No truer words can be spoken. And nobody else can figure it out either....they are just so...so....emotional. But we need them and love them just the same.
Actually, KHD has a good point here about the giving stuff. My step mom was like that, loved kids, adopted them and just gave and gave and she never got what she needed back. It hurt her so bad that it finally drove her to alcoholism and she became one of the wandering lost in the streets. She abandoned her entire life, her marriage, her children...everything. Just carried this burden of pain and hurt. We found out when the police contacted one of my brothers because they found her purse or something behind a dumpster in some alleyway where the street people hang out. Apparently she was known to the police and had been picked up many times and taken to the drunk tank.
So yeah, you have to figure it out. If she is otherwise a good mother, good partner then it may be worth your while to really work on it. If you start going to counseling, she may resist now, but she may also join you later. No effort goes unrewarded in some way. Lots of women have minds that change like the weather, what they say one day, isn't necessarily what they say the next day.
That is why some of us are here, we screwed it up but learned from it. Well at least I hope I did anyway.
We are all going to the same destination, no matter what. Those who are fighting over religion are fighting over nothing more than the colour of the car they are going to ride in to get there.
My question too....why not live and let live and ride in whatever colour of car you like.
yeah..well I did say that Alberta was sort of feeling the pinch. From where I live here in BC and North, the EI rate is 13.5%...well it could be higher if we take in the number that quit looking for jobs...and this is BC...sigh.
I didn't abandon it...it just never answered the question I still have. I started reading the bible...Genesis where Adam and Eve left the garden of Eden...they had two sons and Cain killed Able..or Able killed Cain...but the question never answered is "Then what happened?" And then the other question is " Where did those other people come from?". The other thing that sort of caught my attention was when somebody hit me over the head with a T-Rex leg bone...and none of it made sense after that. I said this bible must be flawed.
And then I was Pagan and gave up Christianity. And it all made sense after that day.
Okay...so this is multiple choice right? I do better at those tests. Sanity? 1 in 4? I love the old Alice Cooper does that count as sanity....cause if it doesn't, then it's me alright. I just knew this was some kind of bad dream....I just knew it.
I read a bit of it, there is quite a lot there. But very interesting some of it into the minds of people. I bookmarked it and will go back and read more later.
I quite agree with you. Alberta is not as bad off as the rest of the country. However, I think it is in some trades but in others, jobs have been reduced. Saskatchewan is a mystery and yes, there is work there. I've been checking it out myself however nothing in my skill field. Most from what I can see are trades, millwrights, electricians and what have you.
The bottom line though and to answer the OP, it is probably best to wait as we are all fighting over what jobs there are out there. 1000 people and a guy from Ireland all fighting over a job does lower our odds a tad. In another year we will be booming again and jobs will be everywhere!
Give it about a year. If you have a trade you will be in a much better position. I'll let you in on a little secret, Canada is very short of skilled workers and in some cases just plain workers. Just to give you an idea of how chronic the shortage of workers is here, when the Alberta oilfields are booming, they fly workers in from Newfoundland to work the oilfields simply because there is not enough people to fill the need of jobs in Western Canada.
During boom times, which will come back, Canada actively promotes immigration to this country abroad to fill it's job needs. My suggestion would be to go to the Canadian Embassy in Ireland and start talking with them now, see what they say. Tell them what you want to do and work on building the road to here. Granted at the moment, we are hurting like the rest of the world, but when recovery comes as it surely will, with Canada being a resource based country, we will be one of the first to start recovering. Already that is starting to happen...slowly, but it is happening.
Funny thing though is that most people I meet that came here to work for a couple of years never seem to want to leave, no matter what we put them through.I worked with a guy from Britain in 1984 that came to work for a couple of years, he is still here. We can't seem to send him back and we tried. But he just kicked, screamed and carried on like some kind of lunatic when we bound and gagged him and took him to the airport. We had no choice but to let him go. So don't say I didn't warn you.
I keep telling people life is simple, but they never believe me. And KHD has the answer to life's complications...right here. Amazing how it works for a lot of things!
A letting go party? Mmm...well I don't really need an excuse for a party, but if I did, that would be a good one. So, where are we all meeting for this 'blast out the past' thing anyway?
Yeah, thermostat is a good place to start. Every car I ever owned that had heating problems it was always the thermostat. Well except for one which a heater was optional equipment but so were body panels and headlights.
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RE: no more love
No truer words can be spoken. And nobody else can figure it out either....they are just so...so....emotional.Actually, KHD has a good point here about the giving stuff. My step mom was like that, loved kids, adopted them and just gave and gave and she never got what she needed back. It hurt her so bad that it finally drove her to alcoholism and she became one of the wandering lost in the streets. She abandoned her entire life, her marriage, her children...everything. Just carried this burden of pain and hurt. We found out when the police contacted one of my brothers because they found her purse or something behind a dumpster in some alleyway where the street people hang out. Apparently she was known to the police and had been picked up many times and taken to the drunk tank.
So yeah, you have to figure it out. If she is otherwise a good mother, good partner then it may be worth your while to really work on it. If you start going to counseling, she may resist now, but she may also join you later. No effort goes unrewarded in some way. Lots of women have minds that change like the weather, what they say one day, isn't necessarily what they say the next day.
That is why some of us are here, we screwed it up but learned from it. Well at least I hope I did anyway.
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