sounds awesome. only that this one is already in the iron pot with veggies to become the broth. Can I do the all stuffing backing stuff after cooking? I kind of doubt if that could change anything if all the bird is already cooked?
I don't cary any card. If I remember well my american driving license states that I am. Anyway, my ex and my family know that I am ok with donation for saving other people life. But still not for donation for a medical research.
I am also ok, with organ donation of my child. I just wish the moment never comes. Yet, I thought about it a lot last summer. And I announced it to all family before I took my Kid for a trip to my home-country and crossed it all. So I made my mind to avoid the doubts or letting the pain influence my decision in case that would happen. Of course his father has say, too.
Yes, it would be good to get to the "friendship" level, especially if you have a kid in common. If there are no kids, and the other person did hurt you badly - why to bother? It will never be real friendship if there were such negative emotions.
But the 2 of the 3 I consider I know a little better, know I am writing with others, somehow it appeared in the conversation. And it never has been a secret. Moreover I am pretty sure they are chatting with other women. (in one case I know) Till the moment we will become a couple I find nothing wrong with any of us doing it. And even once we become a serious couple I would probably not request to stop this if the person simply changes his status. I bet to say that few of those people we met here may turn into great friends, even if we eventually date someone else :)
By the way, most of the request are from guys we exchanged one or no emails! So, I wouldn't say we are "friends".
So, I just realized I have some "friends request" pending. I am not going to add any of them to my friend list at that point. If we are writing together, or I met or am planning to meet you, that means we are already on friends level, no need to tell the World we are.
And now, why do you people add other people to your friends? I am keeping in touch with, let's say 3 guys. I would say each of them is smart and therefore aware I could be writing with few others, but they don't know who those others are. Assuming I would add each of them to my friend list, they may get the most stupid idea of comparing themselves to others (either how toll/fit they are, what profession they have, etc), which is not advisable. I don't want any of them lose the self-confidence, or feel better than the other guys I am writing with, or get jealous and so on. And if we did had a date, that's still too early to tell the whole World about it.
So you, who are/were looking for dating or more. Why and when did you add the people to your "friends"?
Actually, I had several situations that the girls were flirting with me but I did not notice! (yeah, I am blind sometimes) I thought they were simply nice so I was nice too. However my ex-boyfriend was really pissed off with those situations.
I think it all depends if the person would be of any interest of mine. I know from childhood I am interested in guys. I've never been the type of girl holding hand of other girl, and the only time a woman kissed me (university times) I felt disgusted. Yet, I lived 2 months by my other friend and her family. When I left I missed her terribly. There was a moment I started to wonder if I miss her as a friend or not only. Weird thought. Since I am older now I more relaxed about the subject. And if I would feel physically attracted to some woman flirting with me… it would be a miracle :), which I wouldn't turn down easily, unless I would be in a relation.
If I wouldn't be interested I would simply let her know that I am into guys without the need to be rude or hurt her.
I know perfectly what I want. But, I don't have SO MANY expectations from the guy.
In short:
I want we share the goals and values for us as a family, and moral values as individuals. I want we not only love each other but most important like, trust and feel good in the company of each other. We agree to and respect the right and need for both company and privacy, unity as the family and individualism of its members. We do all what's necessary to be there for each other when needed. When things go wrong we are way more into finding solutions than into blaming. We see, appreciate and price the effort of each family member. I want we feel free, welcomed and confident to express ourselves, without the fear of being judged. It's important that over the time we continue to be happy with our intimate live so we need to feel loved and accepted to openly talk about it and work on it when needed. I want to share my life with someone who values his work, does it well and if possible feels satisfied about it but knows it's mostly a mean to provide good quality life for him and his family so he knows how to find the balance.
I want that our joy, craziness and butterflies have solid fundaments. So we enjoy the great weather but we have trust we are prepared for storms and are going to face them together.
There are too options. (a) she is interested in you and she giving you direct clues. Maybe you were immune to the tiny ones she tried previously so she decided to be more direct. Or she is simply direct person. (b) she sees you are not most confident and not very straight forward and she is teasing you/having fun.
Any of both are not that bad if she is being nice and knows the limit. And both of you are enjoying it. The issue is that in first case you do need to know if you are interested or not, think about consequences, and keep in mind that you are not going to know for sure what she means till you make the move. If she is interested and you make a move, can happen "happily ever after". Yet if she isn't and she is your manager, well… could turn to some bad work environment. The same if she is interested, you are not, then you need to be very careful as how to deal with it. The wounded pride of your manager wouldn't be sth good.
In the second case, you need to set the limits, and do it with all elegance and tact possible. See the "wounded pride…"
Being on your place I would never go to interpret her behavior or answer her questions the way mollybaby suggested. (gain "wounded manager…"). Also, if she is really interested in you I wouldn't put it in "lack of class" box. "Class" is way overrated. It's pretending that you don't care about things you care a lot (marriage, status, money, etc.). I rather have people stating clear their expectations (like she telling you she wants to get married and have kids) than pretending they are someone else, etc. Of course she could be more elegant, wait till you both feel you are on friendly level and so on. But maybe she already was and you did not notice. We were not there, we can not say.
Personally, I like to know if the man is looking for next girlfriend or he is interested in having family. Good if our expectations meet. Why to waist time on someone whose expectations / plans for the future are not matching or getting close to my own?
:) Yes, definitely. However. Few meetings or so it's still not saying it will turn into a couple having 7 kids and so on. But who knows? ;) (7, did I say 7 this time??? I should have said 1 more or… ;) )
I believe that each of the few guys I write with could turn to be very interesting in reality, which I would love to meet at least more than once. I mean even from writing I can say that. Meeting would not necessary mean dating as chemistry is something one can not really predict. And being interesting and chemistry is also not enough as the real live can bring surprises one is not expecting to face. But :(. I can not meet everyone, less date.
From the countries which are not mine origin country I lived already in USA (MA-loved it), Spain (Cataluna y Andalucia - loved it, but August in Andaucia is way too hot for me), South of France (loved it loved it, loved it), … now I am in Germany trying to see if I will stay here. Had opportunity to go to Singapur and Emirates. Visited Singapur and it is way too hot there for me. At some point though about settling down in Canada. Montreal was such a great mix between US and Europe. Definitely loved it.
I would love to go to south Korea (to learn Korean and cooking korean dishes), also Vietnam (love vietnamese food). I liked people and food in Greece, Italy, Morocco so could live in each of the countries for few months. I would love to learn Russian one day - so could spend few months in St Petersburg, thought of studying there as a child and would love to visit it at least. The only problem is that I am tired of moving (still remember the last one) and starting everything from zero each time. So I would love first to have a place called home, place I would belong to, place I could always come back to and feel home. Than I can travel, even for long, again.
I was always a little more tomboy (as a child I wanted to be an astronaut, had physical fights with my siblings, I was the best in climbing trees and picking the best fruits, and one of the best throwing knife) then a little princess, which I was in a lot of ways (I did ballet for example, loved poetry, always loved dresses and white porcelain, and I was stealing make-up things from my mom and sister). I was always on the border of being naughty, but the same way avoiding trouble as much as possible. I did skip each year whole month of June of classes in order to spend the time by the lake, yet my mom never learned about it, and my teacher never learned that it was me who was writing the notes how sick I was. From other side I never smoked, willingly took drugs, or bullied kids, etc.
However, we have no total control over someones imagination and feelings. If I write you I like you, I could mean just that. So you can interpret it any way you wish. In general "like you" means "I like the ways you are". Could be that after we met I would write you "I like you" and you would assume that I am saying "sorry, but that's all, there is nothing more" and you would start to date other girls, although I would meant I find you special or I am falling for you but don't want to scare you. Another time, the moment you would interpret it as I am falling in love with you, I could actually say "there is nothing more" an date other guys I also like. So it's not only about what is said but also about other signs we give, and the ways we give them.
If we intentionally give signs which have a meanings, or could leave to certain interpretation, the person can feel you were not honest with her although you never "said that".
No idea. I don't really care what people talk about. I wish you luck. And being brave to go for what you want. Because who, who is happy himself, cares what people say?
So follow your instinct and be wise. You are 27. Ask yourself what you want from live and relation and if that matches with what he wants from life and relation, go for it. If not - leave it. Living in a small town has a lot of social disadvantages. People talk. Why to get into trouble just for an adventure or romance? If you have 5 relations with guys your age people would not care, just one relation but with 20 years older man which will end up without "happy ending" will stay in their minds for ever. And not in a good way probably. Peoples imagination is simply living on suspicions.
But, if you both are serious about each other, your long term expectations matches, that's definitely worth a try.
My red light turns on when I date someone who doesn't do any of that. In the culture I come from that's not old fashion but a good education you get at home. It's simply what guys do and I can not see it other way around. Unless the man carries heavy box for which he needs both hands so it's me who helps with the door.
But ok, you don't really need to kiss my hand anymore. Unless we both wish that. That is old fashion. However, you would be expected to kiss the hand of older ladies. "Basic educations", we call it. Social skills.
If you do need to give me something on the first date - and yeah, I like to be spoiled - why don't you give me the Corvette ZR1? ;) Saw a program about it yesterday and felt in love :)))
But no. Roses on the first date?… not necessary. I am not that romantic type although I love to receive flowers. With and without reasons. Still, the first date - could be too much. And I prefer tulips. One beautiful. Or better a bunch of beautiful tulips :). But that once I date you another time. If you would want to give me sth on the first date - make it light or funny. Mini chocolate bonbons to eat them together would be better.
So, I am baking for the dinner 3 doradas. That is for me and my lovely 16mo old son. Hoping that leftovers will be enough to feed us tomorrow without need of cooking. The lovely son, since he got home ate a pear, plate of pumpking curry, and a piece of chocolate and right now a bottle of milk because HE IS STARVING and ALL NEIGHBOURHOOD NEEDS TO KNOW THAT, which means he is not going to touch the fish.
No need to add that since I am baking the stuff in a huge paella pan I added like a kg of potatoes, some carrots, onion, etc.
So now I have no-one to share it with. Everyone is going to Haloween party.
Anyone willing to bring a bottle of good dry wine and eat it all with me? Serving in 10 minutes :)
I met two men. I liked them in some ways before we met. Both turned out to be even nicer / smarter / ... than I expected. Since we continue to keep in touch on more or less personal level I believe that meeting in person was a very good idea.
With two oter I spoke over the phone. Talking over the phone really woke up my interest in one case, did not in other.
But all four turned out to be a people I thought they were, which was very nice :)
and 11 days to my birthday :) No flights booked so far, but that's somtehing what could change. Last week I booked flight on Monday and on Tuesday I was in Poland. Bali could be even more fun especially that the winter is really comming. i turned on heating last weekend. :(
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Anyone can give me a good advice on the guinea-fowl stock?
sounds awesome.only that this one is already in the iron pot with veggies to become the broth.
Can I do the all stuffing backing stuff after cooking?
I kind of doubt if that could change anything if all the bird is already cooked?