self right.

also as a young woman in recovery from addictive behavior davpk hit it on the head

it is a selfish program-if we dont take care of us we cant give anything of quality away-i dont care how well meaning we are.
if we have any destructive behaviors borne of any degree of self loathing we cannot truly give a message to children about self love and we are where they will consciously or unconsciously learn allllll they operate from

what we model-the spoken and the unspoken is the information they get. i have learned many hard lessons.

but we are all survived so far

RE: Priorities...

good girl

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

precisely what makes me a failure as a woman

the rabbiting

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

theres a good lad

off ya go then

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

you are too completely weird

and it works for you

RE: Living Proof...

every year i forget your anniversary cuz its the day before my birthday and im busy bein greedy

yep-you guys have a year on mickey and me and it is ALWAYS inspiring to hear from you

we arent too old and we arent too set in our ways
if we are really in want of that which we say

we can love and patience is born of desire

yay for us-
those attached and those yet to be attached-
for love is inevitable



happy anniversary you guys

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

its something you cant help

i think its your attempt at reverse psychology

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

i knooooooow


my comment was in response to him saying females are evil

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

and yet you are drawn as the proverbial moth to the female flame

please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

the timing of this comment was perhaps the best i have ever seen in my entire online career


female guidance on content

after a reference to pegging



you are priceless dear col

a gem thats been left too long on the shelf