I think I agree a lot with what you say healer4you. I think that there could be a lot of moments one could feel bored, ashamed or even annoyed with the other person if there is a huge intellectual gap. But other way I don't need the educational level to be equal. But for my own country - I would find a high-school diploma necessary. In other circumstances could be that I wouldn't care. It all depends. But I find it important feeling free to express yourself with someone, and like most of the ways he/she is.
I believe I was a baby. Have a 3,5year older sister. In 6th grade a boy from my class kicked me in the intimate place. Don't need to add I did not cry when he broke his leg soon after...
When was a first time you did think you thought you really could kill another person? (Why?)
of course I wouldn't discard the person based on the hair only. Some people pay huge amount of money to have their hair permanently removed, so if other things are o'right, why not?
Would you date a woman/girl who voluntarily cut her hair to 3mm - I did that once years ago. I looked like prisoner & it still did not scare all of the guys :)
Very not likely. There are no many situations I could imagine marrying someone in jail. Unless I knew him before the event, I loved him already that time, I know or strongly believe he is innocent. Or I consider his "crime" not a crime at all due to moral reasons, e.g. political prisoner. Someone with a history? Not very keen but it would depend on history (the crime, the age it was committed, the circumstances, … lot of factors). But I did hire a person for a garden work in my Mum garden who recently left the prison.
I know/knew few people with criminal record. Someone who as a teen steals car radios to buy the coil/wood for a winter in order to warm up his depressed mum and handicaped brother when it's -20C outside - is a victim of circumstances. Would not discard someone like that just because of criminal record. But for reasons of a lot of other differences it's not likely I would date him or meet him.
Well, I think it's a lot about how you and your partner set the rules with kids. I want my kid to obey my future partner/man the same way as he obeys caregivers in pre-school, or other family members when I or his father are not present. If I or his father is present we are the one to decide as the parents. It requires however me supporting the decisions of my future ex and him understanding that I have the right to make some decisions without him being asked for opinion. It also requires me to keep his decisions valid and teaching my child to respect them. If he has a child it goes the same way.
I have actually a friend, whose 7 years old daughter asked once her partner if she can call him daddy. And now she has a daddy Adam, and daddy Marc. And there is no need to decide who she is going to listen to. She listen to Mom or any of her dad's. Whoever is present to make the decision.
But she is a peculiar child and the partner of my friend is really being like a father to her, but living the leading to her original father whenever this one is present.
To start: the man should have some plan for a date :).
Not a plan to take me to bed (I mean he can think about it, why not? ;) ) but what I mean is that I see he took his time to think what he would like us to do: booked a table in a restaurant, checked where to go to dance, checked expositions available this evening, booked the tickets for opera, etc. He should let me know in advance the general idea of what kind of activities to expect so I won't appear in 7cm high-heels when he planes long walk of sightseeing, or in trekking shoes and jeans we are going to symphonic orchestra concert. Something like "please, wear comfy shoes, and get some rain jacket - it may rain" or "evening outfit would be the best".
Then, he should not get too stressed if I turn all his ideas down because either I have a new one, a headache, or because we have such great time talking that we sit down in the first coffee/restaurant and sit there for hours. Ok, I won't turn down the plans he already payed a lot of money for, like opera, or rock star concert.
It would be awesome to feel I don't have to pretend to be someone else, think all the time "do I look good?" or control myself "what would he think if I say that?", and see he is the same way. Simply himself. So, feeling I am o'right as I am and he likes me that way. And it's not about staring. Feel free to stare at me if you think I am gorgeous. Just let me know that's the reason. Otherwise I could suspect that's the parsley in between my teeth. ;)
So simply be there and enjoy the time together whatever we do that at some point we will just realize: hey, it's 2am! we should sleep a little :)
Of course, there are some other "minimum requirements". But they are just a base.
It all depends on what are you talking about. Someone cheating on you is different from someone not appearing for a date cos the child got fever, or from someone forgetting to buy the milk for the morning coffee.
In some cases I like the number 3. I guess. But sometimes I would be done after 1. And sometimes, I would reconsider if it's the person action really so bad or it's me too demanding. Sometimes it's really nothing important, it's just our perspective and maybe it's who needs to change.
In general it's a question of how long you feel yourself that it's still worth to be patient and forgiving.
I don't want any man to say that and putting upon me the pressure. I want first to have an opportunity to get know him without feeling I am in the casting of "who is going to become my wife?". I want the man to ask to marry me and be a mother of his kids when the time comes. I am not saying I will. I am not saying I won't :) But for the time being I want him to be real person. Someone whom I would like to meet. He doesn't have to impress me, lure me with marriage and perfect family ilusion, pay me compliments or fell in love with me without seeing my picture. He just needs to be a human being with a brain and soul he can use when writing/mailing/chatting/meeting me.
of course I would tell him, unless he would be married or so. I think each of us are obliged to try to be happy and go for love when it's there, He could be in love with me and asking himself the same question. Would be terrible to let the love go by because of fear.
is, when years pass by and you know you can count on him/her entirely, you don't have to pretend being someone else and you feel you are loved for who you are, you know you can express yourself about any subject without fear or uneasiness, you still like his/her sense of humor, and you still get excited about this person so you want to be intimate together. And you see yourself getting old with this person and being happy no matter the age.
At the beginning I thought it is. Now I think it's not rude if the email is a copy-paste email or smell like scam. Protect yourself from scammers and gamblers.
I felt in love with one of my professors at Uni. He in his 40ties, me 19… We become lovers/couple for some time after I graduated. Loved a lot things about him.
Hey, at least one. I am a woman and I met one guy in reality :) And I am not into monthly writing with someone who could happen to be the person I am looking for. Meeting in reality is the only way to find out. So good luck to you :)
Hey, at least one. I am a woman and I met one guy in reality :) And I am not into monthly writing with someone who could happen to be the person I am looking for. Meeting in reality is the only way to find out. So good luck to you :)
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If you have an university degree would you marry a person with less then 6years of schooling?
I think I agree a lot with what you say healer4you.I think that there could be a lot of moments one could feel bored, ashamed or even annoyed with the other person if there is a huge intellectual gap.
But other way I don't need the educational level to be equal. But for my own country - I would find a high-school diploma necessary. In other circumstances could be that I wouldn't care. It all depends.
But I find it important feeling free to express yourself with someone, and like most of the ways he/she is.